Asked my husband for some basic things for mothers day - now he'll be spending most of the weekend with his parents

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Anonymous wrote:You need to have a come to Jesus with your husband. He is showing you where his priority lays, and this is not a good move for the future and stability of his marriage. If he is going to continue on like that, you will readjust.

Please leave the whole mess for DH to clean. Order in, watch Netflix, take a bath, whatever. And on Father's Day, do nothing.

No man cares if you don't do anything for Father's Day.

[Anonymous]

Can we get clarity on the “three days of fishing”?

ie. Did DH head out at 6am returning late at night to fish with buddies three Saturdays in a row, or did he say “I want to relax part of Saturday and take DS to the lake for a few hours instead of cleaning all day”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one else is going to say it? OK, I will. You're not his mother. And even so, he'll be spending Mother's Day with you, OP. You expect too much. Let him spend one of the weekend days with his family, celebrating his mother.

Yep +1
It’s Mother’s Day, not “wife’s weekend”. Geez. I’m older than you but when my husband asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day, I said to go to dinner with the family on Sunday. That’s it. If I were closer to my mother - who lives 8 hours away- it would’ve been to visit her.

Get a cleaning service in or wait to do a big clean of the house until next weekend.

[Anonymous]

You are his wife, not his mother. It’s strange that you have all these expectations.

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You need a cleaning person. Why is your house so dirty? Or is it that you constantly clean ridiculous stuff every week? Moving furniture and doing what most people consider deep cleaning every single week.

Having the day/weekend to yourself sounds amazing. Let your husband celebrate his mom and grandma. 90 is pretty old and at that age you really are on a countdown.

You likely are appreciated. You just seem to be high in negative emotions. Enjoy your day Saturday and time with your family Sunday. Why not go visit your own mother while your family is gone Saturday?

[Anonymous]

Op I think it’s reasonable that he spend Mother’s Day with his mother.

If you want a Mother’s Day present from him ask him to clean for the whole next months not on Mother’s Day. Let him be with his mother. This seem important for him. Then you get to ask for a cleaning break for not just one weekends, but ask for 4.

Win win for both of you.

[Anonymous]

I would skip cleaning day too, OP. Don’t have a cleaning day. That sounds horrid.

Take a step back for a second a realize you’re asking your husband to skip seeing his 90-something year old grandmother for cleaning day.

[Anonymous]

Why does your post not even mention your DH’s mom? You only mention his grandmother. Do either of you acknowledge your mom on Mother’s Day?

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, you complain a lot.

OP here -

I just wanted to spend time with my family and feel appreciated.

Mother's day is not a weekend event. JFC.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like he’s making the best of the situation by spending time with his mom and spending time with you. Mother’s Day is on Sunday and he spending Saturday with his family.

You will be spending time with your family on Sunday. Take Saturday off and enjoy the day.

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“Just in her 90s” is one of the greatest DCUM lines ever.

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Anonymous wrote:JFC. Can we just cancel Mother’s Day? Every year, the same avalanche of whining.

The expected dcum response. You are a jerk with no reading comprehension skills.

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Anonymous wrote:My FIL called my husband again TODAY and said that now my husbands grandmother will be travelling 2+ hours on Mothers Day and that it "might be her last mothers day" and asked my husband again, to go. My husbands grandmother is not dying, by the way. She is in good health, just in her 90's and every holiday my inlaws insist on spending it with them because it might be "grandmas last year ..."

Grandma is in her 90s. Statistically, there's a decent chance it may indeed be her last Mother's Day.

Your DH isn't going off to play golf, he's going to visit his family. You complain too much.

Op has a valid complaint in that her dh does what he wants when he wants. It sounds like he doesn't listen to her. Op go on strike and maybe take a trip or go to an expensive hotel for the day. Don't do a damn thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a martyr-mom who talks about how for Mother’s Day she only asked for 3 kid-free hours but didn’t get it. So even if this particular post is fake, there are actually people like the OP. They won’t hire cleaners or babysitters because of control issues.

Such misogyny. Moms who don't get time to themselves or have a spouse who flakes on their responsibilities have a valid complaint. Many women deal with issue and we all know it. Some people don't have babysitters and can't afford cleaners. This is so hateful to women who don't have all the supports some of you have.

The term martyr-mom is hateful and shows your bias.

[Anonymous]

Every Mother's Day my husband takes the kids to his mom's and I get a day of being alone! To me that's the only present I need. Reading without interruption, bubble bath, napping...heaven on earth. You sound high maintenance.