New social media trend from Sweden: the 'Soft girl' ?

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting! Noticed on the BBC site this AM that the latest trend out of Sweden is for employed women to abandon careers to become what the Swedish call 'Soft girls.' This is the artical:


https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0j1wwypygxo

At first I was kinda horrified; NGL. But maybe this could be overall good? Im intrigued.

I would also be happy to quit my job if my jobs were: "grocery store, a care home and a factory", per the article.

Thankfully, I work in tech and get paid well. I don't want to quit my job.

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Anonymous wrote:Dang another black trend co-opted by white people. At least acknowledge the origins!

It's really crazy there's no mention of nigerian soft girls since it's the same news outlet. Do some journalism BBC!
https://www.bbc.com/culture/article/20221202-soft-girl-what-it-really-means-to-lead-a-soft-life

Well, I don't know about that. And this Swedish trend seems uniquely Swedish, it says "“It’s about leaning away from this ‘girl boss’ ideal that we've seen for a lot of years, where there are very, very high demands for success in every aspect of life,” explains Johanna Göransson, a researcher for Ungdomsbarometern."

So thats different.

But the "boss girl" push really hit home, since DC seems all about pushing the "boss girl" identity. Hard.

Did you even read the other article posted? That's the exact same verbiage - NOT swedish, NOT new.

"Arguably, the Soft Black Girl phenomenon is a backlash against the persistent "strong black woman" trope in our culture, which, alongside the "girl boss" ideal, can feel like a burden, continuously demanding our energy, whether at work or in relationships with others. The 'Soft Life' offers us an alternative, and makes it okay to expend energy on ourselves instead. As black women, we're rarely given the opportunity to imagine and dream a life for ourselves on our own terms."

It's also not about being a tradwife or stay at home girlfriend.

"the soft life, for me, goes beyond an aesthetic to a deeper meaning. It's explorative and creative, allowing me to experiment with approaches to work-life balance, finding the confidence to set boundaries and sit with the discomfort of doing so, question automatic responses, seek healthy coping mechanisms, and build the ones that feel nourishing into my daily routine. Wild swimming, somatics, hiking and nature writing are all things that I have in my control and that don't cost a penny. How often do we ask ourselves what we need, what makes us feel good, and then find ways to meet those needs without having to rely on others? Softness is ultimately rooted in self-care, and is how I experience empowerment. "

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OP is here to plant "articals" Nothing to see here.

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Anonymous wrote:^^or girl dinner. Whatever. The way we always eat and never thought to brag? share?

I rarely eat like that.

Eat like what? Wtf is girl dinner supposed to mean?

It's when you're alone and want a dinner that is easy, usually doesn't involve cooking or cleanup, and wouldn't be considered a "real meal" by a lot of people. So like, a glass of wine and some cheese/charcuterie with a hunk of baguette.

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/08/style/girl-dinner.html?unlocked_article_code=1.fE4.X0T0.NYV2YGBlVT0K&smid=url-share

I absolutely hate this. It's so regressive. Like a woman alone does not merit a full home cooked meal. I get being tired and not wanting to cook, but OTOH it's implying women should subsist on air and a few handfuls of popcorn, and actual meals are just for men/families. I am single and enjoy cooking healthy hot meals. I can save the leftovers for tomorrow and/or know how to make quick meals in less than 10 minutes. I deserve a home cooked meal at the end of the workday as much as anyone else!

And I’m single and don’t give a shit about having a hot meal. I’ve apparently been “girl eating” my whole life. It’s not a comment on how much I value myself, I promise.

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“Every month he gives me a salary from his money that he made. But if I need more, I'll ask him. Or if I need less, I don't - I just save the rest,” explains Ms Larsson.

🤮

What if he says "no"? What then? What if he starts becoming abusive in some way? What then? People like her are immature and can't think beyond now.

I'm a 54 yr old female, and I did take some time off when I had kids, but I knew I would one day go back. I saved money so that I could be a sahm for a bit. I could not imagine being reliant upon a man for money. My mother did that, and it was a disaster. I have told my teen DD that a man is not a plan and to be independent. Then you can marry for love and not for financial reasons. That would be more like a prostitute, to just marry for money.

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Anonymous wrote:^^or girl dinner. Whatever. The way we always eat and never thought to brag? share?

I rarely eat like that.

Eat like what? Wtf is girl dinner supposed to mean?

It's when you're alone and want a dinner that is easy, usually doesn't involve cooking or cleanup, and wouldn't be considered a "real meal" by a lot of people. So like, a glass of wine and some cheese/charcuterie with a hunk of baguette.

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/08/style/girl-dinner.html?unlocked_article_code=1.fE4.X0T0.NYV2YGBlVT0K&smid=url-share

I absolutely hate this. It's so regressive. Like a woman alone does not merit a full home cooked meal. I get being tired and not wanting to cook, but OTOH it's implying women should subsist on air and a few handfuls of popcorn, and actual meals are just for men/families. I am single and enjoy cooking healthy hot meals. I can save the leftovers for tomorrow and/or know how to make quick meals in less than 10 minutes. I deserve a home cooked meal at the end of the workday as much as anyone else!

And I’m single and don’t give a shit about having a hot meal. I’ve apparently been “girl eating” my whole life. It’s not a comment on how much I value myself, I promise.

PP. Absolutely no issues with that! Everyone should eat how they want. My issue is with the branding of it as "girl dinner" like that's what all women secretly want or should do.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^or girl dinner. Whatever. The way we always eat and never thought to brag? share?

I rarely eat like that.

Eat like what? Wtf is girl dinner supposed to mean?

