Hookup Culture

[Anonymous]

hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

[Anonymous]

It’s only a matter of time until that lady from the Family Planning Police checks in to deliver a post about the dangers of being promiscuous in a red state.

[Anonymous]

Is this a majority female school? They tend to have more hookup cultures because the men are hot commodities: she might think she is the one who is a hot commodity, because men are happy to sleep with her every weekend, and she thinks it is her “choice,” but the opposite is the case.

50-50 schools tend to have less of a hookup culture (though it still exists) and more of a dating culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a majority female school? They tend to have more hookup cultures because the men are hot commodities: she might think she is the one who is a hot commodity, because men are happy to sleep with her every weekend, and she thinks it is her “choice,” but the opposite is the case.

50-50 schools tend to have less of a hookup culture (though it still exists) and more of a dating culture.

I think that's true. My boys are at "prestigious" schools that are 50-50. Both have serious girlfriends. These are fairly small communities and I think dating and looking for a partner are more prevalent than hook-ups these days. It might be different at very large schools but I think this generation gravitates more toward relationships than prior generations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hooking up with a different guy every weekend? as in FULL hookup?

gross!

I have two college sons who are D1 athletes at P4 schools. They told me that they are sleeping with different women every few days because women want them. Many of these women get passed around by athletes. My sons told me they will sleep with these women, but no serious relationship with them because of their sexual activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

I would care if my son was a slut. Stop with the feminist “no one would care if it were a boy” crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

??! I would absolutely care if my son was hooking up every weekend. Are you saying you wouldn’t?!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

That depends on how honest you are, and how early in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

??! I would absolutely care if my son was hooking up every weekend. Are you saying you wouldn’t?!

I promise there are parents out there that would absolutely hate this and raise their sons to be gentleman.

[Anonymous]

^ I was agreeing with you, meant to quote other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Encourage safe sex and only being with people who are interested in the same things she's interested in. Don't aim for a ONS with a guy who is sensitive, a virgin, and wants a LTR, for example.

These same sensitive guys in their 30s, after they have had a few relationships and experience, have their pick of women between 20-40. And they deserve it. They only need wait it out a few years and the power dynamic totally changes…don’t feel sorry for them. As for OP’s DD, I do feel sorry for her.

[Anonymous]

When you say hook up, do you mean actual sex, or just making out?

I knew a lot of girls who were making out with different guys every weekend but they weren’t actually having sex with them. The only people I knew who were having actual sex in college were in relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

Why wouldn’t a guy want to date her? She isn’t obligated to tell him “her number” and any guy that would ask this and demand to know isn’t worth dating.

They’ll all date, few will want to marry her.

I'm the PP who said I was probably a lot like her daughter. I, along with most of my friends who also happily hooked up a lot in college, are all happily married with families now. Not sure why people always post that they won't be able to have relationships when they want them. None of us had trouble getting boyfriends when we actually wanted to settle down in a relationship.

That depends on how honest you are, and how early in the relationship.

This. I’m yet to meet a reasonable decent man that would knowingly want to marry a girl who has lived it up with 30+ guys in college…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m on the fence on this. I feel most of us would not care if our son was hooking up every weekend, so why care that a daughter is? Women should also embrace their sexuality. On the other hand, there is still a societal bias and many guys will not want to date her when she is ready for a relationship. Personally, I would just encourage her to be safe and leave it at that.

True but consequences are different for women in many ways.