PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
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Anonymous
Really? What happens if someone lost a lot of weight because their child died? |
Anonymous
Ridiculous. My DH is easy going and dropped a ton of weight due to a serious health issue. Every time it came up it was a reminder that *he might die*. Even when he started saying "I"m having some serious health issues" some people just could not take the hint and just kept blabbing their stupid mouths. Don't be that person. If you really can't think of anything else to say to someone, just say "It's great to see you. You look great." And if the person drops hints about working out all the time or their new diet, then, yes, you could probably say something. |
Anonymous
No - it is rude, period. Yes you can get away with it in some cases but you are still being rude. |
Anonymous
Oh the irony. Apparently the PSA is indeed needed since many aren’t aware this is poor manners. |
Anonymous
It’s not rude because you say it’s rude. |
Anonymous
I lost 80lbs. over 5 years and distinctly remember no one saying anything until I hit 30. 30 was the magic number for people noticing |
Anonymous
How often does this happen to you in reality. Plus PSA to ransoms internet strangers is stupid. And attention seeking. Grow up and tell the person actually saying it to you. We frankly don’t give a damn about you and again, your PSA is stupid and the wrong audience. |
Anonymous
So you can say they look great? |
Anonymous
NP. So much vitriol about this topic, PP. Not sure why this seems to trigger such anger in you; if it's merely an unwanted "PSA" to you, roll your eyes and go find a thread that doesn't raise your blood pressure so much. The OP clearly has had experience recently with insensitive comments and needs to vent a little and maybe give others something to think about which they hadn't considered before. Yet you seem so personally offended and worked up. By the way, a PSA just for you, PP: Responding "How often does this happen in reality?" to the person telling you that sometimes "someone lost a lot of weight because their child died" is incredibly insensitive of you. Yes, it does happen "in reality" whether you care to believe it or not. I've known different people who dropped weight due to a spouse's serious medical crisis, a divorce, depression, PTSD. Do you want to say, "How often do those things happen in reality?" about those things too? |
Anonymous
| My co-worker lost a lot of weight, and all I could think about was that she might be very sick. I never mentioned anything until she did. Apparently she was upset we all kept quiet. |
Anonymous
Why do people keep insisting this? Again, it’s individual. Some people think it’s rude, but many others don’t. Take your cue for the person AND your relationship with them! |
Anonymous
You are nuts. |
Anonymous
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Yeah don’t comment on people’s bodies. It is rude. I lost 150lbs, and the constant “You look great!” Was a constant reminder that I must have looked absolutely horrible before, when I thought I looked fine.
It is also is a reminder of how invisible you are overweight. People that saw me every day for years never said a word to me, never even a hello, wouldn’t hold the elevator for me, now suddenly noticed me a thin person. It broke my heart. Additionally everyone is not using Ozempic or had weight loss surgery But would be ashamed it I did. |
Anonymous
| ^Would NOT BE ASHAMED, it I did (use Ozempic or had weight loss surgery) |
Anonymous
| So if I see you and I think you look great I’m not supposed to say anything? |