Why did I trust her? No apps done!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll take an opposite approach here. Yes - line up the apps by due date. Make sure all the high school requests like transcripts are in by Tuesday if not done yet. Hopefully she requested her LORs. If not, some publics don’t require. I’d look at all the supplements and do some research to give to DD to work off of. With someone helping, she may be less overwhelmed, which may be the issue.

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Sit down and make a plan. If she has to miss a day of school to get them in, do it. As PP suggested, line them up by due date. Make a list of what’s needed for each school. Eat the elephant one bite at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that was on you. This is high stakes. Trust and verify.

Nope. DD is going to college and should be responsible enough to apply. This is on DD and nobody else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a list of schools with Feb deadlines.

It includes Pace, Ohio State, Sewanee, Drew, Dickinson, Gettysburg, DePaul, CSU, College of Wooster, Towson.

There are even decent schools with March deadlines, like Temple, Lewis & Clark,

https://writingcenterofprinceton.com/colleges-with-late-application-deadlines/

This is a great list. Surprised at the number of colleges & universities with August deadlines.

Maybe your student will wake-up when the early January deadlines pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that was on you. This is high stakes. Trust and verify.

Nope. DD is going to college and should be responsible enough to apply. This is on DD and nobody else.

That is just not realistic for some kids. At 17, their brains are still developing. My son is the youngest in his class, so he’ll just have turned 17. He may be full of desire, but as the counselor said above, kids need help navigating this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that was on you. This is high stakes. Trust and verify.

Nope. DD is going to college and should be responsible enough to apply. This is on DD and nobody else.

You keep posting here as if anyone cares about your judgmental trolling. Go find something else to do.

[Anonymous]

University of Texas @ Dallas - RD is in May.

If your kid is a NMS Semifinalist, this college gives full ride - tuition, room and board, stipend and 1 semester abroad ($6 K).

They have a very good comp sci department and are flush with funds because they got a multi million dollar endowment. Which means they are going a-shopping for high performing NMS students interested in CS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To which level (most selective, selective, or somewhat selective) is your daughter applying ? The most selective schools usually have the closest app deadlines.

Encourage her to apply to just one school, then search (or ask here) for schools with later app deadlines.

The first application is the most important.

If the child was on track for selective schools, she would have done her apps absent an anxiety disorder or mental health crisis. Those kids have been planning their classes and ECs for years in preparation. If OP’s kid does have mental health challenges or something like ADHD that makes finishing tasks hard, it was dumb of OP to support the kid all along and then just drop the rope this close to the finish line.

CC or rolling admissions schools are probably the right fit for a kid who doesn’t seem ready for the responsibility of college and managing their own workload / schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:University of Texas @ Dallas - RD is in May.

If your kid is a NMS Semifinalist, this college gives full ride - tuition, room and board, stipend and 1 semester abroad ($6 K).

They have a very good comp sci department and are flush with funds because they got a multi million dollar endowment. Which means they are going a-shopping for high performing NMS students interested in CS.

Is this the same thing as University of Texas at Arlington?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that was on you. This is high stakes. Trust and verify.

Nope. DD is going to college and should be responsible enough to apply. This is on DD and nobody else.

You keep posting here as if anyone cares about your judgmental trolling. Go find something else to do.

How is it judgemental and trolling to tell OP that this is was not on her?

[Anonymous]

I would sit with her tonight at the kitchen table and have her come up with a plan and break down how she is going to act on the plan. The plan can be I will apply to 5 state schools with no supplemental essays and will have my apps in by 1/15. That is a perfectly fine plan. The plan can be that I will apply to 10 schools on the list the poster above linked and have my first application in by 1/15. She needs to have someone to be somewhat accountable to. If it isn’t her school counselor or someone you hire then she needs to sit at the table with you each night for 30-45 minutes working on apps until at least one app is in for a school that is a likely. Fwiw, my youngest sister is a fully functioning adult and there were two times in her life when I sat next to her at the kitchen table While doing by own thing but holding her accountable - her sophomore year research paper and her college applications. It is just a lot for some people. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a counselor. This process can be overwhelming, even for students with strong EF skills. I'm surprised parents leave it all to their 17 year old students to navigate. They need an adult to help guide them, whether that is a parent, counselor or other role model.

Obviously, parents of kids with known executive function problems need to adjust for that. Executive function disability is the hidden catastrophe of our time.

For kids who are reasonably well-organized: I think the best approach here is that parents who understand the FAFSA process should fill the financial aid forms on their own, proactively, and maybe set the state flagship and a non-selective state school as the default recipients, because dealing with FAFSA firms is really the parents’ job.

And I think it’s fair for parents who can afford to send their kids to small, non-selective private schools, “Would you like us to send a financial aid application to [non-selective private school] as a backup?”

Getting financial aid forms in early might be critical to helping kids recover and avoid having an involuntary gap year.

But students with OK executive function ought to take responsibility for sending in the actual admissions applications themselves, because that’s a great college readiness screening. College is all about reading, preparing for tests and meeting administrative deadlines on your own. If kids really can’t do that, parents should address the organization problems before pushing the kids into college.

If kids notice they’re off track Dec. 31 and shift to applying to schools with later deadlines, maybe that means they can get their act together. But, if they really want to go to college, know about schools with late deadlines and can’t meet the late deadlines, that’s a bad sign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll take an opposite approach here. Yes - line up the apps by due date. Make sure all the high school requests like transcripts are in by Tuesday if not done yet. Hopefully she requested her LORs. If not, some publics don’t require. I’d look at all the supplements and do some research to give to DD to work off of. With someone helping, she may be less overwhelmed, which may be the issue.

I was about to say the same.

Does she have the common app essay done? Hopefully! Perhaps, you (or another adult) could read it over and offer a little feedback.

For supplemental essays, as pp mentioned, you can help by doing some research on aspects of the schools that may draw your kid -- programs, faculty, etc. She can follow up on what resonates with her to add to the different supplements.

Also agree she should check with counselor about transcripts and recs Tues.

She may want to go in late or come home early Tues to finish up the 1/4 apps. If they have supplements, they will need a lot of investment, and she'll need breaks. It might be worth missing 1 day of some classes for her to have the extra time. She may also want to drop one of those and add some with later deadlines.

She can do this. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that was on you. This is high stakes. Trust and verify.

Nope. DD is going to college and should be responsible enough to apply. This is on DD and nobody else.

This is the type of parent who is either p*ssed with their kid’s final results or encourages their kid to gain admission to a fourth tier school and when they do claims the school is amazing. Either approach guarantees a suboptimal result.

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My boyfriend had not started any applications by this time our senior year. I sat down with him and worked him through it and edited his essay. He went to Stanford. The key was that he has talked to professors to get his recommendation on time, though. I basically did the sections where you lost activities and awards for him and nixed his first couple essay ideas. Fwiw, he did fine at Stanford. He has some anxiety around actually sitting down to do something. The funny part is that I’m the one with ADHd.l, not him.

That’s all to say that I think this is do-able, OP, if you help her get organized and sit her down to do it. Rome wasn’t built in a day but lots of decent essays have been written in a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that was on you. This is high stakes. Trust and verify.

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