PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.

I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.

I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.

If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”

If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.

So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.

I had lost a serious amount of weight and did not realize it for a long time. No one mentioned it and I figured it was because no one cared enough about whether I was alive or not. Sometimes not saying something is akin to being an accomplice to someone’s demise.

Someone I had class with HS had turned into an anorexic, and I’m glad our friend group brought her extreme weight loss to the attention of administrators. A friend’s DH had also gone down this path a few years ago and he died of it.

It is a fine line. I get that it is annoying when your weight fluctuates and you just want to be left alone about it, but there are times we really do need to inquire and/or intervene.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost 30lbs and people constantly tell me how great I look. I love it!

OP you really need to grow some thicker skin and stop looking to be offended.

Why can't you see the other side....some people don't like it. Thats ok too.

This reminds me of my aunt who once went on a long tirade about how she likes being whistled at on the street and how the feminists have ruined it.

She's right, they have ruined it. A little whistle of appreciation for me personally is mood booster. And it's never gone beyond that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm obese, but I recently lost 30 pounds and no one has commented. Maybe I'm so fat that they don't notice? Or maybe everyone is afraid to say anything? I'm not sure which.

I don't need anyone to comment, but honestly I'm just very surprised I lost 4 clothing sizes without any comments at all.

Good for you, PP! Congrats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.

I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.

I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.

If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”

If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.

So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.

I had lost a serious amount of weight and did not realize it for a long time. No one mentioned it and I figured it was because no one cared enough about whether I was alive or not. Sometimes not saying something is akin to being an accomplice to someone’s demise.

Someone I had class with HS had turned into an anorexic, and I’m glad our friend group brought her extreme weight loss to the attention of administrators. A friend’s DH had also gone down this path a few years ago and he died of it.

It is a fine line. I get that it is annoying when your weight fluctuates and you just want to be left alone about it, but there are times we really do need to inquire and/or intervene.

I think most people here are discussing overweight people who got to a normal weight, not normal size people who become scarily thin. What you are talking about is almost a health emergency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.

I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.

I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.

If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”

If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.

So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.

I had lost a serious amount of weight and did not realize it for a long time. No one mentioned it and I figured it was because no one cared enough about whether I was alive or not. Sometimes not saying something is akin to being an accomplice to someone’s demise.

Someone I had class with HS had turned into an anorexic, and I’m glad our friend group brought her extreme weight loss to the attention of administrators. A friend’s DH had also gone down this path a few years ago and he died of it.

It is a fine line. I get that it is annoying when your weight fluctuates and you just want to be left alone about it, but there are times we really do need to inquire and/or intervene.

I think most people here are discussing overweight people who got to a normal weight, not normal size people who become scarily thin. What you are talking about is almost a health emergency.

How can you know that an obese person’s weight loss isn’t a health emergency?? There isn’t. And some people, even large people, may not notice or cannot see / acknowledge especially if the weight is unintentionally lost.

[Anonymous]

Wegovy FTW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wegovy FTW.

Doesn't work for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost 30lbs and people constantly tell me how great I look. I love it!

OP you really need to grow some thicker skin and stop looking to be offended.

Why can't you see the other side....some people don't like it. Thats ok too.

This reminds me of my aunt who once went on a long tirade about how she likes being whistled at on the street and how the feminists have ruined it.

She's right, they have ruined it. A little whistle of appreciation for me personally is mood booster. And it's never gone beyond that.

Np. I hate it when men whistle and cat call me. It is not a compliement to most women. I am glad things have changed. I do not need a strange man to make me feel good about myself.