MIL took a selfie at a funeral

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

The “glad I’m not dead like your grandma” part

I mean we are glad she isn't dead right?

Is grandma 60 or something? When people die late 80's and 90's it's really a different tone, like are we really all morose at that age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what I expected when I opened a MIL complaint thread, but it wasn't that. You win. That's really awful.
Did anyone respond?

OP here. No one responded. I know OPs brothers and spouses feel similar about MIL, so I think their approach when she does something like this is to ignore her.

This is what my husband does too and it drives me insane.

They are ignoring her because when you stick up to people like this or say something it will cause endless drama and your MIL will act like the victim and in the end never take any responsibility. It's exhausting and a total waste of time interacting with a person like this which is why people then put boundaries on interacting with them. Your best option is to either ignore OR don't be on a group text with her and don't invite her to important events. When you let people like this into your life they do crap like this and there isn't a lot of recourse that is satisfying in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

The “glad I’m not dead like your grandma” part

I mean we are glad she isn't dead right?

Is grandma 60 or something? When people die late 80's and 90's it's really a different tone, like are we really all morose at that age?

Stop trying to make crass comments like this OK. If you think this is fine, you are the problem. Most of us have EQ and are expected to use it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

The “glad I’m not dead like your grandma” part

I mean we are glad she isn't dead right?

Is grandma 60 or something? When people die late 80's and 90's it's really a different tone, like are we really all morose at that age?

Stop trying to make crass comments like this OK. If you think this is fine, you are the problem. Most of us have EQ and are expected to use it.

Stop acting like a 90 year old dying is some solemn event.

[Anonymous]

“I’m concerned about your health. This is so far out of proper funeral etiquette that I’m concerned something is wrong”

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say anything but would send something similar when it’s one of her relatives. She sounds like a piece of work!

[Anonymous]

They are ignoring her because when you stick up to people like this or say something it will cause endless drama and your MIL will act like the victim and in the end never take any responsibility. It's exhausting and a total waste of time interacting with a person like this which is why people then put boundaries on interacting with them. Your best option is to either ignore OR don't be on a group text with her and don't invite her to important events. When you let people like this into your life they do crap like this and there isn't a lot of recourse that is satisfying in the end.

That's why I would respond on the group thread with "This picture is from my Grandma's funeral, correct?" [highlighting her photo and capture I'm responding to]. She can't act like a victim as I haven't said anything nasty nor blamed her, but point has been made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

The “glad I’m not dead like your grandma” part

I mean we are glad she isn't dead right?

Is grandma 60 or something? When people die late 80's and 90's it's really a different tone, like are we really all morose at that age?

Stop trying to make crass comments like this OK. If you think this is fine, you are the problem. Most of us have EQ and are expected to use it.

Stop acting like a 90 year old dying is some solemn event.

In case folks were curious what a sociopath looks like

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

The “glad I’m not dead like your grandma” part

I mean we are glad she isn't dead right?

Is grandma 60 or something? When people die late 80's and 90's it's really a different tone, like are we really all morose at that age?

Stop trying to make crass comments like this OK. If you think this is fine, you are the problem. Most of us have EQ and are expected to use it.

Stop acting like a 90 year old dying is some solemn event.

In case folks were curious what a sociopath looks like

Seriously. Wtf pp?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything but would send something similar when it’s one of her relatives. She sounds like a piece of work!

Yes, go ahead and mock innocent people just to spite someone who doesn't care about people anyway.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe this is a real post.

[Anonymous]

"That's an incredibly offensive thing to post following the death of my beloved grandmother, Marge. Because you made this comment so publicly, I'm giving you the chance to apologize to me publicly for adding to my grief with your insensitive behavior."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

They are ignoring her because when you stick up to people like this or say something it will cause endless drama and your MIL will act like the victim and in the end never take any responsibility. It's exhausting and a total waste of time interacting with a person like this which is why people then put boundaries on interacting with them. Your best option is to either ignore OR don't be on a group text with her and don't invite her to important events. When you let people like this into your life they do crap like this and there isn't a lot of recourse that is satisfying in the end.

That's why I would respond on the group thread with "This picture is from my Grandma's funeral, correct?" [highlighting her photo and capture I'm responding to]. She can't act like a victim as I haven't said anything nasty nor blamed her, but point has been made.

She won’t get the point. People with personality disorders never get the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd respond with: wow. What an awful thing to say.

I like this response the best. Simple and clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be furious and I would asked to be removed from this group text since you are still mourning.

I think this is a better response than any of the others. Just a calm request to be removed from the thread while in mourning.