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I can tell by your behavior towards others. Yikes. |
This is not true. Gossip is harmful to most people -- mostly because the subject isn't aware of it and can't defend themselves until others have made up their minds. Gossip is hurtful and wrong. It hurts most people. Don't kid yourself that you are immune. |
Pot meet kettle Check yourself |
Sure, but you should be allowed to work somewhere even if people there don’t like you, without having those people make up crap about you to get you run out of town. |
+1 Obviously the seeds PP is crazy. Kinder to just ignore. |
But people often don’t like someone for reasons that are not that person’s fault. What if someone has a mental illness that made them a bummer to be around? If someone started a nasty untrue rumor about that person, people might be eager to believe it because it gives them a “good” reason to dislike someone. People are not always justified in their distaste for other people. Being unpopular is not actually evidence that you are a bad person. |
Last I checked the US has at-will employment. |
I don’t have to justify my dislike for anyone. |
So it’s fine fir someone to be forced to quit their job because people made up lies about them? That’s, uh, not what at-will employment means. |
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I'm in my 40s. Once in high school, I repeated a joke that was going about on late night TV and one of my friends took offense, said it was racist and repeated it to all and sundry. No one else cared at all, particularly not my other friend, whose Middle Eastern origins had been the center of the joke. Everyone understood that I, a multiracial individual who was always kind to everyone, was not racist. But I learned from this that had my circle been more susceptible to group-think and performative virtue signaling, I could easily have lost friends and disappointed teachers and administration.
So I learned early on to be politically correct except with very close friends and relatives who understand that good humor is transgressive by definition. Nothing in writing, nothing that can be recorded, nothing on social media. And I teach my kids this. I entirely agree with your point, OP. Virtue signaling from not very intelligent people who crave to fit in are a plague, because they don't think for themselves at all. All they do is misapply valid notions of tolerance and respect, but turn them around to use as tools of discrimination. I'm outwardly PC, and keep the funny comments at home. |
It means you can be fired for any reason, except for that reason being BECAUSE you are part of a protected class. |
| Those people were never your true friends. So sorry op. Hopefully you can create a new amazing life and leave those awful people in the dust . |
Good for you. Many people do. Most people are not very independent thinkers and are looking for validation and justification all the time. That’s why starting a little mob is so easy— people like being told what to think, and they like having their worst instincts channeled toward what they’ve been told us a “just cause” even if it’s just attacking someone for something they didn’t do. |
Except OP said something racist. |