What is the earliest age at which you would seriously entertain your AC marrying?
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Anonymous
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I think if you raise your kids to be confident, practical, and thoughtful, they could get married at 22 and it’s fine. I know people who married high school or college sweethearts at that age and did great— above average lives and lots of economic advantages to doing that.
If your kid is impulsive, lacks self-confidence, then you might worry about their marriage at 30. |
Anonymous
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Realistically, about 32 to 35.
It takes that much time to earn an advanced degree (which we expect) and also to really establish their career and save. |
Anonymous
Most people have a degree and some earning potential by 22, we are fine for them to marry after that if they wish to and have a good partner. They can achieve other goal's together. If they prefer to wait another decade, that's okay too. We don't need them to do what we expect, whatever works for them. Life is short, fertility is limited, they are adults, must chose their own paths. |
Anonymous
| What could any of us do if an adult said they are getting married? |
Anonymous
I guess you don’t care much about seeing your own grandchildren ever. |
Anonymous
Why can’t you get an advanced degree, establish a career, and save after getting married? If anything it’s easier—there is someone else to support you and balance workloads at home while you handle working + school, and having a built in roommate in a spouse makes saving simple. |
Anonymous
I don't understand this. Is it not possible to establish your career and save while married? |
Anonymous
Barring a very few specific paths (medical school with highly specialized/long residency, etc.)...if it takes my child until 32-35 to do those things I would feel as though I have failed as a parent. |
Anonymous
My sister, DH, SIL, BIL, all did their masters and medical residences after marriage and with kids, it was tough in some ways and easier in other. Having someone to come home to is priceless, more so if they are supportive. |
Anonymous
| Kids do complicate things but spouses, specially loving and supportive ones actually help with achievements and goals. |
Anonymous
This^. All the young adults in our family were done with their MBA, MD, JD, MA, MS degrees by the time they were 25-26. |
Anonymous
| Every person's journey is different and so are their capabilities to handle life so there shouldn't be a fixed age to marry but any time between 22-32 is biologically prime time. |
Anonymous
Say Mazel Tov! That being said weddings are not something I am planning to finance especially not expensive ones. If you get married you should be able to finance your own wedding. |
Anonymous
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My sibling married at 22 and is still married 30+ years later. Raised wonderful children.
What I would do is smile and contribute whatever you planned to contribute unless you want to alienate your adult child. |
Anonymous
not necessarily true |