We're paying big $$$ for private college but our daughter is with public university friends every weekend

[Anonymous]

You really should focus during the first few months on making friends at your own school. After the first semester it gets a lot harder. More students should know this ahead of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really should focus during the first few months on making friends at your own school. After the first semester it gets a lot harder. More students should know this ahead of time.

At some point, her public school friends will move on or won't have the time to accommodate her- she will have to start to navigate the school on her own with no real friendships.

Instead of doing it at the beginning of the semester along with everyone else.

[Anonymous]

You are rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -it's clear from your post (unsaid of course) that you resent paying $90k+ a year for private when your kid is associating with riff raff at your in-state school at $40k a year. Sorry, you are not going to get any sympathey from most posters here. You should have spent your assets more efficiently. UVA has a great transfer program. It's not too late

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really should focus during the first few months on making friends at your own school. After the first semester it gets a lot harder. More students should know this ahead of time.

It's basically impossible after the first few weeks, unless you join a sorority or fraternity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You really should focus during the first few months on making friends at your own school. After the first semester it gets a lot harder. More students should know this ahead of time.

It's basically impossible after the first few weeks, unless you join a sorority or fraternity.

It's entirely possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You really should focus during the first few months on making friends at your own school. After the first semester it gets a lot harder. More students should know this ahead of time.

It's basically impossible after the first few weeks, unless you join a sorority or fraternity.

The true friends get made the second semester.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it would bother me. One, because it seems like it is only one way with her going to her friends versus them coming to her and it is delaying her getting invested in her new college and it’s definitely harder after that first year.

If you’ve provided a car/transportation and they don’t have to pay anything more in picking the private vs public, you have unfortunately set up a situation where it’s comfortable for them to avoid doing the sometimes uncomfortable work of putting themselves out there to find friends where they are. I’m not sure that there is much you can do about it other than create an incentive for them to put themselves out there more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP -it's clear from your post (unsaid of course) that you resent paying $90k+ a year for private when your kid is associating with riff raff at your in-state school at $40k a year. Sorry, you are not going to get any sympathey from most posters here. You should have spent your assets more efficiently. UVA has a great transfer program. It's not too late

+1

So just have your kid transfer to
the in-state school. Problem solved OP and uou can bank the difference for grad school or a down payment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

Those don't seem all that close even with a car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10 bucks says it’s a boyfriend.

yup.

[Anonymous]

USC and UCLA? Let your kid make her own choices.

[Anonymous]

Ouch but okay, I’d suggest your just be direct and tell her “we’re paying good money for you to bond with higher wealth individuals. Please drop your public school friends.” Wait, actually, you should have her ask her public friends their financial status first!

[Anonymous]

Transfer and save your dollars

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe how controlling some of the parents on here are.