Cut-off Mother Sending Certified Letter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound way too invested in the drama of how exactly not to read this letter. It doesn’t matter how they read your type of non response. Stop letting them live in your head rent free and just do whatever is most convenient to you.

This x1000. Who cares what mom thinks or doesn't think. Do what works for you. If it seems like a good precaution to open the letter to see if they're threatening legal action, then do that. Just don't respond.

[Anonymous]

I would accept it and open it because I would want to know if she really was suing me or pulling some kind of financial antics. I would also want the letter as documentation for future litigation.

[Anonymous]

no idea why you shunned your parents, but they could file in court eventually for grandparents rights to be with your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is stopping her from showing up at your door ? I would show up and put you in my car and you’d go home with me.

If you show up I’ll greet you with my licensed Beretta. Now where are we going, big talker?

[Anonymous]

And that's a tough case for grandparents to lose

[Anonymous]

OP: Ignore the advice stating that you should sign for receipt of the certified letter and then discard the letter. The law will presume that you are aware of,and familiar with, the contents of the letter. If you sign for it, then open it and read it promptly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no idea why you shunned your parents, but they could file in court eventually for grandparents rights to be with your kid.

And they would lose. Few states allow this and those that do are protecting the rights where grandparents have had to raise grandchildren for some period of time.

[Anonymous]

OP, because we don't know the details of the rift (and I am NOT asking you to provide them -- just noting that only you know them and we don't) I'd say this: If the rift involves actual or potential legal threats (suing for money, trying for grandparental visitation "rights," dispute over property, etc. etc.) -- then as a previous poster noted, you might need to know what's in the letter in case she is notifying you of some attempt at legal action. If there is truly zero chance of there being any legal stuff going on, then let it simply return to her without your ever trying to pick it up. Cut off means truly cut off, as in zero contact, and that includes contact via certified letter, unless there may be a legal document in that letter.

And BTW, if there is something legal going on (even just inside her head), you might want to get a lawyer who will tell her to communicate only with the lawyer about the legal issue, and not directly with you in any way. But that will only feed her need for contact and you don't want to do it unless there's a genuine and serious legal issue that would need to be resolved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is stopping her from showing up at your door ? I would show up and put you in my car and you’d go home with me.

Keep dreaming, narcissist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can refuse the letter. You can also accept it, put it in another envelope and sent it back to her unopened

This is smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can refuse the letter. You can also accept it, put it in another envelope and sent it back to her unopened

This is smart.

Again, if OP's parents are suing her, she doesn't want to find out when she gets served at work.

[Anonymous]

Lots of people making this into a bigger deal than it is.

1. Take the letter and ignore it.

2. Make a will and have back-up adults to care for your children should you be unable to care for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have time at the moment to review the previous thread but the only reason I would accept it was to prepare for a legal battle. If you are in an area with grandparents rights or if she thinks you owe her money, you might want to know her intentions.

I was thinking the same. Unfortunately, there is a history of family members suing each other in my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can refuse the letter. You can also accept it, put it in another envelope and sent it back to her unopened

This is smart.

Actually, it would be the opposite of smart to sign for a certified letter, fail to read the letter,and return it unopened. Idiotic advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no idea why you shunned your parents, but they could file in court eventually for grandparents rights to be with your kid.

And they would lose. Few states allow this and those that do are protecting the rights where grandparents have had to raise grandchildren for some period of time.

I was a witness in a Maryland case. They easily won grandparents visitation rights. They did not raise the child.