MIL took a selfie at a funeral

[Anonymous]

I would be furious and I would asked to be removed from this group text since you are still mourning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's unacceptable.

I would reply to the group email and say you are disappointed that she posted a photo of herself at your Grandmother's funeral, referencing her death as "the alternative", and pointedly writing that she and FIL were "happy".

You really need to make your voice heard on this one. What she did is indefensible.

Yes. Speak up OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd respond with: wow. What an awful thing to say.

+1
Yes, that's as far as I'd go. If she has a history of trash behavior to the point everyone ignores it, you're not likely to change her entire world view by being combative. She is what she is.

[Anonymous]

I think I would say " Wow. A photo at my grandmother's funeral with this caption? Wow."

I'd want others to know the context

and she's a by-otch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I would say " Wow. A photo at my grandmother's funeral with this caption? Wow."

I'd want others to know the context

and she's a by-otch

and then I wouldn't respond further on that thread or if she calls or texts. Let her stew in it. She'll try to talk her way out of her awfulness. Don't let her

[Anonymous]

totally disrespectful

[Anonymous]

I’m an outlier. I don’t think the selfie at a funeral is bad but the text is completely disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

You will rebuff your MIL in the group text in no uncertain terms.

Not because you hope to change MIL.

But because you need to stand up for your family in front of all the relatives. MIL disrespected your grandmother, and your duty is to speak for her, as she cannot speak for herself.

Disrespect is contagious, OP. If your MIL treats you this way, others in her family won't defend you and will start to treat you in the same way. There is only a thin veneer of etiquette that separates civilized humans from "might makes right". They will respect you more, your husband included, if you excoriate MIL in the group text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the caption that did it. That's horrible insensitive.

+1

A picture of extended family together etc is okay depending on the context. But certainly not this.

[Anonymous]

im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

The “glad I’m not dead like your grandma” part

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the caption that did it. That's horrible insensitive.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd respond with: wow. What an awful thing to say.

"I didn't realize that you are this insensitive. It was my Grandmother's funeral for God's sake".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:im confused what part of the text was "terrible"?

The “glad I’m not dead like your grandma” part

This. The fact she sent it to a group that included the op is horrifying.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for your loss OP. The selfie was in poor taste but the text was far beyond.

If it were me I would reply “Please delete this. I am in mourning for my grandmother and this disturbs me”