Nanny on the phone ALL the time. How do I talk to her about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would fire her and get a new nanny. Easy peasy.

+ 1. Let her go. She will resent you if you tell her to stop using her phone now.
Tell the new nanny/babysitter no phone unless important calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has commented again but not answered how much she pays.

Pay her more to do more. Assign tasks including documentary evidence of what your want her to do (or use a camera)

OP knows she is paying an inadequate wage, and getting what she pays for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has commented again but not answered how much she pays.

Pay her more to do more. Assign tasks including documentary evidence of what your want her to do (or use a camera)

OP knows she is paying an inadequate wage, and getting what she pays for.

No it sounds like she’s paying too much honestly, 5 hours pay to do what 1 hour of a professional organizer and 1 hour of babysitter could do. But you can’t arrange for that s you have to pay a nanny to sit there but yep, she’s bored

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't have a nanny. You have a part-time housekeeper/helper who babysits your younger in the afternoons.

You are comparing her to your old nanny who was presumably home with the kids all day, some of whom were under 5 and required constant supervision and more engagement.

These are two different jobs and you are expecting your PT housekeeper/sitter to perform the same way a FT nanny does . It's not realistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would fire her and get a new nanny. Easy peasy.

Definitely not "easy peasy." Very difficult to find someone willing to work 25 hours/week because typically that's not enough money. Plus, from OP's description this is an extraordinarily unpleasant child. She "rejects the nanny" and even the kid's own parents refuse to spend time with her, preferring to pawn her off to someone they have to pay.

Oh shut up. The kid is normal and doesn't want to play with a stranger. She's fine on her own which is developmentally appropriate. If the nanny isn't doing part of her job because she's on the phone then focus on that. If OP wants to insist that the nanny bother the child and insist on playing together then fire her because she's not doing that. But she's going to have a hard time finding a replacement.

Oh shut up. The nanny has been working for them for at least several months and is not a stranger. She probably knows the nanny better than the parents.

Leave the kid out of your nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are nuts. Yes a 5yo should be able to entertain herself. She shouldn’t have to though after school 5x a week if there is an adult sitter there.
I have an 11yo only. She’s perfectly capable of staying alone the 3 hours a days we both work ( it’s only twice a week) but we pay a sitter because she needs driving places. Sitter also plays basketball with her, soccer, Uno, draws etc….. my kid likes the company. I’m not paying a sitter to sit on her phone I’m paying her to
Interact with my kid. As is OP.
OP what happens if the sitter suggests to your 5yo they play a game?

Not all kids want an entertainer. They can read, do homework, listen to music, practice an instrument, draw, go to an activity, and not need a companion, Some are very independent.

[Anonymous]

Get rid of her. She will not change. We get such people all the time at my job in a different industry. They are all younger generations.

[Anonymous]

You are all nuts. Except for those who wrote normal responses. I pay $30 an hour. The former nanny used to work for 6 hours a day. And no, she didn’t have to be with infants or toddlers. She used to do projects with our youngest: play dough, art, construction paper, etc. they used to spend time outside or ran around the house playing tag or hide and seek. She used her phone only when her grandson called (they live together). It’s sad they moved to a different state. I pay for a nanny so our youngest doesn’t have to sit with me for 2,5 hours while the other child is training. So she doesn’t have to be in the car for an hour. So she can have her own classes like ballet and art. Yeah, I guess it’s time to look for a new nanny. Why on earth should she be reading news while at work? I am not asking to hover over my daughter, I want to make sure they are doing nice fun things together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are all nuts. Except for those who wrote normal responses. I pay $30 an hour. The former nanny used to work for 6 hours a day. And no, she didn’t have to be with infants or toddlers. She used to do projects with our youngest: play dough, art, construction paper, etc. they used to spend time outside or ran around the house playing tag or hide and seek. She used her phone only when her grandson called (they live together). It’s sad they moved to a different state. I pay for a nanny so our youngest doesn’t have to sit with me for 2,5 hours while the other child is training. So she doesn’t have to be in the car for an hour. So she can have her own classes like ballet and art. Yeah, I guess it’s time to look for a new nanny. Why on earth should she be reading news while at work? I am not asking to hover over my daughter, I want to make sure they are doing nice fun things together.

Why not pay the nanny to drive the older kid for an hour and wait for 2.5 hours, and you can stay home with your younger child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are all nuts. Except for those who wrote normal responses. I pay $30 an hour. The former nanny used to work for 6 hours a day. And no, she didn’t have to be with infants or toddlers. She used to do projects with our youngest: play dough, art, construction paper, etc. they used to spend time outside or ran around the house playing tag or hide and seek. She used her phone only when her grandson called (they live together). It’s sad they moved to a different state. I pay for a nanny so our youngest doesn’t have to sit with me for 2,5 hours while the other child is training. So she doesn’t have to be in the car for an hour. So she can have her own classes like ballet and art. Yeah, I guess it’s time to look for a new nanny. Why on earth should she be reading news while at work? I am not asking to hover over my daughter, I want to make sure they are doing nice fun things together.

