S/O You can be canceled even if you aren’t a bigot, it happened to me

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t force anyone to like you or be friends with you.

Sure, but you should be allowed to work somewhere even if people there don’t like you, without having those people make up crap about you to get you run out of town.

Last I checked the US has at-will employment.

So it’s fine fir someone to be forced to quit their job because people made up lies about them? That’s, uh, not what at-will employment means.

It means you can be fired for any reason, except for that reason being BECAUSE you are part of a protected class.

OP here, and I wasn’t fired because the people in charge (which included a person who was spreading this rumor they knew to be untrue) knew I had not done anything firable, and also knew if the fired me for a false rumor, I could sue them.

So instead, my work environment was made so intolerable I eventually left.

They knew exactly what they were doing.

[Anonymous]

OP are you Ilya Shapiro?

[Anonymous]

You are so transparent. Like trotting out the fact that the person of the race you are racist against wasn’t bothered as evidence that you aren’t racist. Is there some sort of book out there that teaches y’all how to deny your racism? Some sort of manual? Because this is textbook

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Anonymous wrote:OP I think what happened to you is that everyone already didn’t like you, for whatever reason. People who are liked and respected don’t get “canceled” for one mistake or ill-considered comment. If these were your colleagues, there was already a problem.

But people often don’t like someone for reasons that are not that person’s fault. What if someone has a mental illness that made them a bummer to be around? If someone started a nasty untrue rumor about that person, people might be eager to believe it because it gives them a “good” reason to dislike someone.

People are not always justified in their distaste for other people. Being unpopular is not actually evidence that you are a bad person.

I don’t have to justify my dislike for anyone.

Good for you. Many people do. Most people are not very independent thinkers and are looking for validation and justification all the time. That’s why starting a little mob is so easy— people like being told what to think, and they like having their worst instincts channeled toward what they’ve been told us a “just cause” even if it’s just attacking someone for something they didn’t do.

Except OP said something racist.

No, I did not. Not even a little racist, not a racist joke. Not racist at all. There is no way to view what I said as racist unless you lie about the words that were said around the comment and invent a context that was not in place when I said it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I think what happened to you is that everyone already didn’t like you, for whatever reason. People who are liked and respected don’t get “canceled” for one mistake or ill-considered comment. If these were your colleagues, there was already a problem.

But people often don’t like someone for reasons that are not that person’s fault. What if someone has a mental illness that made them a bummer to be around? If someone started a nasty untrue rumor about that person, people might be eager to believe it because it gives them a “good” reason to dislike someone.

People are not always justified in their distaste for other people. Being unpopular is not actually evidence that you are a bad person.

I don’t have to justify my dislike for anyone.

But you do have to justify saying mean things about people behind their backs. That's trashy behavior that good people avoid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are so transparent. Like trotting out the fact that the person of the race you are racist against wasn’t bothered as evidence that you aren’t racist. Is there some sort of book out there that teaches y’all how to deny your racism? Some sort of manual? Because this is textbook

What if I’m not racist, never said anything racist, and the person I’m referencing really does agree that it wasn’t racist?

Like what if your narrative of what must have happened is false? What then?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are so transparent. Like trotting out the fact that the person of the race you are racist against wasn’t bothered as evidence that you aren’t racist. Is there some sort of book out there that teaches y’all how to deny your racism? Some sort of manual? Because this is textbook

What if I’m not racist, never said anything racist, and the person I’m referencing really does agree that it wasn’t racist?

Like what if your narrative of what must have happened is false? What then?

You are an unreliable narrator who clearly lacks self awareness and accountability. That’s what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are so transparent. Like trotting out the fact that the person of the race you are racist against wasn’t bothered as evidence that you aren’t racist. Is there some sort of book out there that teaches y’all how to deny your racism? Some sort of manual? Because this is textbook

If it's textbook then you sound like you know the answer to your own question.

[Anonymous]

I recently learned that the people of Salem during the Witch Trials were highly educated and took a lot of steps to ensure they were reaching the right conclusions before they burned the "witches." We tend to think of them as a mob with pitchforks but they were actually very thoughtful in their approach.

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If you won’t repeat it, then it probably was racist.

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I completely see why you don’t want to provide details OP. But you aren’t going to get a bunch of people rushing to support you without details.

I am an employment discrimination lawyer. The certainty with which people believe they have been wronged bears absolutely no relation to whether they have actually been wronged. On both sides of of the equation— the victims and the accusers.

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Anonymous wrote:You are so transparent. Like trotting out the fact that the person of the race you are racist against wasn’t bothered as evidence that you aren’t racist. Is there some sort of book out there that teaches y’all how to deny your racism? Some sort of manual? Because this is textbook

What if I’m not racist, never said anything racist, and the person I’m referencing really does agree that it wasn’t racist?

Like what if your narrative of what must have happened is false? What then?

You are an unreliable narrator who clearly lacks self awareness and accountability. That’s what.

You don't sound very well educated. Books and plays have been written about this subject for years, because mob mentality is part of human nature. It doesn't need pitchforks and flaming straw to be mob mentality, either. Gossip is bullying behavior that has actual consequences for the victims. The gossips are nothing more than weak mob leaders, cowards who can't actually get out there with a pitch fork but wish they could.

This has been going on for as long as there has been human society. It's nothing new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you won’t repeat it, then it probably was racist.

I won’t repeat it because I am afraid of the people who canceled me and I do think they’d find this thread and use it to further discredit me.

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t force anyone to like you or be friends with you.

Sure, but you should be allowed to work somewhere even if people there don’t like you, without having those people make up crap about you to get you run out of town.

Last I checked the US has at-will employment.

So it’s fine fir someone to be forced to quit their job because people made up lies about them? That’s, uh, not what at-will employment means.

It means you can be fired for any reason, except for that reason being BECAUSE you are part of a protected class.

OP here, and I wasn’t fired because the people in charge (which included a person who was spreading this rumor they knew to be untrue) knew I had not done anything firable, and also knew if the fired me for a false rumor, I could sue them.

So instead, my work environment was made so intolerable I eventually left.

They knew exactly what they were doing.

Lol no you couldn’t. Not successfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently learned that the people of Salem during the Witch Trials were highly educated and took a lot of steps to ensure they were reaching the right conclusions before they burned the "witches." We tend to think of them as a mob with pitchforks but they were actually very thoughtful in their approach.

LOL craziest post of all time on DCUM. Hall of famer.