What is the earliest age at which you would seriously entertain your AC marrying?
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Anonymous
I am not a right wing nut job. If my 18 year old wanted to get married so be it. If they asked my advice I would probably advise against it, but as an adult they can make their own decisions. I wasn’t that young but I dated a guy in college that my parents loved and wanted me to marry. Broke up with him and started to date my now husband. My parents hated him and thought he was only after a green card and would kidnap our kids and go back to his home country. We got married anyway and my parents have since realized he’s a wonderful husband and even better dad. And he stuck around even after we got his green card! So you really never know. |
Anonymous
There is no “push.” And, the plural of anecdote is not data. The demographic with the absolute lowest divorce rates is college-educated individuals who married between age 25-35. |
Anonymous
| Well, left supports gender change for under 18 but opposes marriage for over 18? |
Anonymous
Almost all of my medical school friends married before 30, 90% are still married after 30 years. However, its just a an extremely thin slice of the population and proves nothing. |
Anonymous
| All of my divorced friends were married. Not a single unmarried friend got divorced. Why the push for marriage? |
Anonymous
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26. I don’t suppose for a moment that they would get married before then.
No offense to all the people that get married at 17, but it isn’t really our thing. |
Anonymous
25ish. I want to be a younger grandma  . But it really depends on the person and everyones maturity level, school/career timing etc.
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Anonymous
| There is a lot of heartache and fraud out there in dating world. If my kids have their person and want to commit, i'm nit going to suggest to leave them and keep dating randos just because I prefer them to marry after 35. |
Anonymous
This. I married late in life. I had my own issues that I hope my kids won’t have. I hope they meet nice people and I think it would be great if they got married in their twenties. |
Anonymous
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25.
However what if they met the right person before |
Anonymous
| At age 21 or after OP. Not sure why 22 is too young, especially if you want grandchildren. |
Anonymous
Give idea to get engaged after 21 so the other person knows they are committed. Marriage in a couple of years and kids in another couple of years or later, if and when they want. |
Anonymous
Just because someone wants to get engaged at 22, doesn't mean they'll get married next month or have babies next year. |
Anonymous
If you've earmarked some money for their wedding, give it to them at their wedding. It doesn't have to have attached strings of when and with whom. Keep money and parental advice separate. |
Anonymous
| A lot of growth and movement happens in early twenties First job, new cities, relocations, job hopping, figuring out who they are as adults, money matters, etc. For that reason, I would tell my AC to not rush into marriage even if they’ve found their person, they can live together, while they figure themselves out, get stability in the years after college, etc. 26+ would be my vote but I realize I don’t have any control… |