Hookup Culture

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

I have two college sons who are D1 athletes at P4 schools. They told me that they are sleeping with different women every few days because women want them. Many of these women get passed around by athletes. My sons told me they will sleep with these women, but no serious relationship with them because of their sexual activities.

is this in the South? no surprise that women like the BMOCs/jocks, but it is somewhat disheartening that women are acting this way. Personally would not want my athlete sons going to a school where the women are not looking to get to know them as people, not objects - hard pass imo

[Anonymous]

Be sure that she knows to use a condom each time, because who knows how many other women (or men) these guys are also hooking up with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

That depends on how honest you are, and how early in the relationship.

This. I’m yet to meet a reasonable decent man that would knowingly want to marry a girl who has lived it up with 30+ guys in college…

How would he tell?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

That depends on how honest you are, and how early in the relationship.

This. I’m yet to meet a reasonable decent man that would knowingly want to marry a girl who has lived it up with 30+ guys in college…

How would he tell?

That is why I sad “knowingly”. But sure go ahead. if you want to build a marriage on deceit than sure go head. IF you dont think it is a big deal, then why not be honest with the person you are planning on spending the next 75 years with….

[Anonymous]

Encourage her to be diligent with protection. A friends's daughter ended up with herpes from hook ups.

[Anonymous]

And regular gyn checks

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Anonymous wrote:Encourage her to be diligent with protection. A friends's daughter ended up with herpes from hook ups.

A guy I worked with at my summer job ended up with herpes from hookups. He got really sick.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

I have two college sons who are D1 athletes at P4 schools. They told me that they are sleeping with different women every few days because women want them. Many of these women get passed around by athletes. My sons told me they will sleep with these women, but no serious relationship with them because of their sexual activities.

is this in the South? no surprise that women like the BMOCs/jocks, but it is somewhat disheartening that women are acting this way. Personally would not want my athlete sons going to a school where the women are not looking to get to know them as people, not objects - hard pass imo

PP here. They are both at UVA.

[Anonymous]

I live in a college town and know women who were given date rape drugs. The more a women embraces the hookup culture the higher the risk of something bad happens.

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My DS is going to college in the fall and doesn’t not want to participate in hookup culture as he prefers longer relationships. Is this attitude dominant or is it mostly hookups?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS is going to college in the fall and doesn’t not want to participate in hookup culture as he prefers longer relationships. Is this attitude dominant or is it mostly hookups?

^doesn’t want to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

I have two college sons who are D1 athletes at P4 schools. They told me that they are sleeping with different women every few days because women want them. Many of these women get passed around by athletes. My sons told me they will sleep with these women, but no serious relationship with them because of their sexual activities.

Your sons sound vile. A lot of women don’t want men like this.

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I think people (men and women) who make that choice have low self esteem.

Would she consider counseling, just to work on herself generally?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS is going to college in the fall and doesn’t not want to participate in hookup culture as he prefers longer relationships. Is this attitude dominant or is it mostly hookups?

There is both. He would just need to take it slow with potential dates and see how they respond.

Just be sure all your adult kids know to use condoms with each sexual encounter, no matter whether they use birth control or not.

I found that women who did this in college quickly tired after the novelty wore off and slowed down.

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Anonymous wrote:hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

I have two college sons who are D1 athletes at P4 schools. They told me that they are sleeping with different women every few days because women want them. Many of these women get passed around by athletes. My sons told me they will sleep with these women, but no serious relationship with them because of their sexual activities.

is this in the South? no surprise that women like the BMOCs/jocks, but it is somewhat disheartening that women are acting this way. Personally would not want my athlete sons going to a school where the women are not looking to get to know them as people, not objects - hard pass imo

PP here. They are both at UVA.

Who the hell brags about their sons getting their dicks wet, AND names the school? 2 brothers, both athletes at UVA? I bet I could find who they are easily. Not sure they’d be happy about mommy bragging about their sexual exploits on the internet.