Feel like my boyfriend is cheap

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he’s not married? That could explain not being able to drop a lot of money without being caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a generally good relationship with my new boyfriend (4 months). However, he is cheap when it comes to dating. In other areas of his life he is a big spender (car, clothes, etc). He is a high earner, and I earn less than him. He takes me on cheap dates and not as frequently as I'd like. We live 1.5 hours apart and he always drives to my area, which I appreciate. The last time he came he over he asked me for gas money! I was really turned off. At the outset of dating I told him I thought the distance was too much, but he insisted that he'd happily take on the burden. Should I talk to him about this or just break up?

Well, there is usually more to a person than their spending habits. He may earn more but could be frugal, in debt, saving for a house or helping family etc. For all we know, he is posting on another forum about his cheap girlfriend who doesn't pay for gas or food while he is commuting three hours per trip to see her. How much do you spend on him?

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you deserve better

OP is a bad troll.

You are a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a generally good relationship with my new boyfriend (4 months). However, he is cheap when it comes to dating. In other areas of his life he is a big spender (car, clothes, etc). He is a high earner, and I earn less than him. He takes me on cheap dates and not as frequently as I'd like. We live 1.5 hours apart and he always drives to my area, which I appreciate. The last time he came he over he asked me for gas money! I was really turned off. At the outset of dating I told him I thought the distance was too much, but he insisted that he'd happily take on the burden. Should I talk to him about this or just break up?

Well, there is usually more to a person than their spending habits. He may earn more but could be frugal, in debt, saving for a house or helping family etc. For all we know, he is posting on another forum about his cheap girlfriend who doesn't pay for gas or food while he is commuting three hours per trip to see her. How much do you spend on him?

I always cook nice meals for him when he comes to visit, as a way to show I appreciate and reciprocate his effort.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe he asked for gas money but also can’t believe in 4 months he has done all the driving and you’ve only driven to him once. This is rude of you too. My now spouse and I lived long distance ( Laurel MD and Loudoun VA ) but took turns or met in the middle sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Red Pillers sometimes make a game of trying to date as cheaply as possible/by getting women to pay for them. I’d worry for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe he asked for gas money but also can’t believe in 4 months he has done all the driving and you’ve only driven to him once. This is rude of you too. My now spouse and I lived long distance ( Laurel MD and Loudoun VA ) but took turns or met in the middle sometimes.

This is not rude of me. I was not aware of our distance when we first connected. Once I found out I told him I’ve enjoyed talking with him but don’t think we should date because that level of distance was prohibitive to me. He volunteered to always be the driver and said it was not an issue. I offer to meet in the middle sometimes but he usually declines.

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Anonymous wrote:Gas money, oh my. I would ghost.

+1

That would be it for me.

I'm a man and a teacher so I obviously have to watch what I spend but I can't imagine doing this. Wow.

Guy here, and yeah, this is ridiculous. What a tool! This is a guy you are going to laugh about later, after you break up with him.

Same here… I read this about busted out laughing. I lived in the Bay Area and dated a girl that lived in Sacramento. I paid for everything and asking for gas money never crossed my mind. I second the notion, a tool!

[Anonymous]

Op is def a troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op is def a troll

Why do you think this?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure he’s not married? That could explain not being able to drop a lot of money without being caught.

Ding! Ding!

Also explain his willingness to make the trip. And gas money for cash gas rather than use a CC that would show where he got the gas.

The one time you went to see him, OP, did you meet somewhere or go to his house?

[Anonymous]

Op it IS rude of you to not offer to pay for some dates. What’s wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op it IS rude of you to not offer to pay for some dates. What’s wrong with you?

She reciprocates, look at prior comments.

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Anonymous wrote:If he’s a big spender in other areas of his life, but not when it comes to you, that says a lot about how important you are to him.

This in a nutshell.

So sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

This is fake.