Men who date younger but unable to perform

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I am a man in my 50s. As long as I don't drink, I almost always get it up. I can do it twice a day if I haven't done it the day before. I also last a long time. In my younger days, I didn't need a woman to touch me first. Now unusually do.

Sex is easier with attractive women who still get very lubricated, which means pre menopausal women are more likely to be satisfying partners. I've also had amazing experiences with women in their late 50s and 60s.

Condoms sometimes me from finishing, especially with women who are looser physically. Bare skin feels and works a lot better.

Some Okimoto brand condoms work better for me because they tend to be thinner, but some from that company are too small for me. For the brands most popular in the national drugstore chains, Skyn are probably best for me.

I don't discuss this with other men so I don't know whether my sex drive is different from most men's my age. Women don't usually talk about this either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a very common problem and increasing. It's a side effect from having cardiovascular disease, and a significant amount of men in the US have it - wife of cardiologist here. Date younger.

+1. Medications also contribute.

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What are “size three tits?”

I need to know.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a man in my 50s. As long as I don't drink, I almost always get it up. I can do it twice a day if I haven't done it the day before. I also last a long time. In my younger days, I didn't need a woman to touch me first. Now unusually do.

Sex is easier with attractive women who still get very lubricated, which means pre menopausal women are more likely to be satisfying partners. I've also had amazing experiences with women in their late 50s and 60s.

Condoms sometimes me from finishing, especially with women who are looser physically. Bare skin feels and works a lot better.

Some Okimoto brand condoms work better for me because they tend to be thinner, but some from that company are too small for me. For the brands most popular in the national drugstore chains, Skyn are probably best for me.

I don't discuss this with other men so I don't know whether my sex drive is different from most men's my age. Women don't usually talk about this either.

They do but to each other, not the men.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a very common problem and increasing. It's a side effect from having cardiovascular disease, and a significant amount of men in the US have it - wife of cardiologist here. Date younger.

hahahhaa I love when wives claim their husbands' training and education. You have no credibility here, dear.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

I call troll. Likely a man posting.

Yup, size 3??? I'm a woman and have never heard another woman use that terminology.

Definitely a troll. Why does an active 40s woman with money of her own who works out on average over 2 hours a day want to date an early 60s man with a heart condition?

[Anonymous]

Biggest problem here is that you guys think sex outside marriage is okay 🙁

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

Why do you want a long-term partner and marriage? Many women our age find that the companionship of other women is preferable to men. Also, women outlive men, so if you marry someone your age or older, statistically, you're signing up to be his caretaker and then dying alone. If you invest the same amount of time into developing close friendships with other women, then you'll have a support network that is more likely to last you into your old age. You can have men for friendship and sex, but anything more is generally a losing proposition once you're in your 40s or beyond.

Marriage is the only legit way for fulfilling your sexual desires. Everything else is a sin

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

Why do you want a long-term partner and marriage? Many women our age find that the companionship of other women is preferable to men. Also, women outlive men, so if you marry someone your age or older, statistically, you're signing up to be his caretaker and then dying alone. If you invest the same amount of time into developing close friendships with other women, then you'll have a support network that is more likely to last you into your old age. You can have men for friendship and sex, but anything more is generally a losing proposition once you're in your 40s or beyond.

Marriage is the only legit way for fulfilling your sexual desires. Everything else is a sin

I'm glad church lady is here!
Even self pleasuring?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

Lack of condom use is a huge red flag. Date men your own age.

“Date your own age” is easier said than done over a certain age.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.

+100

Wouldn’t be surprised if a weird and aggressive and demanding vibe from OP is part of the problem here.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

You don't have to prove anything to us! You're absolutely gorgeous. Most of the women on DCUM are similarly gorgeous, just check out other threads. Everything about your is "flawless," even your personality. Those men are damn lucky you're deigning to give them a chance.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

Why do you want a long-term partner and marriage? Many women our age find that the companionship of other women is preferable to men. Also, women outlive men, so if you marry someone your age or older, statistically, you're signing up to be his caretaker and then dying alone. If you invest the same amount of time into developing close friendships with other women, then you'll have a support network that is more likely to last you into your old age. You can have men for friendship and sex, but anything more is generally a losing proposition once you're in your 40s or beyond.

Exactly. Men are gross! I've never figured out why any woman would want to date a man. I just don't understand it. Just get a bunch of women friends. Maybe you'll develop a special connection with one, and then you'll have the best of both words (romance with a woman!!).

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

Why do you want a long-term partner and marriage? Many women our age find that the companionship of other women is preferable to men. Also, women outlive men, so if you marry someone your age or older, statistically, you're signing up to be his caretaker and then dying alone. If you invest the same amount of time into developing close friendships with other women, then you'll have a support network that is more likely to last you into your old age. You can have men for friendship and sex, but anything more is generally a losing proposition once you're in your 40s or beyond.

Marriage is the only legit way for fulfilling your sexual desires. Everything else is a sin

I'm glad church lady is here!
Even self pleasuring?

She just wants to save our souls, don't you know

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

I call troll. Likely a man posting.

Yup, size 3??? I'm a woman and have never heard another woman use that terminology.

Definitely a troll. Why does an active 40s woman with money of her own who works out on average over 2 hours a day want to date an early 60s man with a heart condition?

😂😂😂
So true