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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think some men really like the feeling of being with a much smaller woman, because it makes them feel big and powerful.

[b]I also think some women like feeling small and, it must be said, powerless next to a big man.[/b]

This is based on my experience dating men 6' and up before marrying my husband (who is 5'9"). Some of those guys were way too invested in how petite I am, in a way that grossed me out. I vastly prefer being with someone who feels more like (and wants to be) my equal.

So yes, when I see those couples where he's super tall and she's really short, I do kind of assume it's a mutual fetish based on the power dynamics of that, and it gives me the icks.[/quote]

You are so far off the mark.  I do not feel "powerless" next to my tall husband. I feel like I am 6 feet myself because I am strong and athletic.  I can't help that I am short just like you can't help that you are tall. But I am a much nicer person than you.  Which is something you can control.

Try it sometime[/quote]

You can't help your height but you can help who you choose to be with. Your DH chose a very short woman even though he is very tall. You chose a very tall man even though you are short. There's nothing wrong with it but it's interesting you were attracted to each other even though a big height differential can be very uncomfortable, especially up close. When I dated guys who were a foot taller than me, it was just physically uncomfortable to look up at him sometimes. I don't want to be craning my neck all the time, I assume a tall person wouldn't want to be stooping down all the time. It will also mean you are not comfortable in the same spaces. You'll have different preferences for homes and cars and strollers because you have different physical needs.

When I see couples with large height differentials like this, I do assume that the differential was itself a draw, which I do think reflects a desire for a big man/small woman dynamic. Because the height differential is inconvenient otherwise.[/quote]

But we met sitting down![/quote]

So? Look, I'm married. My DH is about 6 inches taller than me. When we were dating, we spent a lot of time standing next to each other -- walking together, going to concerts, going to parties, etc. Just like now. I dated taller men and doing those things was awkward. It is awkward to talk to someone or kiss someone who is over a foot taller than you. Possible, yes, but why bother when there are lots of people closer in height? I think the only reason people do it is because there is something specifically appealing to them about the height differential. There's no other good reason for it.[/quote]

What is even your point? You are married, congrats!!! You found your perfect man. Don't worry about anyone else. It's none of your business. [/quote]

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