How to hint sex drive in OLD?

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t know as soon as a man turned 50 he was feeble. Someone needs to tell those 50+ hikers, mountain climbers, white water kayakers, etc. that they’re too old…

1. A 59 year old joined the special forces a few years ago and he was near the top of his class. His son is in the same unit.
2. The oldest man to summit Everest was 80.
3. At 57 I can still go 2x a day, and OP would be "arriving" 3-5 times a night.

Do you want more kids ?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been one for those expensive pay to date matchmakers, but this feels like a situation designed for it.

[Anonymous]

The comment about having sex drive when your breasts are large…well, this is an odd post.

[Anonymous]

You know OP there was this guy on another thread: in his 50s, dated women in their 20s who had PhD’s, enjoyed sports/outdoor activities, loved women with high drive etc. I think you should find him.

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Anonymous wrote:Begging for sex the day after a csection? This can’t be real. How dumb could you be?

You have zero knowledge about female body. When V is not damaged during birth (C-section), it takes a month to recover from surgery. During breastfeeding V continues muscular spasms directed in returning to its normal size. The spasms also instigate sexual desire. If a woman is not exhausted with night wake ups and has a good help with the baby, sex drive is insane

But the day after a c-section you are still zonked on pain meds. Sex is the last thing on most women’s minds at that point.

OP here: it wasn’t right after C-section, I mentioned 4-5 months timeframe (eg when I fully healed after c-section).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude you’re already too old now for any man to want to start a family with you.

There are many 55-60 year old moms of high schoolers in my son’s school.. It’s not that uncommon for career oriented women to have kids in late 40s now. I can imagine that not all of them used a sperm bank. Not that only men can afford late birth thanks to advancement of medicine. In fact, biologically an older mother is not as bad for the baby health as older father. Women just no longer can get pregnant with their own eggs, but they can carry to full term safely up until 60 yo.

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Or it would be a 50+ man, too old to have same athletic abilities, energy etc.

I’m a 58M, squatting 350 and deadlifting 405, do a lot of hiking, biking, SUP, etc. Guess I better cut back on that since I don’t have the energy or ability, and just sit by the fire slurping my gruel. 🙄

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Or it would be a 50+ man, too old to have same athletic abilities, energy etc.

I’m a 58M, squatting 350 and deadlifting 405, do a lot of hiking, biking, SUP, etc. Guess I better cut back on that since I don’t have the energy or ability, and just sit by the fire slurping my gruel. 🙄

Ooh OP needs to join crossfit!

[Anonymous]

You’re insane to want another baby.

I am 41 and have a toddler. Parenthood has made me an anxious, depressed mess. I would love the freedom and free time to travel with friends, go hiking & skiing, go out to dinner, etc. Instead, we are chained to our home all the time trying to deal with a needy, stubborn, and high energy toddler. I mourn for my old life.

Do all the stuff you listed, but skip the baby. That’s just irrational hormones talking. You’ll be a generation older than the parents in your new baby’s classes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re insane to want another baby.

I am 41 and have a toddler. Parenthood has made me an anxious, depressed mess. I would love the freedom and free time to travel with friends, go hiking & skiing, go out to dinner, etc. Instead, we are chained to our home all the time trying to deal with a needy, stubborn, and high energy toddler. I mourn for my old life.

Do all the stuff you listed, but skip the baby. That’s just irrational hormones talking. You’ll be a generation older than the parents in your new baby’s classes.

OP here: I am a very young (on average 10 years younger) mom comparing to other moms at my son's school. Not sure why being 10 years older than other moms should scare me off. Why men are "allowed" to have kids with younger women in their 50-60s but it's not ok for a woman? Do they actually have higher energy to be equal parent, or just go along the tide with younger partners who want kids?

I am still feeling broody, sexual and want to get pregnant. I feel the same in early 40s as in my late 30s and my desire to have a second child didn't disappear out of a sudden just because I got couple years older. With so much more free time in my hands now I feel that late 40s would be a way better timing to have a second child vs my "surprise" pregnancy in 20s which got me stuck in marriage for 18 long years.

