Should I go abroad to find a wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 30 year old man who wants to get married and settle down but I’ve had zero luck on dating apps. I own a home, am fit, have outdoor hobbies, high paying top 1% income, but am very short at 5’5 and I suspect this is the reason I have no luck on apps. Occasionally I will match with a woman I have zero attraction to. I don’t want to be single forever and want a wife who is somewhat attractive (not looking for a model), would going on one of those international dating sites be worth it? I have dated women before but my last gf I met in college and we broke up 3 years ago (just getting back in to dating) and I have no good way to meet women in person these days. It’s way harder than I thought it would be, to be honest.

She’ll leave the second she gets her green card.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 30 year old man who wants to get married and settle down but I’ve had zero luck on dating apps. I own a home, am fit, have outdoor hobbies, high paying top 1% income, but am very short at 5’5 and I suspect this is the reason I have no luck on apps. Occasionally I will match with a woman I have zero attraction to. I don’t want to be single forever and want a wife who is somewhat attractive (not looking for a model), would going on one of those international dating sites be worth it? I have dated women before but my last gf I met in college and we broke up 3 years ago (just getting back in to dating) and I have no good way to meet women in person these days. It’s way harder than I thought it would be, to be honest.

She’ll leave the second she gets her green card.

+1 I've seen it too many times.

Forget about dating apps. Your friends surely have sisters/female friends/wives' friends who are single?? If you make good money and are fit people should be begging to set you up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sure you can do that. People do it all the time.

However, do not send them any money. If they ask for money then bye....

Does this really happen? Is it ever not a scam? Do you know someone personally who has done this with success? Thanks in advance.

NP here. I know someone that went to Thailand few times, then came home with a wife. Not sure of the details, however. Him being an American lawyer helped greatly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is a troll. $450k at 30 and can't find a pretty American girl to marry in the entire USA? Yeah right. Playing the field too much is probably more like it. Maybe he has a disease.

With that kind of money, he could have elephantiasis and still find a hot poor gold digger willing to overlook it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 30 year old man who wants to get married and settle down but I’ve had zero luck on dating apps. I own a home, am fit, have outdoor hobbies, high paying top 1% income, but am very short at 5’5 and I suspect this is the reason I have no luck on apps. Occasionally I will match with a woman I have zero attraction to. I don’t want to be single forever and want a wife who is somewhat attractive (not looking for a model), would going on one of those international dating sites be worth it? I have dated women before but my last gf I met in college and we broke up 3 years ago (just getting back in to dating) and I have no good way to meet women in person these days. It’s way harder than I thought it would be, to be honest.

Top 1% in the US means you make over $800K. You are 30 years old. Are you telling me you don't have friends who are dating/married and their gf/wives aren't trying to get you introduced to their friends?

This has to be a troll post. If you're making that kind of money at your age, find a matchmaker in DC and let them do the work.

Either a troll, or an incel. I expect, if this is real, the picture OP paints of himself has little connection to reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. Sure, you can find a woman who will marry you and stay with you just long enough for a green card, but she will not give you a lifetime of companionship. In a few years you'll be right back to where you started except you'll be older.

I do know people who eventually left to go back to their home country. Not because of a green card but because they just missed their family. If you are willing to live abroad it might work better.

Or willing to move a couple of generations into your house. And their friends.

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

No way that American women aren't interested in you unless you are an a-hole. There are plenty of short women in America. There is something about you that this isn't working for you.

He's probably shooting for a tall woman (5'8 and over, for taller kids, that was my dating experience in my 20s when shorter men explicitly told me they would only marry a tall woman to have taller kids)

I exclusively aim for women my height and shorter (I am open to taller women but pursuing them is a waste of time imo). In my dating profile it’s not really obvious how much I make.

As a tall woman I happened to date guys slightly shorter than me. We had good sexual compatibility. When I dated men 6’ and taller, they were too big for me in bed. You know what I mean. 6 inches is my max for a successful O as I am otherwise thin and compact in all places. You need to widen your search criteria and project stability and serious intentions.

OP here and I would be too big for you too, I’m not sure there’s a correlation between height and member size

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is a troll. $450k at 30 and can't find a pretty American girl to marry in the entire USA? Yeah right. Playing the field too much is probably more like it. Maybe he has a disease.

I don’t have a way to meet women in person, and there’s no way to convey my income on OLD without coming across as very tryhard and desperate. If you saw my profile and job description you’d probably assume I made a fraction of that. Even if you met me in person you would probably assume I don’t make close to 450. Some people have said I shouldn’t lead with money because of the people it attracts and I agree, but the not leading with money thing hasn’t been working out too well so far, so I don’t know what to do.

