Should I go abroad to find a wife?

[Anonymous]

Don't do it. Sure, you can find a woman who will marry you and stay with you just long enough for a green card, but she will not give you a lifetime of companionship. In a few years you'll be right back to where you started except you'll be older.

[Anonymous]

Maybe broaden your horizon beyond your cell or iPad. Get out of the house, give women a chance who aren't over educated strivers. Join a church. Meet new friends. Even old lady friends have daughters. Guy buddies have cousins. You never know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Then go to Brazil and pick 2

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

Yeah I live in NoVa. I really, really do not want to live in DC, but I know there are more women there and it would make it easier.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

Yeah I live in NoVa. I really, really do not want to live in DC, but I know there are more women there and it would make it easier.

To add to this I’m thinking of starting an instagram and trying to flex more. I’ve always kept a low profile on social media and I keep hearing about how many people end up meeting on IG, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 30 year old man who wants to get married and settle down but I’ve had zero luck on dating apps. I own a home, am fit, have outdoor hobbies, high paying top 1% income, but am very short at 5’5 and I suspect this is the reason I have no luck on apps. Occasionally I will match with a woman I have zero attraction to. I don’t want to be single forever and want a wife who is somewhat attractive (not looking for a model), would going on one of those international dating sites be worth it? I have dated women before but my last gf I met in college and we broke up 3 years ago (just getting back in to dating) and I have no good way to meet women in person these days. It’s way harder than I thought it would be, to be honest.

I'd give it five more years. I would've wanted to date you when I was single (home owner, fit, attractive, good job, and only 5'4") but I wasn't looking to settle down until I was over 30, and I imagine that you're looking for women younger than you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

Yeah I live in NoVa. I really, really do not want to live in DC, but I know there are more women there and it would make it easier.

Why don’t you want to live in DC as a single man? That’s very telling. It makes me think you are boring and suburban or dull.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

Yeah I live in NoVa. I really, really do not want to live in DC, but I know there are more women there and it would make it easier.

Where in Nova? There's a big difference between Clarendon and Manassas.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

Yeah I live in NoVa. I really, really do not want to live in DC, but I know there are more women there and it would make it easier.

Where in Nova? There's a big difference between Clarendon and Manassas.

Yeah, I always swiped no on the it guys living out in nova.

Op, are you Indian American?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

Yeah I live in NoVa. I really, really do not want to live in DC, but I know there are more women there and it would make it easier.

Where in Nova? There's a big difference between Clarendon and Manassas.

Yeah, I always swiped no on the it guys living out in nova.

Op, are you Indian American?

If he is, he needs to go to India to find a wife. If he isn't, he needs to go to India or Pakistan or Sri Lanka or Bangladesh to find a wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Do you live in the DC area?

If so, move into DC itself and rent a nice apartment. Or buy something nice but don’t buy u less you’d be willing to sell and buy a new place with a wife (in case she doesn’t like what you bought).

Sooo many guys who work in tech in NoVa. And when you are on a dating app and you’re a woman and a guy says he works on text, you don’t know if he’s like the IT guy who fixes peoples printers, or if he’s in some lucrative tech field with stock options.

Moving to DC will make you stand out more. There are lots of single women in DC and they tend to prefer men who live in DC.

Decorate your apartment nicely. Not swank bachelor pad. More like pottery barn etc.

Horrible advice. What exactly is he going to find in DC? Entitled types, party girls, and bad wife material.

[Anonymous]

OP please don’t worry. You’re you g and you’re doing this at the right time!!
You don’t need to flex more in social media. You need to put yourself out there IRL every day dressed good, looking fly, rely on friends to keep you social, and may I say if you have an institution of faith you can participate in - your church, temple or mosque- also be active there. Forget online dating! You will find your woman in real life and it will be awesome. Be the best partner you can be to yourself and show up for yourself and God will provide.

Ps, I do know several people who met their wives intentionally abroad and it has been amazing. Great marriages and families. They married women from their home countries/culture. Marry for values and you can’t go wrong.

[Anonymous]

You need to find ways to meet people. Volunteer, join meetup groups…if you don’t have time for this now, what makes you think you can handle an international long-distance relationship.

What countries where you thinking of?

Perhaps you need to give the women you’re not attracted to a chance?

Have you posted here before?