What distinguishes an "average woman" from an "above average" woman for dating and marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

[Anonymous]

*good looking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

So who did you end up with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

You forgot looks.

My above average looking seven figure earning BIL is looking for a wife. I tried to introduce him to the nicest person I know who is an amazing person inside and out. She has a plain face and doesn’t have a model figure. She isn’t exactly thin. BIL wouldn’t even meet her because he didn’t find her attractive. As a female, I think she is soooooooo attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think most people think above average people are average and average people are unattractive.

Don’t 90% of guys want the same 10% of women?

Even at my child’s high school, there are very few attractive girls. Most girls are average and below average. All the guys want the same few girls. Dating apps are the same. Even if you are not that attractive, you will still be attracted to the same attractive women.

This is true. I was more attractive in my twenties than in high school because I got my nose fixed and starting taking care of my skin, wearing light makeup and doing my hair (in high school, I was an athlete and just didn't care about those things). I went from almost no attention from boys to having my pick in twenties. The only thing that changed was my appearance.

[Anonymous]

It's much more important for most people to be at least around average in all important categories and to avoid being too far behind the below average in any deal breaker type category.

I.e. charming sexy makes a lot of money but is a problem drinker or spendaholic. What kills relationships are the deal breakers. You can get straight As in all but one category but if you get an F in something important, you flunk the LTR test

[Anonymous]

If you don't get it, you don't have it and you are not high value anything.
Plys it might be different in different cultures, personalities and strata.
For me personally, it means highly educated and high IQ and not from a trashy family.

[Anonymous]

Looks and figure are most important ideally thin blonde and European descent after that is attitude and kindless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

You forgot looks.

My above average looking seven figure earning BIL is looking for a wife. I tried to introduce him to the nicest person I know who is an amazing person inside and out. She has a plain face and doesn’t have a model figure. She isn’t exactly thin. BIL wouldn’t even meet her because he didn’t find her attractive. As a female, I think she is soooooooo attractive.

I did and added later.

His loss but beauty is in tge eyes of beholder. If a person doesn't feel attracted to someone, than it doesn't how beautiful they are. We are humans with different tastes and preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

So who did you end up with?

I married the smart hard working guy. I picked right. He is well respected and at the top of his field. His earnings are probably what makes him high value. I appreciate much more what an amazing father he is. My kids are lucky to have him. I often feel lucky that my daughter has such a loving and doting dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

All of those are important, but I'd prefer a state university gal over ivy educated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

I am sure you will find that. A perfect family of origin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

You forgot looks.

My above average looking seven figure earning BIL is looking for a wife. I tried to introduce him to the nicest person I know who is an amazing person inside and out. She has a plain face and doesn’t have a model figure. She isn’t exactly thin. BIL wouldn’t even meet her because he didn’t find her attractive. As a female, I think she is soooooooo attractive.

I did and added later.

His loss but beauty is in tge eyes of beholder. If a person doesn't feel attracted to someone, than it doesn't how beautiful they are. We are humans with different tastes and preferences.

+1

I know many women who believe in their head that they are better looking than they actually are, IRL. Look around.

[Anonymous]

I got a guy others would consider "high value" (high earner, attractive, excellent dad, good husband, etc.) and I'm so glad I didn't try to change who I was or act differently to get a husband. He loved me for me, and after 16 years he still does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

Family: Emotionally and financially stable family with no racism, addiction, bankruptcy, debt, legal issues. Good marital and parenting role models.

Person: Emotionally stable. Interest in sex. Well educated and well employed. Good nature and good ethics. No serious prior relationship baggage. Decent social and financial skills. No debt. No addiction. Interest and ability for parenting. Good communication skills. Even temper. Basic home running skills, at least knowing how to delegate and organize work.

Not necessarily in that order.

I am sure you will find that. A perfect family of origin.

+1

Married 30 years and laughing way out loud about the "person" "requirements". Never mind the "family" "requirements".

Good luck, though!