How to hint sex drive in OLD?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore the haters, OP. I’m a lot like you, I love to travel, love adventures, I’m mid-30s but plan on adopting or fostering once my bio kids are a bit older.

It’s not crazy to want those things in men, and there are plenty of those kinds of men available. Regardless of what kind of man you want, OLD is pretty much the same, 99% of the interest you get is from people you aren’t compatible with. But there will definitely be the few who are exactly what you’re looking for, just gotta sift through the compost to find the gem.

Just make it clear on your profile what life you live - include plenty of pictures of travel and adventures, list them all, and say you’re looking for someone with a similar lifestyle. You’ll get plenty of interest.

I always like doing hikes as first dates, so I can see what they’re made of, lol.

Sure, all that's fine. It's her plan to have a kid or adopt at kid when she's around 50 that's the issue here. Even the "gems" are not likely to be up for that.

Why not?

I don’t get all the hate. Plenty of people adopt children in their 50s. Plenty of men are up for adopting children. If that’s OP’s dream, she should pursue it.

It’s certainly better to have dreams than to just give up and settle into a life of mediocrity. Some people are happy chugging along not really doing anything through life, and that’s fine. But plenty of people want more out of life and there’s no problem in going after it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: we had a very intense romance with exH, got married after a year of dating very early when I was 22. He wasn’t an “old fart” at his 36. In fact, he was very physically attractive and we had a good sex luge for the first 3 years of marriage (particular after birth when I got more curves). But then he cooled off and focused on his career. I am as much a gold digger as anyone who marries rich and successful men.

I have a very athletic adolescent son and as I was a “tiger” mom all I do in sports is basically from participating in his life and activities. I think people just don’t understand why toddlers are cranky; they are bored at home ! Toddler boys need constant switch of activities, scenery, physical activity to sleep abs eat well. My son traveled internationally at age 1; we just carried him along in a seat on our shoulders. He windsurfs since 7, bikes since 5 and so on. Traveling is fun with little kids. I have 3 female friends in their 50s who had kids later in life. One mom us 62 and she had twins at 48. She divorced her husband but having kids that late in her life was the best thing she did. She travels with her daughter, they are best friends with her son and she has tons of money to support her kids.

I do think often that people underestimate how increased life expectancy changes things. If average longevity of women who are now in their 20s would be 94 yo, why not having kids later in life? I am open to adopt, use a donor egg, or a surrogate. My projected longevity is 84-89 yo. My grandma was working till age 69 as a pharmacy director and died at 89. She did all kinds of things in between, including helping to raise 3 grandkids. What am I supposed to do for the next 50 years of my life???

If I don’t meet someone by my 50 yo I am certain to adopt.

Why are you rambling on about your athletic son? I really don’t get what that has to do with you. Did you ever have a career? It sounds like you never really made a life for yourself outside of your son and now you don’t know what to do with your time.

You do have a dating dilemma. Most men dating in their 40s are divorced with younger kids and they will likely be sharing 50/50 custody with ex. So you will only get hot sex part time, at best, and have to put up with ex wife drama. They won’t be available for all your rafting and mountain climbing either. Men with grown kids that are out of the house are going to be significantly older than you. Many have erectile dysfunction is some degree. And they are not going to want another child.

[Anonymous]

No doubt your thirst will come through in the pictures you put up. Guys can tell who is easy.

[Anonymous]

Multiple references to how great sex was right after birth? I’m extremely high drive and even I didn’t want sex when I had a newborn. I can’t imagine OP is real.

[Anonymous]

Your thread title is irrelevant, the vast majority of men who are putting themselves out there for OLD would be thrilled with a high sex drive woman.

There are two red flags:

1). Another child in your upper 40s. Setting aside the question of how this happens, you are going to dramatically shrink the pool of candidates. If you are dead-set on this, you need to be as forthcoming as possible.

2). There are tons of active types out there - that isn’t a problem. However, reading between the lines, you also expect a certain lifestyle, which may be related to wealth. That decreases the odds even further.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not having another child in your late 40s. You’re too old now.

That stood out to me too. Late 40s, wtf?!?! She wants another kid at almost 50?

This is such a troll post.

I love these gold diggers that marry for money and get an old stodgy dude and then after they pop out a kid snd get his $ they want sympathy. Who knew he’d not like to do the same things as someone 15-20 years younger or that his D wouldn’t work as well in a short amount of time after marriage???

