How do you know if you are good in bed?

[Anonymous]

There are very different responses depending on if hetero male or female. If you’re a man and not spending a fair amount of time ( with her direction) performing oral or digital manipulation, or using a more efficient toy- chances are you’re not that great in bed. Being well-endowed will certainly help mitigate this, but staying on interminably waiting for her to arrive results in MOST faking it.
And please, I don’t want to hear from the small and vocal contingent who can get there from PIV- you don’t do your sisters any favors by discussing your unicorn sparkles. It only confuses men.

For women, it is different and the bar is probably lower. Being an enthusiastic participant eager to please AND be pleased is all that is required for most men. As someone mentioned in a preceding post, sometimes being too uninhibited or skilled is a bit more than some men want. So being the BJ Queen isn’t going to necessarily result in multiple marriage proposals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There are very different responses depending on if hetero male or female. If you’re a man and not spending a fair amount of time ( with her direction) performing oral or digital manipulation, or using a more efficient toy- chances are you’re not that great in bed. Being well-endowed will certainly help mitigate this, but staying on interminably waiting for her to arrive results in MOST faking it.
And please, I don’t want to hear from the small and vocal contingent who can get there from PIV- you don’t do your sisters any favors by discussing your unicorn sparkles. It only confuses men.

For women, it is different and the bar is probably lower. Being an enthusiastic participant eager to please AND be pleased is all that is required for most men. As someone mentioned in a preceding post, sometimes being too uninhibited or skilled is a bit more than some men want. So being the BJ Queen isn’t going to necessarily result in multiple marriage proposals.

And then we are surprised when people have affairs / seek sex outside of marriage ...

[Anonymous]

oh man, you ladies are so f'ed. and i don't even mean that literally... well, maybe i do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There are very different responses depending on if hetero male or female. If you’re a man and not spending a fair amount of time ( with her direction) performing oral or digital manipulation, or using a more efficient toy- chances are you’re not that great in bed. Being well-endowed will certainly help mitigate this, but staying on interminably waiting for her to arrive results in MOST faking it.

As a very well-endowed guy I still spend 90% of the time on oral and digital not PIV, so it’s maybe at most an ancillary benefit.

[Anonymous]

It 100% depends on whether your sex partner is into you.

The best sex of your life will be with someone you're passionately obsessed with and just somewhat insecure about.

[Anonymous]

Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

If you're female, it's a virtual certainty that at least once in your life you've had sex with someone who was more into you than you into him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

If you're female, it's a virtual certainty that at least once in your life you've had sex with someone who was more into you than you into him.

Yeah but that's not "someone you don't like".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

If you're female, it's a virtual certainty that at least once in your life you've had sex with someone who was more into you than you into him.

Yeah but that's not "someone you don't like".

Well, actually any young woman who has had drunk, semi-coerced sex will tell you that she actively disliked her aggressive partner at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex with someone you don't like, even if his technique is objectively perfect, will never be great.

Under what circumstances would you end up having sex with someone you don't like unless you are paid to do so. I don't get you.

Welcome to the real world.

Mid-50s male. A professional woman in the DMV made it abundantly clear that she wanted to please me orally after our dinner date. I let her, but we didn’t see each other again. Nice woman, but I wasn’t that attracted to her.

In short, it happens.

[Anonymous]

Yes. With the average woman, she will climax 3-5 times per session with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

There are very different responses depending on if hetero male or female. If you’re a man and not spending a fair amount of time ( with her direction) performing oral or digital manipulation, or using a more efficient toy- chances are you’re not that great in bed. Being well-endowed will certainly help mitigate this, but staying on interminably waiting for her to arrive results in MOST faking it.

As a very well-endowed guy I still spend 90% of the time on oral and digital not PIV, so it’s maybe at most an ancillary benefit.

Exactly, and when you don’t get that it can go very wrong. My first gf started crying the first time we had sex. I still cringe and feel a little sick to my stomach thinking about hurting her and how clueless I was. Spend most of your time on the prework and make sure she O’s first and she’ll LOVE the size afterwords.

[Anonymous]

Five-star rating on Yelp.

[Anonymous]

My current bf told me I’m the best sex of his life. Last guy I dated said he was sure I’d never get boring in bed.