Stay at home dads

[Anonymous]

I know 4. Two in our neighborhood, one family friend, and a distant relative

[Anonymous]

I know one guy who did it for 3 or 4 years. Hes now back to full time work at his old employer. He is very organized and also very good with kids.

[Anonymous]

Its pretty common in Scandinavia.

[Anonymous]

The biggest issue is that every one assumes the person is a SAHD because they have mental or physical issues and can’t work. Even the PP construction dad quit because of a bad back not because he made far less in his blue collar job.

It can be hard for kids; around here having a SAHD makes you “that” family, and the SAHD will be excluded from the SAHM scene and play dates. This can set kids up for isolation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its pretty common in Scandinavia.

Only for as long as there is free money from gov

[Anonymous]

Didn't Pete Buttigeg's partner become SAHD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its pretty common in Scandinavia.

Only for as long as there is free money from gov

There is more paternal leave and societal support for SAHDs.

[Anonymous]

It's very common, and the newest parenting trend. Modern men want career minded females.

[Anonymous]

I am a guy who was a SAHD for three years until we sent our kid off to kindergarten. I am only one data point, but here are my general observations:

1. It is super lonely. I was out of the work force and my social interactions took a nose-dive. SAHMs at my kid's activities treated me like a weird interloper;

2. My wife's interest in me sexually declined, I went from well-dressed guy going to work with interesting things to talk about to guy in sweatpants taking care of a baby and running errands all day. The bedroom rebounded almost immediately after I went back to work, my wife later apologized for this;

3. My self-esteem took a major hit because of 1 and 2 above.

4. I had three years with my daughter that were really invaluable, she is really amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest issue is that every one assumes the person is a SAHD because they have mental or physical issues and can’t work. Even the PP construction dad quit because of a bad back not because he made far less in his blue collar job.

It can be hard for kids; around here having a SAHD makes you “that” family, and the SAHD will be excluded from the SAHM scene and play dates. This can set kids up for isolation.

Not my experience. My kid has so many play date requests that we have to turn people down. These assumptions are either in your mind or due to the people you choose to associate with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a guy who was a SAHD for three years until we sent our kid off to kindergarten. I am only one data point, but here are my general observations:

1. It is super lonely. I was out of the work force and my social interactions took a nose-dive. SAHMs at my kid's activities treated me like a weird interloper;

2. My wife's interest in me sexually declined, I went from well-dressed guy going to work with interesting things to talk about to guy in sweatpants taking care of a baby and running errands all day. The bedroom rebounded almost immediately after I went back to work, my wife later apologized for this;

3. My self-esteem took a major hit because of 1 and 2 above.

4. I had three years with my daughter that were really invaluable, she is really amazing.

I am very sorry to hear about your situation. My situation is different. I have been a SAHD for almost eleven years, when my first born turned six years old. I now have a seventeen year old boy, sixteen years old girl, and a fourteen years old boy. My wife is still working for the federal government. I left my job at the age of 33 years old when my employer was acquired by another company and I cashed out my stock options, around 15M at the time. I figured I didn't need to work anymore and decided to be a SAHD. Since my kids are into sports, it gives me the opportunity to travel with my kids all over the US and sometimes Europe and South America for tournaments. I've been doing it for almost eleven years now and life is really good. I am sad that my seventeen years old son will go to college next year but at least I have my sixteen years old daughter and fourteen years old son for a few more years. I also workout and hang out with my gym buddies everyday at the Country Club where I am a member. I am living my dream as a SAHD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to have a happy marriage.

It is if the guy is insecure or not hard-working, but that goes for any marriage.

[Anonymous]

I know 1 SAHD. Wife is big law equity partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a guy who was a SAHD for three years until we sent our kid off to kindergarten. I am only one data point, but here are my general observations:

1. It is super lonely. I was out of the work force and my social interactions took a nose-dive. SAHMs at my kid's activities treated me like a weird interloper;

2. My wife's interest in me sexually declined, I went from well-dressed guy going to work with interesting things to talk about to guy in sweatpants taking care of a baby and running errands all day. The bedroom rebounded almost immediately after I went back to work, my wife later apologized for this;

3. My self-esteem took a major hit because of 1 and 2 above.

4. I had three years with my daughter that were really invaluable, she is really amazing.

I am very sorry to hear about your situation. My situation is different. I have been a SAHD for almost eleven years, when my first born turned six years old. I now have a seventeen year old boy, sixteen years old girl, and a fourteen years old boy. My wife is still working for the federal government. I left my job at the age of 33 years old when my employer was acquired by another company and I cashed out my stock options, around 15M at the time. I figured I didn't need to work anymore and decided to be a SAHD. Since my kids are into sports, it gives me the opportunity to travel with my kids all over the US and sometimes Europe and South America for tournaments. I've been doing it for almost eleven years now and life is really good. I am sad that my seventeen years old son will go to college next year but at least I have my sixteen years old daughter and fourteen years old son for a few more years. I also workout and hang out with my gym buddies everyday at the Country Club where I am a member. I am living my dream as a SAHD.

Way to bury the lede. You effectively retired with $15M. I'm not saying that you aren't doing work raising your kids - you are - but doing so with a $15M nest egg is an entirely different category.

[Anonymous]

Eeeeewww!