We're paying big $$$ for private college but our daughter is with public university friends every weekend

[Anonymous]

Would this bother you as a parent? We're certainly not rich, it was somewhat of a stretch for us to afford a private college. (No debt.) She begged us and we made it happen. Well, a handful of her best high school friends landed at a large public university about 30 minutes away. She talks to or texts her mother on a daily basis and it seems every other day she's headed to and returning from the public university her friends are at. We're not worried about her grades, she's a great student, but I'm concerned she's not dedicating herself to the private college and classmates there. She claims she loves her college. I can't help but feel like what is the point of wasting 3x more for the private if she's itching to be at the cheap public all the time.

[Anonymous]

It's been 2 months. She'll build her friend base at her own school soon enough.

[Anonymous]

It's normal to have friends from different places.

[Anonymous]

Making new friends will take time but it will happen.

[Anonymous]

Was the point of paying for the private college for her to make friends or to get the education that's offered there?

[Anonymous]

Are you not her mother in this made up scenario?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was the point of paying for the private college for her to make friends or to get the education that's offered there?

This! Are you trying to buy her friendships? School is for an education. I honestly think she is freaking amazing and I don’t know her. She is doing well in school, and maintaining old but stable and positive friendships. Where in your post do you hint that she is trying to itch at being at the public school?

[Anonymous]

How is that possible? Where are these schools?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I’d be annoyed . Any student that isn’t invested in making connections at their own school (friends, clubs, parties…) is not getting the full value of the experience. I’d have a conversation over the holidays about whether she should be applying to transfer after this year or whether she wants to invest in the full experience of this expensive school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

[Anonymous]

Well perhaps having poor friends will help her not become a pretentious ahole like her parents.

[Anonymous]

Settle down, helicopter mom. She's a big girl now. You don't get to dictate her social life.

[Anonymous]

Perfect trolling. Bahahaha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

It could be all kinds of colleges. Howard is private and closer to UMD than GU. It could even be High Point to UNC. Or even Hillsdale to UMich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is that possible? Where are these schools?

I’m thinking Georgetown or Hopkins and UMD? Princeton and Rutgers? Duke and UNC?

It could be all kinds of colleges. Howard is private and closer to UMD than GU. It could even be High Point to UNC. Or even Hillsdale to UMich.

Michigan OOS costs significantly more than Hillsdale. Hillsdale is priced with its peers like Spring Arbor and Siena Heights.