What are the tell-tale signs of a good guy?
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Anonymous
It's cleaner. |
Anonymous
Isn't there a difference between a "good guy" and a completely whipped guy? |
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My husband has always been a very generous tipper, and he has never had a lot of money.
He can laugh at himself and not take himself too seriously. His apartment was actually pretty neat - not a deal breaker but nice that he learned to pick up after himself (my dad certainly never has!). He has a great relationship with his parents and sister, and his extended family as well. |
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How he treats his mom and or sisters. Mine spoils his Mom and sister rotten, and the same has carried on for me and now our daughter.
What kind of car he drives (mine drove a 1984 station wagon proudly), because he was not interested in spending money for appearances sake. How many times he called me in a day. At first I thought calling me two or three times a day was a bit much when we were dating but I soon realized that he wanted to stay in touch, and now that we are married, knowing we are expected to talk at least twice a day keeps me sane. How kind he is to strangers. How he fought. Mine never yells and it has helped to rein me in a bit when we have disagreements. |
Anonymous
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To the foregoing, let me add:
Is flexible. If you mention your office might want to transfer you to Europe, for example, his response should be interest rather than telling you the relationship will be over if you go. Does what he says he is going to do. Doesn't arbitrarily announce rules that affect you, like "I will sleep over one night a week." The problem is not the substance but the fact that it isn't a conversation. Tells you all the things that are right about you, not how you don't meet his ideal for dating (like he likes younger women because he can impress them with his worldliness, but you are older and more wordly). Any signs of a temper or holding a grudge about things should make you run. Also, never marry somebody you have dated mostly long-distance. People can be very nice one or two weekends a month. |
Anonymous
Odd as it may sound, there are some men who care about keeping things clean for themselves, not just because their wives will nag them if they don't. Not all men revert to frat house behavior the minute they escape from wifely control. |
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Does he do things for you? Little things...like make a sandwich, or go back to the car to get something you forgot? It means he really cares.
Does he have temper tantrums (bad sign...run...he will eventually with you). Can you really talk to him about anything? Is he a friend that you happen to find very sexy? Does he know how to save money and pay bills but still have a tiny bit of fun? |
Anonymous
my God! another husband being micromanaged by his wife!
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Anonymous
My husband has sat to pee since way before he met me. I was happily surprised when I first saw him! |
Anonymous
Fair enough. I just know I'd find it kind of a turn off to find my husband sitting down to pee. Not saying it's rational. For what it's worth, my husband is very conscientious and clean, but I'll let him know that standing to pee is the equivalent of reverting to frat-house behavior. |
Anonymous
| I'm with 13:45... my husband is a life-long sitter, and while I found it a bit strange at first, I'm really pleased that there are no accidental sprinkles to clean up! |
Anonymous
Oh, and I should mention that my husband said that if we had sons, he would teach them to pee sitting down, too. He's rather firm on this issue. |
Anonymous
| If he flirts with others in front of you, run. |
Anonymous
| I have no idea if my husband sits or stands when he pees. We go to the bathroom in private. |
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He owns a dog. Then you know that he has already learned that if he stays out too long there will be a mess to clean-up.
How he treats wait staff, service workers, cashiers and subordinates at work goes a long way to to show you how he will treat someone when he can get away with it. Someone who screams at a person who has no choice but to take it, is not someone you want. I don't know about the sitting to pee thing. I personally stand, lift the seat and manage to hit the bowl without a problem or making a mess. I even close the lid when I'm done, something my wife never does. Though, I a guy should clean his bathroom when he knows you will be staying over at his place. |