What distinguishes an "average woman" from an "above average" woman for dating and marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

I am sure you will find that. A perfect family of origin.

This is pretty basic.

[Anonymous]

For marriage:

- Smart and well educated
- Outgoing personality. I can leave her at a party and she's fine. Gets along with people.
- High functioning and capable. Will she lose my future kid in the grocery and if she does will she know how to handle it.
- Has a sense of humor
-Not volatile and unpredictable emotionally
-Not overly neurotic or high maintenance with grooming/looks

Physical side:

-No huge boobs (they don't end well)
-Not short
-Naturally attractive. Not into the high makeup/high fashion look. More doesn't end well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

All of those are important, but I'd prefer a state university gal over ivy educated.

Why? Intimidated by women's intelligence or success?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I often think the worth of a woman is how her dad treated her and her mom. Some of the most beautiful women I know are the most insecure watching her dad leave her once beautiful mom. Other very average looking women hold high standards and are confident and well educated and marry well. They may not be vain and value other qualities more than looks.

I have a daughter who is absolutely adored by all. She has one friend who recently said she wasn’t special. My daughter immediately told her that everyone is special. We shower our daughter with love and she is such a kind sweet girl. She is so smart and kind.

This is true. My dad treats everyone terribly and my mom is grateful for it. When I divorced she held it against me because she is married to my dad. But I had basically married a younger version of my father. Now that I'm on the other side it's like I was in dark tunnel for a decade and now am in the sun.

[Anonymous]

When I was single I dated women who were hotter than my wife but her brains, personality and ambition were light years better. And, many years later her looks have really held up while the hot ones faded. The fact that she still initiates sex is a real plus.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and his friends are divorced and have dated in the past few years. They said they wanted someone who was stable. In mind and financially. And of course, great sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
-Not volatile and unpredictable emotionally
-Not overly neurotic or high maintenance with grooming/looks

These are really important points in both genders for raising a family and running a household together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

I am sure you will find that. A perfect family of origin.

This is pretty basic.

If my parents had to file for bankruptcy at some point in their lives what does that have to do with me and what does that mean about my ability to manage finances? Absolutely nothing b/c I am a separate person from my parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and his friends are divorced and have dated in the past few years. They said they wanted someone who was stable. In mind and financially. And of course, great sex.

The problem with this is that when divorced men say they want somebody stable, they often mean somebody who won't complain about really poor behavior. Some women are legitimately crazy, but take what they say with a grain of salt.

[Anonymous]

I never take words of divorced men or women without a dozen grains of salt. First, don't know if they are telling the truth. Second, they failed at picking the right partner for themselves and being the right partner in their marriage.

Obviously bad luck happens but both partners are partly responsible for a failed marriage.

[Anonymous]

* in 90% of divorces

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

I am sure you will find that. A perfect family of origin.

This is pretty basic.

If my parents had to file for bankruptcy at some point in their lives what does that have to do with me and what does that mean about my ability to manage finances? Absolutely nothing b/c I am a separate person from my parents.

It doesn't mean looking at IRS records of last 50 years but basic financial responsibility. Kids often inherit lifestyle decisions and often have to rescue parents and siblings which effects lives of tveir spouses and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

I think she is actually wee todd id.

[Anonymous]

I am thin and cute, I was able to pull many high-value guys for dates but they did not want to keep me around. I am sort of deadpan, serious and not bubbly at all...a coworker described me as "aloof". I really believe men want HAPPY, SMILING women and I feel like that matters even more than looks.