Feel like my boyfriend is cheap

[Anonymous]

Have a generally good relationship with my new boyfriend (4 months). However, he is cheap when it comes to dating. In other areas of his life he is a big spender (car, clothes, etc). He is a high earner, and I earn less than him. He takes me on cheap dates and not as frequently as I'd like. We live 1.5 hours apart and he always drives to my area, which I appreciate. The last time he came he over he asked me for gas money! I was really turned off. At the outset of dating I told him I thought the distance was too much, but he insisted that he'd happily take on the burden. Should I talk to him about this or just break up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a generally good relationship with my new boyfriend (4 months). However, he is cheap when it comes to dating. In other areas of his life he is a big spender (car, clothes, etc). He is a high earner, and I earn less than him. He takes me on cheap dates and not as frequently as I'd like. We live 1.5 hours apart and he always drives to my area, which I appreciate. The last time he came he over he asked me for gas money! I was really turned off. At the outset of dating I told him I thought the distance was too much, but he insisted that he'd happily take on the burden. Should I talk to him about this or just break up?

I would talk to him about it but be prepared to break up. This kind of thing does not bode well.

[Anonymous]

Gas money, oh my. I would ghost.

[Anonymous]

If he’s a big spender in other areas of his life, but not when it comes to you, that says a lot about how important you are to him.

[Anonymous]

Spending freely on himself and cheaping out on you is a bad sign. It’ll only get worse in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gas money, oh my. I would ghost.

+1

That would be it for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gas money, oh my. I would ghost.

+1

That would be it for me.

I'm a man and a teacher so I obviously have to watch what I spend but I can't imagine doing this. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Either you're not his priority, or he's just spendy and bad at budgeting. Don't get serious with this guy, and don't lend him any money.

[Anonymous]

I’d give him the gas money, send him home, and tell him to lose my number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gas money, oh my. I would ghost.

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That would be it for me.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gas money, oh my. I would ghost.

+1

That would be it for me.

I'm a man and a teacher so I obviously have to watch what I spend but I can't imagine doing this. Wow.

Guy here, and yeah, this is ridiculous. What a tool! This is a guy you are going to laugh about later, after you break up with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a generally good relationship with my new boyfriend (4 months). However, he is cheap when it comes to dating. In other areas of his life he is a big spender (car, clothes, etc). He is a high earner, and I earn less than him. He takes me on cheap dates and not as frequently as I'd like. We live 1.5 hours apart and he always drives to my area, which I appreciate. The last time he came he over he asked me for gas money! I was really turned off. At the outset of dating I told him I thought the distance was too much, but he insisted that he'd happily take on the burden. Should I talk to him about this or just break up?

What more do you need to know. Dump this loser. It will never get better. Only worse.

[Anonymous]

Op, you deserve better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you deserve better

OP is a bad troll.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am not a troll. As a side note, it’s getting annoying how frequently Others accuse people of being trolls here. Anyways, there’s a lot that’s good about him. We get along well, good sex, shared hobbies, supportive of my career, very emotionally available. Because he is the one who always drives (I’ve driven to his area once in 4 months) it’s thrown me off in terms of what I should expect from him. Men typically pay for all the dates but they also typically live Within 30 mins of me and we take turns visiting each other. Anyways, I will follow the advice here and just dump him.