Post Divorce Relationships

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

No one called anyone gross except you. And you don’t like anyone calling someone gross but you did.

[Anonymous]

I don't think she said she's fixated on marrying this particular man. She just wants in theory to get married again when the circumstances are right. Her question seems to be whether she needs to end this specific relationship and any subsequent one in which the man says he will not marry someone with children. I presume that this means children living at home. It would be odd for him to not want to marry someone whose child is an independent adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

Um, the op is even questioning the relationship, so that would lend to pp being right. Duh!

No.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

No one called anyone gross except you. And you don’t like anyone calling someone gross but you did.

YOUR WORDS

"How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

You’re wrong. It says clearly in the thread, “this is gross.”
It does say she is gross, but you responded by calling someone gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

No one called anyone gross except you. And you don’t like anyone calling someone gross but you did.

YOUR WORDS

"How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross."

Again, didn’t call her gross. Bold your comment where you did in fact call someone gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think she said she's fixated on marrying this particular man. She just wants in theory to get married again when the circumstances are right. Her question seems to be whether she needs to end this specific relationship and any subsequent one in which the man says he will not marry someone with children. I presume that this means children living at home. It would be odd for him to not want to marry someone whose child is an independent adult.

Op here. Yes, you said it well! I am enjoying the short term relationship but wondering if it’s not wise to invest more time given my ultimate goal to settle down with someone someday.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

Rules for thee, not for me.
You want to dictate others not name calling but you can. Okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think she said she's fixated on marrying this particular man. She just wants in theory to get married again when the circumstances are right. Her question seems to be whether she needs to end this specific relationship and any subsequent one in which the man says he will not marry someone with children. I presume that this means children living at home. It would be odd for him to not want to marry someone whose child is an independent adult.

That is why I asked her how old her children where. This would erk me because:

1) He has children himself. Is he not an involved father and therefore thinks there is a different standard for mothers and dating?
2) he knows she has children. To say I won't marry someone with children knowing that she would one day want marriage is just saying no to her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think she said she's fixated on marrying this particular man. She just wants in theory to get married again when the circumstances are right. Her question seems to be whether she needs to end this specific relationship and any subsequent one in which the man says he will not marry someone with children. I presume that this means children living at home. It would be odd for him to not want to marry someone whose child is an independent adult.

Op here. Yes, you said it well! I am enjoying the short term relationship but wondering if it’s not wise to invest more time given my ultimate goal to settle down with someone someday.

Why don’t you worry about taking care of your kids as your ultimate goal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

No one called anyone gross except you. And you don’t like anyone calling someone gross but you did.

YOUR WORDS

"How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross."

Again, didn’t call her gross. Bold your comment where you did in fact call someone gross.

Oh ok, we're playing semantics now. Posters like you are just exhausting. Nothing of substance to contribute because you're just dumb. You just come on DCUM to be rude and hateful because it's anonymous. This woman asked for help. Your instinct is to attack her and belittle her. But sure, I'm wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think she said she's fixated on marrying this particular man. She just wants in theory to get married again when the circumstances are right. Her question seems to be whether she needs to end this specific relationship and any subsequent one in which the man says he will not marry someone with children. I presume that this means children living at home. It would be odd for him to not want to marry someone whose child is an independent adult.

Op here. Yes, you said it well! I am enjoying the short term relationship but wondering if it’s not wise to invest more time given my ultimate goal to settle down with someone someday.

You said you don’t have much in common, why would you settle down with him even if he wanted to. You are fixated on marrying.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

No one called anyone gross except you. And you don’t like anyone calling someone gross but you did.

YOUR WORDS

"How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross."

Again, didn’t call her gross. Bold your comment where you did in fact call someone gross.

Oh ok, we're playing semantics now. Posters like you are just exhausting. Nothing of substance to contribute because you're just dumb. You just come on DCUM to be rude and hateful because it's anonymous. This woman asked for help. Your instinct is to attack her and belittle her. But sure, I'm wrong.

More name calling from the hypocrite who says others can’t do that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think she said she's fixated on marrying this particular man. She just wants in theory to get married again when the circumstances are right. Her question seems to be whether she needs to end this specific relationship and any subsequent one in which the man says he will not marry someone with children. I presume that this means children living at home. It would be odd for him to not want to marry someone whose child is an independent adult.

Op here. Yes, you said it well! I am enjoying the short term relationship but wondering if it’s not wise to invest more time given my ultimate goal to settle down with someone someday.

Why don’t you worry about taking care of your kids as your ultimate goal?

Are you saying I can’t have marriage as an ultimate goal as a divorced mom?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if I want to eventually get married again, I should only date men who say they also want to get married?

I’m so incredibly new to dating. In fact I’ve only had a handful of relationships. My marriage lasted 16 yrs. I just don’t know how to balance the need for a light hearted relationship in the present with a long term goal of getting married again.

I equate marriage with safety, stability, security. But I’m also terrified of marriage given the hell I went through in divorce. So ultimately I’m just confused.

How could your marriage last 16 years if you got divorced at 40? Were you married at just 24? No one at that age gets married in their early 20’s now? Of course, you’re divorced if this is true. I’m older than that and I knew to never, ever get married at such a young age.

How is this even remotely helpful? Do you have a time travel machine she can borrow?

How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross.

You're the only gross one here.

love how when someone is right and the offender just insults because they it.

Who said you're right?

There is nothing wrong with what I said and you know it or you have mental illness.

You called her gross so don't speak to me about mental illness. In fact, don't speak at all if you're going to call women gross.

No one called anyone gross except you. And you don’t like anyone calling someone gross but you did.

YOUR WORDS

"How is it helpful that she wants to remarry and can’t seem to be without a spouse. It is apparent she has very poor judgment and her children are still so young. This is gross."

Again, didn’t call her gross. Bold your comment where you did in fact call someone gross.

Oh ok, we're playing semantics now. Posters like you are just exhausting. Nothing of substance to contribute because you're just dumb. You just come on DCUM to be rude and hateful because it's anonymous. This woman asked for help. Your instinct is to attack her and belittle her. But sure, I'm wrong.

More name calling from the hypocrite who says others can’t do that.

See! You have no substance or original thought. Bye.