Wow, sounds you like you don't want to be around or spend any time with your youngest. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would fire her and get a new nanny. Easy peasy.

Definitely not "easy peasy." Very difficult to find someone willing to work 25 hours/week because typically that's not enough money. Plus, from OP's description this is an extraordinarily unpleasant child. She "rejects the nanny" and even the kid's own parents refuse to spend time with her, preferring to pawn her off to someone they have to pay.

Oh shut up. The kid is normal and doesn't want to play with a stranger. She's fine on her own which is developmentally appropriate. If the nanny isn't doing part of her job because she's on the phone then focus on that. If OP wants to insist that the nanny bother the child and insist on playing together then fire her because she's not doing that. But she's going to have a hard time finding a replacement.

Oh shut up. The nanny has been working for them for at least several months and is not a stranger. She probably knows the nanny better than the parents.

Leave the kid out of your nonsense.

"The kid" is what the whole thing is about-otherwise there is no need to hire a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are all nuts. Except for those who wrote normal responses. I pay $30 an hour. The former nanny used to work for 6 hours a day. And no, she didn’t have to be with infants or toddlers. She used to do projects with our youngest: play dough, art, construction paper, etc. they used to spend time outside or ran around the house playing tag or hide and seek. She used her phone only when her grandson called (they live together). It’s sad they moved to a different state. I pay for a nanny so our youngest doesn’t have to sit with me for 2,5 hours while the other child is training. So she doesn’t have to be in the car for an hour. So she can have her own classes like ballet and art. Yeah, I guess it’s time to look for a new nanny. Why on earth should she be reading news while at work? I am not asking to hover over my daughter, I want to make sure they are doing nice fun things together.

Wow, sounds you like you don't want to be around or spend any time with your youngest. Sad.

Exactly. OP wants to be able to sit and scroll on her phone for the 2.5 hours she's waiting for her older child to "train."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would fire her and get a new nanny. Easy peasy.

Definitely not "easy peasy." Very difficult to find someone willing to work 25 hours/week because typically that's not enough money. Plus, from OP's description this is an extraordinarily unpleasant child. She "rejects the nanny" and even the kid's own parents refuse to spend time with her, preferring to pawn her off to someone they have to pay.

Oh shut up. The kid is normal and doesn't want to play with a stranger. She's fine on her own which is developmentally appropriate. If the nanny isn't doing part of her job because she's on the phone then focus on that. If OP wants to insist that the nanny bother the child and insist on playing together then fire her because she's not doing that. But she's going to have a hard time finding a replacement.

Oh shut up. The nanny has been working for them for at least several months and is not a stranger. She probably knows the nanny better than the parents.

Leave the kid out of your nonsense.

"The kid" is what the whole thing is about-otherwise there is no need to hire a nanny.

But the kid was called "extraordinarily unpleasant" which was completely uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are all nuts. Except for those who wrote normal responses. I pay $30 an hour. The former nanny used to work for 6 hours a day. And no, she didn’t have to be with infants or toddlers. She used to do projects with our youngest: play dough, art, construction paper, etc. they used to spend time outside or ran around the house playing tag or hide and seek. She used her phone only when her grandson called (they live together). It’s sad they moved to a different state. I pay for a nanny so our youngest doesn’t have to sit with me for 2,5 hours while the other child is training. So she doesn’t have to be in the car for an hour. So she can have her own classes like ballet and art. Yeah, I guess it’s time to look for a new nanny. Why on earth should she be reading news while at work? I am not asking to hover over my daughter, I want to make sure they are doing nice fun things together.

I call BS on this. I know you read news, DCUM and other non work sites while you are at work.

And why don’t you spend time with your youngest while your older kids train?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are all nuts. Except for those who wrote normal responses. I pay $30 an hour. The former nanny used to work for 6 hours a day. And no, she didn’t have to be with infants or toddlers. She used to do projects with our youngest: play dough, art, construction paper, etc. they used to spend time outside or ran around the house playing tag or hide and seek. She used her phone only when her grandson called (they live together). It’s sad they moved to a different state. I pay for a nanny so our youngest doesn’t have to sit with me for 2,5 hours while the other child is training. So she doesn’t have to be in the car for an hour. So she can have her own classes like ballet and art. Yeah, I guess it’s time to look for a new nanny. Why on earth should she be reading news while at work? I am not asking to hover over my daughter, I want to make sure they are doing nice fun things together.

Wow, sounds you like you don't want to be around or spend any time with your youngest. Sad.

Exactly. OP wants to be able to sit and scroll on her phone for the 2.5 hours she's waiting for her older child to "train."

All of you who are commenting like this have never had a nanny. Insane, mean-spirited, troll comments.