Another poster mentioned you need to make 800k to be top 1%, maybe I have it wrong but I’m pretty sure the threshold for top 1% individual income is only about 400 give or take.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is a troll. $450k at 30 and can't find a pretty American girl to marry in the entire USA? Yeah right. Playing the field too much is probably more like it. Maybe he has a disease.

I don’t have a way to meet women in person, and there’s no way to convey my income on OLD without coming across as very tryhard and desperate. If you saw my profile and job description you’d probably assume I made a fraction of that. Even if you met me in person you would probably assume I don’t make close to 450. Some people have said I shouldn’t lead with money because of the people it attracts and I agree, but the not leading with money thing hasn’t been working out too well so far, so I don’t know what to do.

Another poster mentioned you need to make 800k to be top 1%, maybe I have it wrong but I’m pretty sure the threshold for top 1% individual income is only about 400 give or take.

You are insane. And a troll. Your bigger issues are that you have no friends and have ridiculously high expectations for your companion. And probably are ugly, have a disease, are obnoxious, and promiscuous. Peace out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is a troll. $450k at 30 and can't find a pretty American girl to marry in the entire USA? Yeah right. Playing the field too much is probably more like it. Maybe he has a disease.

I don’t have a way to meet women in person, and there’s no way to convey my income on OLD without coming across as very tryhard and desperate. If you saw my profile and job description you’d probably assume I made a fraction of that. Even if you met me in person you would probably assume I don’t make close to 450. Some people have said I shouldn’t lead with money because of the people it attracts and I agree, but the not leading with money thing hasn’t been working out too well so far, so I don’t know what to do.

Another poster mentioned you need to make 800k to be top 1%, maybe I have it wrong but I’m pretty sure the threshold for top 1% individual income is only about 400 give or take.

Then fix that. Dress the part, put of profile pictures of you on the kind of vacations that require a ton of money, put up pictures in your gorgeous condo, drive a very nice car. If you're looking for a gold digger anyway, be upfront about it.

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

No way that American women aren't interested in you unless you are an a-hole. There are plenty of short women in America. There is something about you that this isn't working for you.

He's probably shooting for a tall woman (5'8 and over, for taller kids, that was my dating experience in my 20s when shorter men explicitly told me they would only marry a tall woman to have taller kids)

I exclusively aim for women my height and shorter (I am open to taller women but pursuing them is a waste of time imo). In my dating profile it’s not really obvious how much I make.

As a tall woman I happened to date guys slightly shorter than me. We had good sexual compatibility. When I dated men 6’ and taller, they were too big for me in bed. You know what I mean. 6 inches is my max for a successful O as I am otherwise thin and compact in all places. You need to widen your search criteria and project stability and serious intentions.

OP here and I would be too big for you too, I’m not sure there’s a correlation between height and member size

There is some correlation, not very strong but some. But the point is some taller women would totally date someone shorter (not MUCH shorter) if you have good personality, financially stable and good in bed.

[Anonymous]

"Where you going for vacation, Fred?"

"I'm going to Bangkok to buy a girl. Heard you were taking the kids to Disney!"

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you just need to hire a professional matchmaker, because you are busy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Where you going for vacation, Fred?"

"I'm going to Bangkok to buy a girl. Heard you were taking the kids to Disney!"

Bangkok ladies won't sleep with a guy if he has a very large member. Know that from a friend who was super tall and super big - he tried to hire there, they either retreated or asked for a large surcharge. Maybe OP is too big for women and it scares them?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is a troll. $450k at 30 and can't find a pretty American girl to marry in the entire USA? Yeah right. Playing the field too much is probably more like it. Maybe he has a disease.

I don’t have a way to meet women in person, and there’s no way to convey my income on OLD without coming across as very tryhard and desperate. If you saw my profile and job description you’d probably assume I made a fraction of that. Even if you met me in person you would probably assume I don’t make close to 450. Some people have said I shouldn’t lead with money because of the people it attracts and I agree, but the not leading with money thing hasn’t been working out too well so far, so I don’t know what to do.

Another poster mentioned you need to make 800k to be top 1%, maybe I have it wrong but I’m pretty sure the threshold for top 1% individual income is only about 400 give or take.

If you have that much money OP, you could sell your house in the suburbs and move to DC and rent a really nice place. And take pics in it for OLD. And maybe travel to an expensive place, and take pics for OLD. Or dress in really nice designer clothes and take pics for OLD. If you really want to convey how much money you have.

Every short guy I know is married or partnered right now. Do people make fun of taller women who marry shorter men? Yes, I am one such taller woman, who always attracted shorter guys. And am happily married for the past ten years.

I would maybe go to counseling or therapy and look at your attitude or what you are doing to put yourself out there.

Money alone does not attract women, height alone does not attract or repel most mature 25+ women.