We're paying big $$$ for private college but our daughter is with public university friends every weekend

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Anonymous wrote:Settle down, helicopter mom. She's a big girl now. You don't get to dictate her social life.

This. I spent a lot of time on other campuses when I was a kid. I still got a lot out of my college. Let her make her own choices socially.

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If she’s still doing at the end of the year I’d be concerned. She’s still figuring things out so give her time to make connections at her new school. In the meantime her old connections are probably comforting while she makes this change.

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How is she getting there?
Regardless, if she has straight As who cares. If not, consider a transfer.

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Normal for freshmen.

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Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

It could be all kinds of colleges. Howard is private and closer to UMD than GU. It could even be High Point to UNC. Or even Hillsdale to UMich.

Michigan OOS costs significantly more than Hillsdale. Hillsdale is priced with its peers like Spring Arbor and Siena Heights.

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Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

It could be all kinds of colleges. Howard is private and closer to UMD than GU. It could even be High Point to UNC. Or even Hillsdale to UMich.

Michigan OOS costs significantly more than Hillsdale. Hillsdale is priced with its peers like Spring Arbor and Siena Heights.

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Pointing out the absurdity of a troll.

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It speaks well of this kid that she’s maintaining friendships with high school friends and not getting sucked into her private college bubble. Plus, it’s only been a few months. What kind of message would you be sending if you told her to back off the public school visits?? Yuck!

[Anonymous]

This happens a lot. Often the kid ends up transferring to the public.

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Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

It could be all kinds of colleges. Howard is private and closer to UMD than GU. It could even be High Point to UNC. Or even Hillsdale to UMich.

Michigan OOS costs significantly more than Hillsdale. Hillsdale is priced with its peers like Spring Arbor and Siena Heights.

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Pointing out the absurdity of a troll.

Irrelavant. You are wasting everyone's time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is she getting there?
Regardless, if she has straight As who cares. If not, consider a transfer.

prob Uber or Acela

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10 bucks says it’s a boyfriend.

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OP -it's clear from your post (unsaid of course) that you resent paying $90k+ a year for private when your kid is associating with riff raff at your in-state school at $40k a year. Sorry, you are not going to get any sympathey from most posters here. You should have spent your assets more efficiently. UVA has a great transfer program. It's not too late

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Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

It could be all kinds of colleges. Howard is private and closer to UMD than GU. It could even be High Point to UNC. Or even Hillsdale to UMich.

Michigan OOS costs significantly more than Hillsdale. Hillsdale is priced with its peers like Spring Arbor and Siena Heights.

Irrelevant to OP's post

Pointing out the absurdity of a troll.

Irrelavant. You are wasting everyone's time

oh please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I’d be annoyed . Any student that isn’t invested in making connections at their own school (friends, clubs, parties…) is not getting the full value of the experience. I’d have a conversation over the holidays about whether she should be applying to transfer after this year or whether she wants to invest in the full experience of this expensive school.

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Honestly what is the point of paying all that when she clearly wants to be at the public school?

Ask her to transfer.

The college experience isn't just about lectures. It's about fully utilising the facilities, networks and environment.

Do the friends ever visit her? Or is she always there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -it's clear from your post (unsaid of course) that you resent paying $90k+ a year for private when your kid is associating with riff raff at your in-state school at $40k a year. Sorry, you are not going to get any sympathey from most posters here. You should have spent your assets more efficiently. UVA has a great transfer program. It's not too late

People need to stop being so sensitive for god's sake.

Imagine the 40k child spending all her free time at a nearby community college. Wouldn't that be a waste too?