Childbirth is not a catastrophe or end of life: I do believe having kids is fun, in all ages. I love doing stuff with toddlers, mid and high schoolers. All ages are interesting. You can travel with toddlers: of course it would be impossible to do no rope rock climbing but you can do many other fun things. I would take an au-pair or living-in nanny on my trips, we did it with our son when he was a toddler and it worked out just fine. He also was cranky locked at home but loved travel, new places and being entertained. Boys are attention-challenged and need change of scenery, sports and activities to keep them busy and happy.

I truly consider children as the only valuable thing you leave after yourself on earth: nobody would ever remember your career, or a nice house or how nice of a person you had been beside your kids and grandkids.

[Anonymous]

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I am very good looking and thin but I am concerned about attracting only those who look for sex and commitment phobic men.

The quality of troll posts in DCUM has dropped to a new low.

The OP's post contains all kinds of issues. She wants a sexually giving man who loves to hike, that doesn't work too much but has enough money to take her on expensive trips.

OP - If you are hot as you believe you are, you will have no problem attracting the wealthy, very fit, older (but not too old), sexy (without sex being the center of your relationship) man you are looking for when hunting via OLD.

Other than being "very good looking and thin", what do you bring to the table?

Any man who has all the attributes you want to the degree you want them will be in top .1% of dating men. He can find everything you are adversting (and more) from someone younger. Specifically, a man like that can find someone like you were when you captured your 15 year older ExDH but without the wear of being in your mid-40s.

OP here. I didn’t bring to table at my 22 yo even a small particle of what I can bring now. I wasn’t independently wealthy, had no experience in life and business, didn’t know how to raise kids or even how to pick a proper partner. The very concept of an egalitarian marriage wouldn’t be realistic with me 20 yo me vs 40+ yo me. And I am still in great shape for any 40+ man. Hopefully not all men look for 20 year olds who would be a showcase of beauty to supplement his image and wealth.

And you made it up that I want “a man to take me on these trips”. I’ve been taking 2-3 family members with me and can easily pull of off taking 2 more FWBs in addition to keep me fully satisfied at night. It’s just not what I am looking for: I need a relationship.

OP, didn’t you post a month or so ago about how you are so rich and worried about finding a man who isn’t going to just use you for your money? I think I recognize your hubris and braggadocio.

Yup I recognize her too. Eastern European, owns lots of properties. And I'm pretty sure she's also one of the cheated-on posters who posts OBSESSIVELY on every thread about cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am very good looking and thin but I am concerned about attracting only those who look for sex and commitment phobic men.

The quality of troll posts in DCUM has dropped to a new low.

The OP's post contains all kinds of issues. She wants a sexually giving man who loves to hike, that doesn't work too much but has enough money to take her on expensive trips.

OP - If you are hot as you believe you are, you will have no problem attracting the wealthy, very fit, older (but not too old), sexy (without sex being the center of your relationship) man you are looking for when hunting via OLD.

Other than being "very good looking and thin", what do you bring to the table?

Any man who has all the attributes you want to the degree you want them will be in top .1% of dating men. He can find everything you are adversting (and more) from someone younger. Specifically, a man like that can find someone like you were when you captured your 15 year older ExDH but without the wear of being in your mid-40s.

OP here. I didn’t bring to table at my 22 yo even a small particle of what I can bring now. I wasn’t independently wealthy, had no experience in life and business, didn’t know how to raise kids or even how to pick a proper partner. The very concept of an egalitarian marriage wouldn’t be realistic with me 20 yo me vs 40+ yo me. And I am still in great shape for any 40+ man. Hopefully not all men look for 20 year olds who would be a showcase of beauty to supplement his image and wealth.

And you made it up that I want “a man to take me on these trips”. I’ve been taking 2-3 family members with me and can easily pull of off taking 2 more FWBs in addition to keep me fully satisfied at night. It’s just not what I am looking for: I need a relationship.

OP, didn’t you post a month or so ago about how you are so rich and worried about finding a man who isn’t going to just use you for your money? I think I recognize your hubris and braggadocio.

Yup I recognize her too. Eastern European, owns lots of properties. And I'm pretty sure she's also one of the cheated-on posters who posts OBSESSIVELY on every thread about cheating.

Not sure how you recognize me unless you are a moderator, I have no clue who you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re insane to want another baby.

