Should I go abroad to find a wife?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is a troll. $450k at 30 and can't find a pretty American girl to marry in the entire USA? Yeah right. Playing the field too much is probably more like it. Maybe he has a disease.

I don’t have a way to meet women in person, and there’s no way to convey my income on OLD without coming across as very tryhard and desperate. If you saw my profile and job description you’d probably assume I made a fraction of that. Even if you met me in person you would probably assume I don’t make close to 450. Some people have said I shouldn’t lead with money because of the people it attracts and I agree, but the not leading with money thing hasn’t been working out too well so far, so I don’t know what to do.

Another poster mentioned you need to make 800k to be top 1%, maybe I have it wrong but I’m pretty sure the threshold for top 1% individual income is only about 400 give or take.

If you have that much money OP, you could sell your house in the suburbs and move to DC and rent a really nice place. And take pics in it for OLD. And maybe travel to an expensive place, and take pics for OLD. Or dress in really nice designer clothes and take pics for OLD. If you really want to convey how much money you have.

Every short guy I know is married or partnered right now. Do people make fun of taller women who marry shorter men? Yes, I am one such taller woman, who always attracted shorter guys. And am happily married for the past ten years.

I would maybe go to counseling or therapy and look at your attitude or what you are doing to put yourself out there.

Money alone does not attract women, height alone does not attract or repel most mature 25+ women.

What, who are you socializing with if they made fun of you dating shorter?? I am a tall woman, and was never made fun of dating shorter men. I don't date too short (just because I like wearing hills). But men definitely felt on top of their game, being complimented for their beautiful tall GF. People think he's smart, rich, good in bed or all of that together, if she chose him

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Two of my best friends who are wonderful catches- loving partners, amazing moms, interesting, educated, come from awesome families- are both happily married to short guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my best friends who are wonderful catches- loving partners, amazing moms, interesting, educated, come from awesome families- are both happily married to short guys.

Yes, same here (women 5’7-5’8, men 5’5-5’8). All men are well off, they hand taller kids as a minor benefit. Sons usually take looks from moms

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Anonymous wrote:"Where you going for vacation, Fred?"

"I'm going to Bangkok to buy a girl. Heard you were taking the kids to Disney!"

In my first 12 hours in Mumbai I can have 5-6 dates lined up. Professors, doctors, etc. None are pay for play.

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Okay. Congratulations?

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Anonymous wrote:No.

You need to somehow make it obvious without being obnoxious that you make that much money.

As my cousin used to tell her short younger brother, “don’t worry, you’ll look tall while you are standing on your wallet”

What do you do? How much do you earn? Have you paid off your debt and if so how much do you have saved?

OP here I work in tech, made 450k last year with 1.1M in assets including home equity. No debt other than my mortgage.

Then go to Brazil and pick 2

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OP is young and makes a lot of money. Now is the time to do something adventurous like traveling and learning about different cultures. You can bang beautiful women at the same time, it's a win-win. Look at the Philippines, Thailand, Colombia, and Brazil. Focus on having a good time and do things that make you happy. Your vacation need to be a minimum of 2 weeks so that you can relax and take everything in. Don't have too much of a regimented schedule and try to just go with the flow. You can pipeline women on Tinder a couple of weeks before your trip, but you need to screen very hard and don't put too much time or energy into Tinder. Speaking the language and being able to get a lot of time off work is paramount if you are looking to have a serious long term relationship.

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OP, my guy friend who is 5’5” was beating the girls away with a stick in his thirties. His secret was to meet them at church. He also had a fabulous personality. Very charismatic and caring. He found a fabulous wife who’s a bit taller.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, my guy friend who is 5’5” was beating the girls away with a stick in his thirties. His secret was to meet them at church. He also had a fabulous personality. Very charismatic and caring. He found a fabulous wife who’s a bit taller.

Oh, and he lived in the suburbs.

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Are you on dating apps?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you on dating apps?

My friend I mentioned in the two posts above had terrible luck dating apps, just like OP. Find a house of worship with a young adult service, if you’re so inclined.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you on dating apps?

My friend I mentioned in the two posts above had terrible luck dating apps, just like OP. Find a house of worship with a young adult service, if you’re so inclined.

Funny that people think you can find a church-going, modern progressive woman who is not unduly religious- but men from church give off different vibes entirely.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you just need to hire a professional matchmaker, because you are busy.

And let your friends know you're willing to be set up. Start taking some chances on blind dates.

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Anonymous wrote:"Where you going for vacation, Fred?"

"I'm going to Bangkok to buy a girl. Heard you were taking the kids to Disney!"

In my first 12 hours in Mumbai I can have 5-6 dates lined up. Professors, doctors, etc. None are pay for play.

So hot.

Pace yourself, amigo.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you on dating apps?

My friend I mentioned in the two posts above had terrible luck dating apps, just like OP. Find a house of worship with a young adult service, if you’re so inclined.

Funny that people think you can find a church-going, modern progressive woman who is not unduly religious- but men from church give off different vibes entirely.

I’m friends with a modern progressive, churchgoing woman. Depends on which church the OP attend. He seems smart enough to understand that. Not sure what constitutes unduly religious.

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If you are going "abroad," skip Italy, the saying here is moglie e buoi dei paesi tuoi. -Wives and ox (should be) from your village.