Holiday reminder to respect a family's no gift policy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you value people who treat you well, start treating people well. A simple: “we are so happy that you want to send us gifts at the holidays. We have found that we appreciate charitable donations so much more. Please make a donation to a group you support and let us know a little more about them. This is very kind and thoughtful of you.”

Or, you graciously accept the gifts and reduce what you buy your kids. Simple solution. Instead, you say we are too good and proud for your gifts and anything you do will never be good enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you value people who treat you well, start treating people well. A simple: “we are so happy that you want to send us gifts at the holidays. We have found that we appreciate charitable donations so much more. Please make a donation to a group you support and let us know a little more about them. This is very kind and thoughtful of you.”

Or, you graciously accept the gifts and reduce what you buy your kids. Simple solution. Instead, you say we are too good and proud for your gifts and anything you do will never be good enough.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the most virtue signally thing I have ever read. I say that was a Dem.

Agreed but pretty fitting for here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a spin off from the de-cluttering thread. I value people who treat me well and have been there for me and they are the gifts. They are also the people who truly respect a 'no gift" policy. The gift is spending time with hem laughing, enjoying a good meal and creating positive memories.

Then there are the relatives who aren't particularly nice people who insist, despite requests, on giving us stuff. It's usually stuff you cannot easily donate at those bins and it is work to find someone on freecycle who wants it or a donation place that wants it. Then there is the added horror of knowing it was likely made by exploited children or poor adults in China, some of whom may be beaten into submission. I refuse to add to the environment problem by throwing it out. They throw a fit and try to create drama when you decline the gift and say, "thanks, but we don't accept gifts." When it is sent by mail it adds a whole other layer with all the waste that comes with shipping it.

Please, for the sake of all of us who care about the environment and who care about exploited workers in other countries and who don't want endless clutter, if we say "no gifts" please just respect that. You can be a gift by being kind, understanding and loving. If you have family who love gift exchanges have at it. Just please from now on if somebody says "no gifts" respect it.

Do you eat seafood? A lot of seafood is harvested and processed by slavery. Just FYI.

Also sugar. Just FYI.

[Anonymous]

Nah I’m good, I’ll gift whomever I want. I’ll leave being Scrooge up to you.

[Anonymous]

I just say how much I like food gifts: dark chocolate, nuts, tea, coffee, hard cheeses, desserts, seafood. Anyone who knows me knows this. The kids like giftcards from their favorite stores or popcornopolis. Some people love to give gifts so I happily tell them the above suggestions. If they choose something else, it might be a hit or it might be passed along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you buying gifts? Your policy is rude. Let them buy gifts and you buy nothing.

NP. No. Enough is enough. No gifts means no gifts. I have no problem literally not taking it from people’s hands. If they leave it on my doorstep after I have directly told them no gifts, I put it back on theirs. NO GIFTS, GLADYS. Times have changed.

[Anonymous]

Team OP. I hate holiday gift giving. Always get so much crap I don’t need or want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you buying gifts? Your policy is rude. Let them buy gifts and you buy nothing.

NP. No. Enough is enough. No gifts means no gifts. I have no problem literally not taking it from people’s hands. If they leave it on my doorstep after I have directly told them no gifts, I put it back on theirs. NO GIFTS, GLADYS. Times have changed.

Obviously if you and OP are having this problem times have not changed.

I would respect a no gift request though. I don't like to spend money on people who have no appreciation. Gifts don't have to be something you have to find a spot for or produced in China, Taiwan, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you buying gifts? Your policy is rude. Let them buy gifts and you buy nothing.

NP. No. Enough is enough. No gifts means no gifts. I have no problem literally not taking it from people’s hands. If they leave it on my doorstep after I have directly told them no gifts, I put it back on theirs. NO GIFTS, GLADYS. Times have changed.

You are the crazy lady in the neighborhood. No, times have not changed. That's why you keep getting gifts.

[Anonymous]

Why are the hostile PPs so insistent on giving people stuff they don’t want?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gift giving is for the giver, not the receiver. Accept the gift graciously and donate it the following week if you must.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are the hostile PPs so insistent on giving people stuff they don’t want?

Thankfully I don't know anyone crazy and selfish enough to "not want gifts". So it's not a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you value people who treat you well, start treating people well. A simple: “we are so happy that you want to send us gifts at the holidays. We have found that we appreciate charitable donations so much more. Please make a donation to a group you support and let us know a little more about them. This is very kind and thoughtful of you.”

No if someone told me that I would decline. I would rather give you nothing. I hate when people tell me how to spend my money.

I hope you get what you want..no gifts ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are the hostile PPs so insistent on giving people stuff they don’t want?

Thankfully I don't know anyone crazy and selfish enough to "not want gifts". So it's not a problem.

I don’t understand this hostility