Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy
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Anonymous
| Oh dear. You are unspeakably rude. |
Anonymous
| I’ve suggested no gifts in my family also. Mainly to take the burden off of people feeling obligated to buy gifts and because my MIL gives my child too much crap. We do Secret Santa and it’s worked pretty well over the years. We draw names using a Secret Santa App. My MIL still buys my child a bunch of crap but I’ve given up on trying to stop her. |
Anonymous
+1 “Selfish enough to not want gifts?” How does that work? I’m with OP. I don’t want anything. Save your time and money. I want to spend time and visit and talk and eat/drink together. But, please, just stop with the stuff. |
Anonymous
NP. But do you stand there and reject a gift to their faces? OP does. Says so in the post. Then is...offended that the giver is offended, I guess. Of course time and memories are the best gifts. Of course when people are asked (or in OP's family's case, commanded) not to bring gifts, and do, it's unfortunate when people fail to heed the recipient's sincere request. But OP, and maybe you too, seem to be oblivious to the fact that for those gift-givers, you've just handed them a truly indelible, unforgettable, un-donate-able gift: The memory of your profound rudeness and arrogance. There's one gift they'll never be able to get rid of over the years. Some will try again to give you gifts. Others won't. But both groups will remember something -- and it will not be your social concerns or your worries about the environment. |
Anonymous
DP but thank you PP for bringing in a constructive suggestion to this thread. Secret Santa (or whatever one wants to call it) types of gift exchanges are a good way to curtail gift-giving while also still having fun with it and letting habitual gift-givers still get that experience while letting anti-gift folks limit what they get and what they themselves give. |
Anonymous
It's not that you and OP don't want gifts or things - you only want the things that you have selected, that meet your needs, wants, and requirements to be organic, ethically sourced, sustainable, etc. Other people's tastes won't be acceptable so you don't want them. We hear, loud and clear. |
Anonymous
This would be my go-to response as well, PP. But OP insists that some of these gifts can't be donated. Like a different PP, I want to know what OP's being given that can't be donated anywhere at all. Or how much OP has actually tried to donate whatever these items are. Wondering if OP is offended by the idea of using up gas to drive to drop off donations anywhere but at the most convenient "drop box" in the nearest grocery store parking lot.... |
Anonymous
Then visit another time of year. Because you're ruining the holidays for the rest of us with your no-gifts attitude. |
Anonymous
How materialistic |
Anonymous
Sure. Call us names. And visit another time. Then everyone will be happier. |
Anonymous
OP should stop buying so much if they have too much. You put it in the buy nothing group and someone will take new items. |
Anonymous
| It is insanely rude to decline a gift and prattle on about the horrors behind it. Just link up to Greendrop.com and they will come to your house and take the offending item away saving you the work of freecycling it. |
Anonymous
NP. That would be such a blessing! We aren’t hoarders like half the people on DCUM. We have enough, and all of good quality. We don’t keep junk. We care for the environment and for human rights. It amazes me that people won’t spend their money on a charitable donation or for some good purpose that would actually honor the holiday season instead of fruitcake and literal “white elephant” junk. JUNK. |
Anonymous
Not OP, but I would be annoyed at having to take extra time out of already busy day to donate something when I specifically asked for no gifts. Everyone keeps saying people who don’t want gifts are the selfish ones but seems the other way around - imposing their desires on unwilling others to give crap no one wants |
Anonymous
| You are ridiculously rude, OP. And the balls on you thinking you get to dictate what other people do…just wow. |