Should I go abroad to find a wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're only 30. I'd give it time! Women in their 30s eventually start throwing themselves at single men. You are about to enter prime dating times. If you are 36 and single, come back to us

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[Anonymous]

As a foreigner, I always feel so offended whenever such posts turn up. As if non-Americans are somehow willing to overlook things American women have rejected, just because somehow your American-ness is a draw?????

Get over yourself!

I am married to a short man. All the short men I know who are married are extremely self-assured and intelligent. Maybe work on yourself first...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you date Asian and Latina women? A lot of them don't seem to mind short guys

+1.

If you are a gentleman, beautiful Latinas will not care about your height.

If he was a gentleman he would be able to attract any woman.

I mean not really. Would you tell an ugly woman as long as she behaved like a lady shoe would be able to attract any man?

[Anonymous]

Try Short King Dating. It's a dating app for men under 5'8.

https://wrif.com/2020/10/12/theres-a-new-dating-app-for-short-men/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
As a foreigner, I always feel so offended whenever such posts turn up. As if non-Americans are somehow willing to overlook things American women have rejected, just because somehow your American-ness is a draw?????

Get over yourself!

I am married to a short man. All the short men I know who are married are extremely self-assured and intelligent. Maybe work on yourself first...

As another foreigner, you need to get over yourself. This is not about you.

People are being told on here everyday to broaden their dating pool in order to find love and companionship: include " boring men", include older men, etc.
Having a chance to come here is an attractive opportunity to some foreigners.

OP is trying to broaden his pool. One PP rightly called him out for being a hypocrite because he was looking for appearance while feeling frustrated that he thought his appearance was holding him back. However, aren't we all shallow?

The poor guy is trying to improve his chances, and he actually got some good advice. What so offensive about that?

And yes, some foreigners are willing to overlook certain things to settle here. There is nothing wrong with that. Some men are willing to overlook certain things for a pretty woman. The OP would have to overlook certain things for his foreigner wife as well. This is life.

[Anonymous]

Those Russian girls are survivors, they will figure out your weakness, exploit it and then all of a sudden two generations of mole covered women will be living in your hovel, a few years will go by and they’ll be cashing in your life insurance.

Stick with someone close to home, but love of your life likely lives within a mile of where you stand right now, go overseas or anywhere further than where you are and you are sealing your own death warrant.

[Anonymous]

Uh. You should start with a therapist, not an “international dating” site. You need to examine your clearly pathological belief that you are owed attention from women which you are being denied. Misogyny is a bigger turnoff than being short.

[Anonymous]

Mail order Russian bride

[Anonymous]

It's not a bad thought OP. I'm 5'1 married to a 5'6 guy. I think a lot of women wouldn't date him because of his height. DH caught my attention with his handsome face and creative talents.

[Anonymous]

My husband is 5'5", the same height as me, and I love him dearly. So dearly that I pretend I am 5'6" which is what he likes to say he is.

[Anonymous]

Op, I think your post and question sounds genuine. This is my take.

Watch the show "90 Day Fiance" about bringing a woman (or man) from overseas. They're both mostly using eachother at some level. I am almost always rooting for the woman!

It might be your height with the rigid screening criteria on dating apps. OR you're still at a young age where most women aren't ready to settle down. AND all of us should do some more introspection - are you doing anything off-putting like talking politics (unless you don't mind if that eliminates part of the dating pool) etc.

Fwiw, I am tall for F, and married. I was really rigid about height when I was single/dating and wanted a taller man. But if I were dating again other characteristics of who someone is are more important and I'd be open to someone shorter. Tom Holland and Zendaya. The Weeknd and Bella Hadid. Look at Zelenskyy who is 5'7!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I think your post and question sounds genuine. This is my take.

Watch the show "90 Day Fiance" about bringing a woman (or man) from overseas. They're both mostly using eachother at some level. I am almost always rooting for the woman!

It might be your height with the rigid screening criteria on dating apps. OR you're still at a young age where most women aren't ready to settle down. AND all of us should do some more introspection - are you doing anything off-putting like talking politics (unless you don't mind if that eliminates part of the dating pool) etc.

Fwiw, I am tall for F, and married. I was really rigid about height when I was single/dating and wanted a taller man. But if I were dating again other characteristics of who someone is are more important and I'd be open to someone shorter. Tom Holland and Zendaya. The Weeknd and Bella Hadid. Look at Zelenskyy who is 5'7!

Adding , I agree with all the advice to put yourself out there more in person. Even if you prefer to stay home. Trivia nights, alumni events, softball kickball leagues, religious organizations, etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a bad thought OP. I'm 5'1 married to a 5'6 guy. I think a lot of women wouldn't date him because of his height. DH caught my attention with his handsome face and creative talents.

My brother's 5'5" and is married now to a.really lovely lady. He had a couple serious girlfriends before her that we met.

My brother knows how to cook and take care of things and supported his now wife through grad school.

[Anonymous]

No, no, no… Too many cultural differences and will end up a hot mess. I have seen it too many times and the ending is always the same.

[Anonymous]

My 5’5” husband is the smartest nicest guy you’d ever meet. Never, ever have I thought about his height. With the kindest of intentions, could there be other reasons you are not connecting with women?