And immediately on to baiting and switching the next one.

HA!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Multiple references to how great sex was right after birth? I’m extremely high drive and even I didn’t want sex when I had a newborn. I can’t imagine OP is real.

It wasn’t right after giving birth but in 5-6 months . I was still breastfeeding. Can’t put in here exact description but it was the sharpest O I ever had in my life after giving birth. I had a full time overnight nanny and can afford a similar childcare for my second child. If I adopt though, I would take a 3-5 yo. Looking at my mom back in her 50-60s I doubt my energy level would be significantly lower.

I have a career but work remotely on a very flexible project based schedule thus I can travel. I am extremely efficient in everything I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your thread title is irrelevant, the vast majority of men who are putting themselves out there for OLD would be thrilled with a high sex drive woman.

There are two red flags:

1). Another child in your upper 40s. Setting aside the question of how this happens, you are going to dramatically shrink the pool of candidates. If you are dead-set on this, you need to be as forthcoming as possible.

2). There are tons of active types out there - that isn’t a problem. However, reading between the lines, you also expect a certain lifestyle, which may be related to wealth. That decreases the odds even further.

OP here: I am indeed wealthy enough to afford travels but I also plan smartly (use house exchange, Airbnb’s etc) and never waste money on posh hotels or restaurants. I am low key so anyone with 200k+ income would easily “pay in” his way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re not having another child in your late 40s. You’re too old now.

That stood out to me too. Late 40s, wtf?!?! She wants another kid at almost 50?

This is such a troll post.

Age 48-- has the baby.
50--toddler getting into everything, adorable but a huge amount of work. She figures she'll farm that out to a nanny during the days, maybe?
55--second grader, wanting activities, I guess the nanny drives and OP doesn't really see the kid that much. Dad? What dad?
60--has a middle schooler
66--child is graduating from high school and starting college
66-70 -- child is in college (and OP today has no idea how much she will still be involved with, concerned about, helping out a college age kid)
70s -- OP loves her kid but might resent that she spent from 58 to 70 focused on her kid, just as she now resents spending 18 years focused on her ex-DH

That's reality but OP's post smacks of newfound freedom after a long marriage to the wrong man for her, and she's high on that freedom and not looking ahead practically.

My mom had an accidental pregnancy at 48 (dad same age) and she’s the opposite of resentful and loved adding my wonderful sister to our family.

I don’t get why people think that it’s more desirable to have 40+ years solo just getting old during retirement. What else would OP rather be focusing on? Her kayaking group and running club? You can still do those things with kids…and, in fact, having a child later in life would likely help her stay energetic as she gets older.

My parents are in their mid-70s now and still incredibly active- zip lining in Argentina, teaching at a community college, biking overnight trips- and both look and feel so much younger than their ages. I’ve witnessed it firsthand and truly believe there’s some correlation there with their good health (some studies actually back this up, at least for advanced maternal age / evolutionary need to live “long enough” to raise a child). But I know I’m obviously biased!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your thread title is irrelevant, the vast majority of men who are putting themselves out there for OLD would be thrilled with a high sex drive woman.

There are two red flags:

1). Another child in your upper 40s. Setting aside the question of how this happens, you are going to dramatically shrink the pool of candidates. If you are dead-set on this, you need to be as forthcoming as possible.

2). There are tons of active types out there - that isn’t a problem. However, reading between the lines, you also expect a certain lifestyle, which may be related to wealth. That decreases the odds even further.

OP here: I am indeed wealthy enough to afford travels but I also plan smartly (use house exchange, Airbnb’s etc) and never waste money on posh hotels or restaurants. I am low key so anyone with 200k+ income would easily “pay in” his way

Well you just have an answer for everything, don’t you?

Troll.

[Anonymous]

What is OLD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is OLD?

This thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Multiple references to how great sex was right after birth? I’m extremely high drive and even I didn’t want sex when I had a newborn. I can’t imagine OP is real.

I was ready to go literally the day after DC was born, ha. It was so hard for me to wait postpartum, I was begging for it daily. H refused at first but finally gave in at 4 weeks.

But, I did have a c section at 34 weeks, so I’m guessing my hormones were very different than if I had gone full term.

[Anonymous]

You have a better chance of hitting the lottery than finding a guy with your expectations. Good luck…

[Anonymous]

Begging for sex the day after a csection? This can’t be real. How dumb could you be?