Why did I trust her? No apps done!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not think you should rush in to rescue her. She needs to attend community college for a semester or year and get her act together for the next. This is not your issue to fix.

+1 Though, I think OP should've pushed it. You should've known that they hadn't done anything when they did not ask you to pay for the apps or the transcripts.

Normally, I'm a bit hands off, but on big things, like college apps, I badgered my kid on the college apps. They got it on the day it was due but had worked on it bit by bit for several weeks.

I would not rush the apps. Go for the rolling admissions, or cc route. It's not the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

There are quite a few schools that have a 2/1 deadline. She applies to those, and if she wants to transfer it is on her.

I was one of those underachieving kids in HS who barely applied to college and ended up at a mediocre school. I was miserable. I got my act together fast and transferred to an Ivy the next year.

[Anonymous]

Don't get upset. Just support.

Do the low-hanging fruit ones due in the next few days first.

There are plenty of others with 1/15 and 2/1 deadlines. Some even 2/15. Especially the big state schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think you should rush in to rescue her. She needs to attend community college for a semester or year and get her act together for the next. This is not your issue to fix.

DP, but this is terrible advice.
Do the best you can over the next few days and then start investigating schools with deadlines that are further out.

No it is not. I agree with this poster.

OP's kid can not do those apps by themselves, LOL they are not ready for college.

Absolutely not ready. Nothing wrong with community college and by the way had she been at a job she would have been fired. Real world has consequences.

OP you are a fool if you send your kid to a four year school when they are not responsible enough to do their apps in a timely manner.

OP is upset over nothing, this is not her life it is her kids. Kid does not think it was important enough to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Contact the counselor when school gets back this week. You will need their help to get everything to the schools in time.

No. Her DD should be contacting the counselor. WTH?

[Anonymous]

https://blog.prepscholar.com/colleges-with-late-application-deadlines-complete-list

Here OP try this.
Good luck. Earlier this year my senior told me casually over dinner she may not have enough credits to graduate 😳.
She does.
You’ll both look back and laugh at this later.

[Anonymous]

Here's a list of schools with Feb deadlines.

It includes Pace, Ohio State, Sewanee, Drew, Dickinson, Gettysburg, DePaul, CSU, College of Wooster, Towson.

There are even decent schools with March deadlines, like Temple, Lewis & Clark,

https://writingcenterofprinceton.com/colleges-with-late-application-deadlines/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think you should rush in to rescue her. She needs to attend community college for a semester or year and get her act together for the next. This is not your issue to fix.

DP, but this is terrible advice.
Do the best you can over the next few days and then start investigating schools with deadlines that are further out.

No it is not. I agree with this poster.

OP's kid can not do those apps by themselves, LOL they are not ready for college.

Absolutely not ready. Nothing wrong with community college and by the way had she been at a job she would have been fired. Real world has consequences.

OP you are a fool if you send your kid to a four year school when they are not responsible enough to do their apps in a timely manner.

OP is upset over nothing, this is not her life it is her kids. Kid does not think it was important enough to do.

I don’t think putting the applications in on time is the exact same skill set as graduating college. Especially since we don’t know the reason. My kid procrastinates due to anxiety, luckily we now know this so can work on it, but it can take an inexplicable failure or two to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

This is her decision and her lapse. The same reason I don’t think parents should be directing which colleges or majors - I also believe that the motivation for this important adult step is their’s not the parents to take. Asking for help is part of that process and I have zero hesitation in encouraging you to do what’s asked.

It’s not a catastrophe and it doesn’t mean there aren’t good options.

[Anonymous]

I'm a counselor. This process can be overwhelming, even for students with strong EF skills. I'm surprised parents leave it all to their 17 year old students to navigate. They need an adult to help guide them, whether that is a parent, counselor or other role model.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SO finally sat my DD down and discovered that she has filled out a grand total of 0 (ZERO) applications all of which are due by 1/4 at the lastest! She kept saying she would get around to it and "how hard could it be". I am livid. She is working furiously on essays but seriously how good can they be at this late date and how on earth are the transcripts and all the supplements going to be sent on time. My hands-off approach backfired big time! Anyone else have kids waiting until the very.last.second???

OP, why do you think she put it off? You're answer to this problem will be found in the reasons she procrastinated so badly.

[Anonymous]

I know a kid (now a college grad) who ended up attending the last school he applied to. I think that application went in in April because it’s a rolling admission school.

[Anonymous]

And don't throw in the towel. My kid did 2 EA applications the day before the Nov 1 deadline and got into both. Sometimes you can pull out a good essay under pressure (or just as good a one as you spend more time on). But yes, make a plan with her. Get them in in priority order....

[Anonymous]

I’ll take an opposite approach here. Yes - line up the apps by due date. Make sure all the high school requests like transcripts are in by Tuesday if not done yet. Hopefully she requested her LORs. If not, some publics don’t require. I’d look at all the supplements and do some research to give to DD to work off of. With someone helping, she may be less overwhelmed, which may be the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think you should rush in to rescue her. She needs to attend community college for a semester or year and get her act together for the next. This is not your issue to fix.

DP, but this is terrible advice.
Do the best you can over the next few days and then start investigating schools with deadlines that are further out.

No it is not. I agree with this poster.

OP's kid can not do those apps by themselves, LOL they are not ready for college.

Absolutely not ready. Nothing wrong with community college and by the way had she been at a job she would have been fired. Real world has consequences.

OP you are a fool if you send your kid to a four year school when they are not responsible enough to do their apps in a timely manner.

OP is upset over nothing, this is not her life it is her kids. Kid does not think it was important enough to do.

Colleges are filled with successful students who need help with their apps. It's totally okay.