PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a sister who used to share her weight loss processes and journeys with siblings and parents. I never brought up her weight loss but engaged with her when she did. This time around, after 20 years of her trying to lose weight, even as recent as the beginning of the pandemic, silence. No mention of her weight loss journey or process and she’s lost, if I had to guess, 60 pounds. More than she’s ever loss even in her 20s although I suspect she’s lost close to that amount before. And she’s been keeping it off longer than she ever did. She’s in her late 40s now and she looks like doo doo, she has aged considerably. So now she wears a ton of makeup and crew neck/ mock neck shirts to try to hide her aging skin. While I know it’s from semaglutide, she’s not sharing but that’s ok. I’ll keep to myself how bad she looks and we will go about our business. We all will age if we live long enough but she will continue to age on top of what her significant and rapid weight loss has done to date.

I said that to say, not all silence comes from the same place.

Why on earth wouldn't she share her journey with such a loving, supportive sister! It's especially touching how concerned you are about her health.

Lol people only want to take from posts what they want.

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Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.

It really is quite rude to comment on a person's weight. Even if it's meant to be complimentary. You can always bring it up yourself.

This is really individual. Some think it’s rude, others are delighted. Take your cue from how easy-going people are in other areas of their life.

Right but as has been pointed out, it could also be because of a terrible illness etc., and a very hard thing to hear even if youare easy going

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Anonymous wrote:I lost 30lbs and people constantly tell me how great I look. I love it!

OP you really need to grow some thicker skin and stop looking to be offended.

Why can't you see the other side....some people don't like it. Thats ok too.

This reminds me of my aunt who once went on a long tirade about how she likes being whistled at on the street and how the feminists have ruined it.

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Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.

I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.

I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.

If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”

If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.

So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.

They are wondering if you will volunteer that you are taking Ozempic.

Bingo.

I probably know 8 people who, for the last 10 years were fat, are now bordering on underweight. So weird that all of this happened in the same year.

I can’t tell if you are dumb or just not funny.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I am going to say something. You will just have to tough it out OP.

Seriously. Why though? Are you only only saying the look great because they lost the weight? Would you say something if they lost the only the weight but otherwise looked just normal and not great? In other words, is the "You look great " compliment for the weight loss only? Real questions.

Signed,
Previously 308lbs now 156lbs.

NP

If someone lost weight but looked terrible I wouldn’t say “you look great!” I wouldn’t say anything. If someone lost weight and was all toned and peppy, I’d say “you look great!” because they do.

And yet no one needs you to say anything. Because they don't.

Well by that logic no one needs to say anything at all, ever. About anything, unless it’s life threatening. Seems like that’s where we’re headed.

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Anonymous wrote:I lost 30lbs and people constantly tell me how great I look. I love it!

OP you really need to grow some thicker skin and stop looking to be offended.

Why can't you see the other side....some people don't like it. Thats ok too.

This reminds me of my aunt who once went on a long tirade about how she likes being whistled at on the street and how the feminists have ruined it.

She’s not wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I am going to say something. You will just have to tough it out OP.

Me too. I’ve known many friends who have been overweight who are delighted when people acknowledge their hard work in losing it. I think you are an outlier, at least among the type of people I am friends with. I will also acknowledge your fantastic hair cut, your stylish outfit, your brightened white teeth. Maybe we just wouldn’t be friends if that isn’t your style, and that’s ok.

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Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.

It really is quite rude to comment on a person's weight. Even if it's meant to be complimentary. You can always bring it up yourself.

This is really individual. Some think it’s rude, others are delighted. Take your cue from how easy-going people are in other areas of their life.

No - it is rude, period. Yes you can get away with it in some cases but you are still being rude.

No, it isn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:PSA, you don't need to post to a public anonymous board that you managed your way into being offended when people say you look great after losing a lot of weight. God forbid.

Really? What happens if someone lost a lot of weight because their child died?

Are we talking about random people or friends, family members? Because I would already know if this happened if I’m talking to a friend or family member. Frankly I’d know it about a coworker too.

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I lost weight and got a bunch of weird reactions. Many people said I looked great and that made me feel good. Other people asked me if I was okay, if I was sick, etc and that didn't make me feel good. One lady I work with on occasion said nothing but stared at my clavicle area with a look of horror and disgust, and that made me feel the worst of all.

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Anonymous wrote:I lost weight and got a bunch of weird reactions. Many people said I looked great and that made me feel good. Other people asked me if I was okay, if I was sick, etc and that didn't make me feel good. One lady I work with on occasion said nothing but stared at my clavicle area with a look of horror and disgust, and that made me feel the worst of all.

Right lady.

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I’ve lost almost 100 pounds, but that was mostly because I got very sick when I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I hate when people mention my weight, because it was lost because I was so unhealthy and sick. Not the way I wanted to become a size 6, and now I get all the judgement from people who say I’m taking medications from diabetics..,.,.. WHEN I AM DIABETIC, but I don’t need to tell you that!

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No one on this thread who says they insist on commenting on other people’s bodies is making a good case for why they are good.

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I live in Los Angeles and here you would think that people would know better, being all progressive and all, but they really don’t. Surprisingly, it’s only people from the east coast who have said to me “you look really good!!!!” instead of asking how I lost weight and is it ozempic.

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I'm obese, but I recently lost 30 pounds and no one has commented. Maybe I'm so fat that they don't notice? Or maybe everyone is afraid to say anything? I'm not sure which.

I don't need anyone to comment, but honestly I'm just very surprised I lost 4 clothing sizes without any comments at all.