How do you know if you are good in bed?

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Anonymous wrote:Because your partners are very reluctant to give up sleeping with you and will stick around for a long time.

This.

I def treated some ex GFs like garbage but most of them were more than willing to hop back in the sack

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Anonymous wrote:Because a guy blurted out once “I have the best sex with you!” Once completely out of the blue. And he had slept with dozens of people before me.

Not to burst your little bubble, but he tells every girl the same thing. Don’t be so naive.

I don’t care if he does or doesn’t. He was very insecure around me, as he perceived me to be more beautiful than he deserved. ANd he was also a bit nuts, as he was majorly prone to jealousy. I dumped him quickly.

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Because I like it and so does he.
-Middle-aged woman

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Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

You kidding me, right? I cannot even tell you how many times I've had sex when I didn't want to. His exact words were "women just do it", and he was right. We just do it even if we don't want to.

[Anonymous]

First time ever I have sex with someone I'm crazy about. I'm crazy about him as a person and his body. I cannot my hands and mouth off of him.
It was supposed to be just sex, but he is not good at sharing me. If I could get myself off more than I do, he'd be more impresses. I need to have my hormones checked, but I have no problem telling him that I can't pull it off today and I'd rather work on him.

[Anonymous]

People who are best in bed instinctively understand the balance of intimacy and distance. They typically give enough sex but less than you think you want. Never too much and never more than you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. With the average woman, she will climax 3-5 times per session with me.

Doubtful.

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Anonymous wrote:Because your partners are very reluctant to give up sleeping with you and will stick around for a long time.

This.

I def treated some ex GFs like garbage but most of them were more than willing to hop back in the sack

Yeah, I had a couple boyfriends where the breakup just couldn't stick, they kept coming back for more. Most relationships went on for years... Sex was definitely the glue that held it all together and we ignored big incompatibilities.

My husband and I were joking about the Curb Your Enthusiasm episode where some guy is talking about his wife's "magic vagina" and he dies and then Larry becomes obsessed. My husband was like "you have one!" I'll take that as a compliment 😂. I do know how to enjoy myself and am orgasmic, which I think men take a lot of pleasure in and feel some sense of accomplishment about.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

If you're female, it's a virtual certainty that at least once in your life you've had sex with someone who was more into you than you into him.

Yeah but that's not "someone you don't like".

Kind of grown out of like with my husband ... but I still have sex with him b/c want to keep the marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

You kidding me, right? I cannot even tell you how many times I've had sex when I didn't want to. His exact words were "women just do it", and he was right. We just do it even if we don't want to.

So do men. Men and boys have sex because it is easier vs saying no. Women do not like hearing no.

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There are very different responses depending on if hetero male or female. If you’re a man and not spending a fair amount of time ( with her direction) performing oral or digital manipulation, or using a more efficient toy- chances are you’re not that great in bed. Being well-endowed will certainly help mitigate this, but staying on interminably waiting for her to arrive results in MOST faking it.

As a very well-endowed guy I still spend 90% of the time on oral and digital not PIV, so it’s maybe at most an ancillary benefit.

As a woman I consider oral/digital and PIV basic literacy. What makes a man great in bed is a combination trust, connection and how he puts it together -- choreography if you will.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. With the average woman, she will climax 3-5 times per session with me.

Doubtful.

Woman. Sorry you are not alive.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

There are very different responses depending on if hetero male or female. If you’re a man and not spending a fair amount of time ( with her direction) performing oral or digital manipulation, or using a more efficient toy- chances are you’re not that great in bed. Being well-endowed will certainly help mitigate this, but staying on interminably waiting for her to arrive results in MOST faking it.

As a very well-endowed guy I still spend 90% of the time on oral and digital not PIV, so it’s maybe at most an ancillary benefit.

As a woman I consider oral/digital and PIV basic literacy. What makes a man great in bed is a combination trust, connection and how he puts it together -- choreography if you will.

100%

-Np, also woman

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Men tell me. I always orgasm from PIV and know how to make my body respond to their movements/direct them. The BJ queens always come off as desperate even though they want to seem sexy... It's the intercourse ones who are the ones men think are good in bed.

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I just know I am.

Middle-aged woman