Feel like my boyfriend is cheap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he’s not married? That could explain not being able to drop a lot of money without being caught.

Ding! Ding!

Also explain his willingness to make the trip. And gas money for cash gas rather than use a CC that would show where he got the gas.

The one time you went to see him, OP, did you meet somewhere or go to his house?

I was thinking this too.

[Anonymous]

May be he thinks of OP as an independent feminist who wants equality. His mistake. They are both cheap, would make a good couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he’s not married? That could explain not being able to drop a lot of money without being caught.

Ding! Ding!

Also explain his willingness to make the trip. And gas money for cash gas rather than use a CC that would show where he got the gas.

The one time you went to see him, OP, did you meet somewhere or go to his house?

I was thinking this too.

We met somewhere. It was early on in dating. I've never gotten a married vibe from him. He's always available and facetime's from home a lot. I guess I could do some double checking.

[Anonymous]

I was not prepared for the gas money comment. That may fly in college, but if you are above 22 that is nuts.

[Anonymous]

I unfortunately don’t think this is fake. I think people have a hard time believing someone could be so clueless that they assume the OP is a troll. Take this real scenario for example: My sister was once invited by the man she was dating to come and dine at the super upscale restaurant he owned in a Colorado ski resort. They had a great meal there with another couple he had invited to eat with them as well. When the meal was over the guy asked my sister to put down money to cover the tip for their waiter. She was so shocked she just pulled out her purse and left the cash on the table. On a date with the owner of the restaurant. With another couple he had invited that she had never met before.

This story lives on in infamy in my family. I’m looking the guy up now to see what became of him.

So yes, these hideously rude scenarios really do happen.

[Anonymous]

Omg gas money?? Break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I unfortunately don’t think this is fake. I think people have a hard time believing someone could be so clueless that they assume the OP is a troll. Take this real scenario for example: My sister was once invited by the man she was dating to come and dine at the super upscale restaurant he owned in a Colorado ski resort. They had a great meal there with another couple he had invited to eat with them as well. When the meal was over the guy asked my sister to put down money to cover the tip for their waiter. She was so shocked she just pulled out her purse and left the cash on the table. On a date with the owner of the restaurant. With another couple he had invited that she had never met before.

This story lives on in infamy in my family. I’m looking the guy up now to see what became of him.

So yes, these hideously rude scenarios really do happen.

Please update.

[Anonymous]

the guy is more than just cheap, he is bizarre. And the OP is bizarre if she needs to crowdsource this in order to know what to think. it's like asking whether it's rude to masturbate under the table in a nice restaurant - if you gotta ask, you are pretty wierd too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spending freely on himself and cheaping out on you is a bad sign. It’ll only get worse in the long run.

This. He’s demonstrated his priorities. Don’t waste another second (or penny).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I unfortunately don’t think this is fake. I think people have a hard time believing someone could be so clueless that they assume the OP is a troll. Take this real scenario for example: My sister was once invited by the man she was dating to come and dine at the super upscale restaurant he owned in a Colorado ski resort. They had a great meal there with another couple he had invited to eat with them as well. When the meal was over the guy asked my sister to put down money to cover the tip for their waiter. She was so shocked she just pulled out her purse and left the cash on the table. On a date with the owner of the restaurant. With another couple he had invited that she had never met before.

This story lives on in infamy in my family. I’m looking the guy up now to see what became of him.

So yes, these hideously rude scenarios really do happen.

Why is it so bad that she was asked to cover the tip? Sound like your sister is a free rider.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I unfortunately don’t think this is fake. I think people have a hard time believing someone could be so clueless that they assume the OP is a troll. Take this real scenario for example: My sister was once invited by the man she was dating to come and dine at the super upscale restaurant he owned in a Colorado ski resort. They had a great meal there with another couple he had invited to eat with them as well. When the meal was over the guy asked my sister to put down money to cover the tip for their waiter. She was so shocked she just pulled out her purse and left the cash on the table. On a date with the owner of the restaurant. With another couple he had invited that she had never met before.

This story lives on in infamy in my family. I’m looking the guy up now to see what became of him.

So yes, these hideously rude scenarios really do happen.

Why is it so bad that she was asked to cover the tip? Sound like your sister is a free rider.

Read more carefully

[Anonymous]

I know it’s not the same, but my DH is this way.

He would gladly spend money on a luxury car, extra sports car, $$$ home, custom sports jackets, his watch collection, vacations, etc. Today we ate taco Tuesday because thats what was discounted, and he gets annoyed because my daughter insists on a full price entre even though the tacos are the deal. (The irony is he offered to pay her $5 to try a taco)

He took me to a $$$ restaurant on my birthday but eats a Costco hotdog for Saturday lunch . He just doesn’t see the value in spending money on food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it’s not the same, but my DH is this way.

He would gladly spend money on a luxury car, extra sports car, $$$ home, custom sports jackets, his watch collection, vacations, etc. Today we ate taco Tuesday because thats what was discounted, and he gets annoyed because my daughter insists on a full price entre even though the tacos are the deal. (The irony is he offered to pay her $5 to try a taco)

He took me to a $$$ restaurant on my birthday but eats a Costco hotdog for Saturday lunch . He just doesn’t see the value in spending money on food.

Yeah, but does he see value in spending on the family in other areas? Or is he just spends with himself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I unfortunately don’t think this is fake. I think people have a hard time believing someone could be so clueless that they assume the OP is a troll. Take this real scenario for example: My sister was once invited by the man she was dating to come and dine at the super upscale restaurant he owned in a Colorado ski resort. They had a great meal there with another couple he had invited to eat with them as well. When the meal was over the guy asked my sister to put down money to cover the tip for their waiter. She was so shocked she just pulled out her purse and left the cash on the table. On a date with the owner of the restaurant. With another couple he had invited that she had never met before.

This story lives on in infamy in my family. I’m looking the guy up now to see what became of him.

So yes, these hideously rude scenarios really do happen.

Why is it so bad that she was asked to cover the tip? Sound like your sister is a free rider.

No, that is just rude. If you own a restaurant and you invite someone on a date their you are essentially hosting them at your business/in your home of sorts. You are inviting them to experience something that is a part of you. You host.

If you own a restaurant and suggest to someone that they should come eat sometime - “let me know if you ever need a table!” then that is a different vibe. In that case you are saying “I will make sure you get a table” but you come and tend to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Holy crap OP!!!!

For reference, my husband was in between jobs and broke when we got engaged.

But gas money??? This is pathological OP, not financial. This dude has like a frugality disorder. Run Forrest Run for the freaking hills!