Son’s Suitemate Acting Erratically

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want a kid deported for masturbation (albeit in public)?
Is the kid doing drugs?

I want him sent home to a family, and country, that should take care of his mental illness. Who knows how it will escalate? You think he should still be in school?

Your child needs to request a room
Change.

Your child is not a child they are an adult it’s time for them to fix it if needed not you

I seriously doubt a large state school did not kick the student out of housing. You are lying .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should manage your own kid. Ask to move rooms. Go that route.

This.

I get that he is bonded with his roommates and doesn't want to move out but if you think he isn't safe then the solution is that he moves. What do the parents of his roommate friends think>

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd really avoid the whole "put him on a plane" thing. that sounds racist AF.

And I'm not sure what's happening in the suite. Lots of kids live with extremely problematic suite mates. Kids who are up all night listening to music or are outwardly homophobic or racist to a gay or URM kid.

If I were you, I'd think locally. Get a text chain going with the other parents. Say, I'm worried FOR this kid. See if you can get a base of support .

I agree it “sounds” racist. But him not being a citizen, actually gives more leverage to do something about it. Soliciting a prostitute, indecent exposure, etc. actually can get your visa revoked. I’m exploring all options.

sorry, when I said it sounds racist, I was soft peddling. I think you're totally racist. but that doesn't mean you're not also a concerned mom.

there's a lot that people won't put up with - racists Karens are high on the list. ICE won't care. The school will listen to the students or, perhaps, a group of "concerned for this young man" parents. pretend you are concerned.

I’m Latina, and my son is Latino. I guess I’m a Latina Karen then (Cariña) lol! I’m here legally, though, so wouldn’t have a problem calling ICE. Thing about us Latinos though, is we tend to be socially conservative and have a problem with sex offenders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I just got off with the town police. They said it was out of their jurisdiction and offered to transfer me to campus police. I don’t have the emails of the parents because I didn’t want to be a helicopter mom. I wouldn’t know how to get them.

News flash - you are already there. If you can't get your kid to cooperate with you then you just need to back off.

[Anonymous]

This story rubs me the wrong way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should manage your own kid. Ask to move rooms. Go that route.

This.

I get that he is bonded with his roommates and doesn't want to move out but if you think he isn't safe then the solution is that he moves. What do the parents of his roommate friends think>

I would do the same. I would get an Airbnb and tell my kid to stay there and offer to the other suitemates who would like to stay there till this gets resolved. I would not reveal the location of the Airbnb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This story rubs me the wrong way.

Good one!

[Anonymous]

If I had a dime for every kid in a bad roommate situation whose reaction is "Why should I move out??? But I like it hereeee. I didn't do anythingggg!!".... and if I had a quarter for every mother who enables this thinking.....

Sorry. Time to put the big boy underwear on and move out and protect your safety and your future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I had a dime for every kid in a bad roommate situation whose reaction is "Why should I move out??? But I like it hereeee. I didn't do anythingggg!!".... and if I had a quarter for every mother who enables this thinking.....

Sorry. Time to put the big boy underwear on and move out and protect your safety and your future.

OP's kid and roommates and the RA are all victims of a sexual offender. This thread is absolutely shocking in this day and age.

[Anonymous]

Tell your kid to document everything, contact campus police every time, and email school admins for housing and student life (dean of students or whatever his school calls it) every time. Document. Everything. And have him (not you) continue to pester the school about it. The more noise your son, his suite mates, the RA, and other affected students make, the better. But THEY need to do it, not you.

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with those downplaying this guy's actions. If you don't mind doing that in public, you don't care about anyone's feelings, that they may feel unsafe or threatened, and that there could be a child in a public space.

It is absolutely not a leap to think this person could be dangerous and violent in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd really avoid the whole "put him on a plane" thing. that sounds racist AF.

And I'm not sure what's happening in the suite. Lots of kids live with extremely problematic suite mates. Kids who are up all night listening to music or are outwardly homophobic or racist to a gay or URM kid.

If I were you, I'd think locally. Get a text chain going with the other parents. Say, I'm worried FOR this kid. See if you can get a base of support .

I agree it “sounds” racist. But him not being a citizen, actually gives more leverage to do something about it. Soliciting a prostitute, indecent exposure, etc. actually can get your visa revoked. I’m exploring all options.

sorry, when I said it sounds racist, I was soft peddling. I think you're totally racist. but that doesn't mean you're not also a concerned mom.

there's a lot that people won't put up with - racists Karens are high on the list. ICE won't care. The school will listen to the students or, perhaps, a group of "concerned for this young man" parents. pretend you are concerned.

The kid is beating on his little pecker in public and acting like an unstable maniac, but OP is "totally racist" for wanting to use whatever legal leverage she can to stop it and create a safer environment for her kid? Give me a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thing is, he really bonded with his direct roommates. At a campus so large, it’s hard to make friends. He doesn’t want the disruption. As far as the campus police, not doing anything. Maybe they were told not to. I forgot to mention, he was institutionalized for a week the second week of school, that’s, besides the 72 hour hold.

Roommates can stay in touch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your kid to document everything, contact campus police every time, and email school admins for housing and student life (dean of students or whatever his school calls it) every time. Document. Everything. And have him (not you) continue to pester the school about it. The more noise your son, his suite mates, the RA, and other affected students make, the better. But THEY need to do it, not you.

Thank you. This is good advice. I can’t believe the campus police officer suggested my son make a citizen’s arrest. I think you actually have to put your hand on the perp’s upper arm when you do that. I don’t want my son in that kid’s consciousness. He’s already requested they be instagram friends. His photos on insta are selfies of him wearing a woman’s bra, BTW.

[Anonymous]

Also, there must be some kids in the dorm who aren’t 18 yet. So maybe the charges can be enhanced somehow.