It's when you're alone and want a dinner that is easy, usually doesn't involve cooking or cleanup, and wouldn't be considered a "real meal" by a lot of people. So like, a glass of wine and some cheese/charcuterie with a hunk of baguette.

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/08/style/girl-dinner.html?unlocked_article_code=1.fE4.X0T0.NYV2YGBlVT0K&smid=url-share

I absolutely hate this. It's so regressive. Like a woman alone does not merit a full home cooked meal. I get being tired and not wanting to cook, but OTOH it's implying women should subsist on air and a few handfuls of popcorn, and actual meals are just for men/families. I am single and enjoy cooking healthy hot meals. I can save the leftovers for tomorrow and/or know how to make quick meals in less than 10 minutes. I deserve a home cooked meal at the end of the workday as much as anyone else!

And I’m single and don’t give a shit about having a hot meal. I’ve apparently been “girl eating” my whole life. It’s not a comment on how much I value myself, I promise.

+1. I have a family and make a healthy, home cooked meal every damned day. It's an indulgence to just be able to pick up a roll, piece of cheese, and some stuff from the Whole Foods olive bar and call it a day. Truly how I would prefer to eat and spend (or rather, not spend) my time.

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Very mindful. Very demure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting! Noticed on the BBC site this AM that the latest trend out of Sweden is for employed women to abandon careers to become what the Swedish call 'Soft girls.' This is the artical:


https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0j1wwypygxo

At first I was kinda horrified; NGL. But maybe this could be overall good? Im intrigued.

I would also be happy to quit my job if my jobs were: "grocery store, a care home and a factory", per the article.

Thankfully, I work in tech and get paid well. I don't want to quit my job.

That's the part we're not supposed to say out loud. A lot of these women just don't have great options to begin with.

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I’ll never understand why some women become so outraged when other women make different choices than they do.

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting! Noticed on the BBC site this AM that the latest trend out of Sweden is for employed women to abandon careers to become what the Swedish call 'Soft girls.' This is the artical:


https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0j1wwypygxo

At first I was kinda horrified; NGL. But maybe this could be overall good? Im intrigued.

I would also be happy to quit my job if my jobs were: "grocery store, a care home and a factory", per the article.

Thankfully, I work in tech and get paid well. I don't want to quit my job.

That's the part we're not supposed to say out loud. A lot of these women just don't have great options to begin with.

Did y’all know that in Sweden every single one of those jobs you listed pays a living wage?

Wonder what your plan is when your tech job goes away in the next decade…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is interesting! Noticed on the BBC site this AM that the latest trend out of Sweden is for employed women to abandon careers to become what the Swedish call 'Soft girls.' This is the artical:


https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0j1wwypygxo

At first I was kinda horrified; NGL. But maybe this could be overall good? Im intrigued.

I would also be happy to quit my job if my jobs were: "grocery store, a care home and a factory", per the article.

Thankfully, I work in tech and get paid well. I don't want to quit my job.

That's the part we're not supposed to say out loud. A lot of these women just don't have great options to begin with.

Did y’all know that in Sweden every single one of those jobs you listed pays a living wage?

Wonder what your plan is when your tech job goes away in the next decade…

A living wage isn't necessarily a good wage, and the jobs listed aren't stimulating. I'd be far more inclined to want to stay home if I was making a living wage working in a factory than if I was making a good wage running a business or practicing medicine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is here to plant "articals" Nothing to see here.

Is this site being linked to from TikTok or something? I feel like the IQ of the average poster lately is much lower than it used to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting! Noticed on the BBC site this AM that the latest trend out of Sweden is for employed women to abandon careers to become what the Swedish call 'Soft girls.' This is the artical:


https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0j1wwypygxo

At first I was kinda horrified; NGL. But maybe this could be overall good? Im intrigued.

I would also be happy to quit my job if my jobs were: "grocery store, a care home and a factory", per the article.

Thankfully, I work in tech and get paid well. I don't want to quit my job.

That's the part we're not supposed to say out loud. A lot of these women just don't have great options to begin with.

Did y’all know that in Sweden every single one of those jobs you listed pays a living wage?

Wonder what your plan is when your tech job goes away in the next decade…

A living wage isn't necessarily a good wage, and the jobs listed aren't stimulating. I'd be far more inclined to want to stay home if I was making a living wage working in a factory than if I was making a good wage running a business or practicing medicine.

Just as I thought. You have no idea what you’re talking about. You just reflexively look down on blue collar jobs. Typical modern American “feminist”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting! Noticed on the BBC site this AM that the latest trend out of Sweden is for employed women to abandon careers to become what the Swedish call 'Soft girls.' This is the artical:


https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0j1wwypygxo

At first I was kinda horrified; NGL. But maybe this could be overall good? Im intrigued.

I would also be happy to quit my job if my jobs were: "grocery store, a care home and a factory", per the article.

Thankfully, I work in tech and get paid well. I don't want to quit my job.

That's the part we're not supposed to say out loud. A lot of these women just don't have great options to begin with.

Did y’all know that in Sweden every single one of those jobs you listed pays a living wage?

Wonder what your plan is when your tech job goes away in the next decade…

A living wage isn't necessarily a good wage, and the jobs listed aren't stimulating. I'd be far more inclined to want to stay home if I was making a living wage working in a factory than if I was making a good wage running a business or practicing medicine.

Just as I thought. You have no idea what you’re talking about. You just reflexively look down on blue collar jobs. Typical modern American “feminist”.

Right. When I was talking about about running a restaurant or roofing business being interesting and potentially lucrative, I was "looking down on blue collar jobs".