PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!

[Anonymous]

I would not comment on your weight, unless you were my close friend - can’t hide anything from me girl!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.

It really is quite rude to comment on a person's weight. Even if it's meant to be complimentary. You can always bring it up yourself.

This is really individual. Some think it’s rude, others are delighted. Take your cue from how easy-going people are in other areas of their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.

It really is quite rude to comment on a person's weight. Even if it's meant to be complimentary. You can always bring it up yourself.

This is really individual. Some think it’s rude, others are delighted. Take your cue from how easy-going people are in other areas of their life.

No. I’m easy going, I would never express my displeasure at someone commenting on my weight loss. But I hate it.

[Anonymous]

Good PSA. Commenting on people’s bodies is rude.

[Anonymous]

I love when ppl comment on my weight loss. I had a very stressful few years and totally ballooned and worked my butt off to take it all off and then some. I appreciate when ppl notice.

[Anonymous]

I hear you OP! Having been in your shoes, I too find it uncomfortable. I hope you are happy and feel healthy!

[Anonymous]

Agree that it’s people wondering if you’ll volunteer taking Ozempic.

[Anonymous]

I lost over 60lb through diet and exercise a few years back and didn’t mind people commenting on it at all - it was hard work and I was proud of it. OP, some people lose weight and don’t want others to comment and others like me and another PP lose it and love for people to comment. There is no way to please everyone and so people will end up erring no matter what; so if you really don’t want someone to mention it to you, let people know and most of them will stop.

Also, people always comment on big life changes - it’s just human nature. Nobody comments on my weight loss any more because it’s old news by now. If your weight remains static, after a while nobody will comment on yours either. It’s a short lived annoyance at most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.

I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.

I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.

If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”

If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.

So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.

Uh, no. I lost 60 pounds and am thrilled when people mention it. Aside from the chance that I am sick, which I'm not, I am delighted that friends of long standing acknowledge my hard work

[Anonymous]

There’s nothing wrong with taking Ozempic. It’s a weight loss medicine. Don’t act like it’s a bad, dirty secret and don’t disparage people taking it.

[Anonymous]

This is so hard for people. I know so many people who get offended when I don't notice weight loss. Sometimes I say things like "you are looking so healthy and strong!" but then I wonder if people get offended at that too.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do and view someone's weight as entirely their business, but as you can already see from this thread, some people find it rude not to comment. I'm not going to start, but not to worry -- my MIL will make sure to comment on everyone's relative weights any time she sees you so it will not go unnoticed if you want it to be noticed.

My MIL does that & she thinks I’m too thin. Ha! I am far from thin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost a lot of weight after being hospitalized for a serious illness and I had a colleague who wouldn’t shut up about how great I looked. It was a really strange experience.

This happened after my dad went through a terminal illness and died. I dropped weight until I was skeletal from stress, grief and worry and women would tell me how great I looked, so skinny—even those that knew what I was going through.

I looked awful. Hallowed out temples , etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree that it’s people wondering if you’ll volunteer taking Ozempic.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s nothing wrong with taking Ozempic. It’s a weight loss medicine. Don’t act like it’s a bad, dirty secret and don’t disparage people taking it.

My first thought was “did she take ozempic?” Lol