I am 41 and have a toddler. Parenthood has made me an anxious, depressed mess. I would love the freedom and free time to travel with friends, go hiking & skiing, go out to dinner, etc. Instead, we are chained to our home all the time trying to deal with a needy, stubborn, and high energy toddler. I mourn for my old life.

Do all the stuff you listed, but skip the baby. That’s just irrational hormones talking. You’ll be a generation older than the parents in your new baby’s classes.

OP here: I am a very young (on average 10 years younger) mom comparing to other moms at my son's school. Not sure why being 10 years older than other moms should scare me off. Why men are "allowed" to have kids with younger women in their 50-60s but it's not ok for a woman? Do they actually have higher energy to be equal parent, or just go along the tide with younger partners who want kids?

I am still feeling broody, sexual and want to get pregnant. I feel the same in early 40s as in my late 30s and my desire to have a second child didn't disappear out of a sudden just because I got couple years older. With so much more free time in my hands now I feel that late 40s would be a way better timing to have a second child vs my "surprise" pregnancy in 20s which got me stuck in marriage for 18 long years.

Childbirth is not a catastrophe or end of life: I do believe having kids is fun, in all ages. I love doing stuff with toddlers, mid and high schoolers. All ages are interesting. You can travel with toddlers: of course it would be impossible to do no rope rock climbing but you can do many other fun things. I would take an au-pair or living-in nanny on my trips, we did it with our son when he was a toddler and it worked out just fine. He also was cranky locked at home but loved travel, new places and being entertained. Boys are attention-challenged and need change of scenery, sports and activities to keep them busy and happy.

I truly consider children as the only valuable thing you leave after yourself on earth: nobody would ever remember your career, or a nice house or how nice of a person you had been beside your kids and grandkids.

So you'll do IVF? IVF with donor egg and sperm isn't a terrible idea because then you'll be sure to eliminate the possibility of genetic diseases that increase with age. But still, pregnancy is MUCH riskier and taxing in your 40s than your 20s, let alone late 40s after you've likely already hit perimenopause. I guess if you have the money, go for it. Personally I would worry a lot about leaving my child without parents at a young age, but I realize that not everyone is as pessimistic as me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude you’re already too old now for any man to want to start a family with you.

There are many 55-60 year old moms of high schoolers in my son’s school.. It’s not that uncommon for career oriented women to have kids in late 40s now. I can imagine that not all of them used a sperm bank. Not that only men can afford late birth thanks to advancement of medicine. In fact, biologically an older mother is not as bad for the baby health as older father. Women just no longer can get pregnant with their own eggs, but they can carry to full term safely up until 60 yo.

Having a child at 41 or 42 is very different than at 48.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re insane to want another baby.

I am 41 and have a toddler. Parenthood has made me an anxious, depressed mess. I would love the freedom and free time to travel with friends, go hiking & skiing, go out to dinner, etc. Instead, we are chained to our home all the time trying to deal with a needy, stubborn, and high energy toddler. I mourn for my old life.

Do all the stuff you listed, but skip the baby. That’s just irrational hormones talking. You’ll be a generation older than the parents in your new baby’s classes.

OP here: I am a very young (on average 10 years younger) mom comparing to other moms at my son's school. Not sure why being 10 years older than other moms should scare me off. Why men are "allowed" to have kids with younger women in their 50-60s but it's not ok for a woman? Do they actually have higher energy to be equal parent, or just go along the tide with younger partners who want kids?

I am still feeling broody, sexual and want to get pregnant. I feel the same in early 40s as in my late 30s and my desire to have a second child didn't disappear out of a sudden just because I got couple years older. With so much more free time in my hands now I feel that late 40s would be a way better timing to have a second child vs my "surprise" pregnancy in 20s which got me stuck in marriage for 18 long years.

Childbirth is not a catastrophe or end of life: I do believe having kids is fun, in all ages. I love doing stuff with toddlers, mid and high schoolers. All ages are interesting. You can travel with toddlers: of course it would be impossible to do no rope rock climbing but you can do many other fun things. I would take an au-pair or living-in nanny on my trips, we did it with our son when he was a toddler and it worked out just fine. He also was cranky locked at home but loved travel, new places and being entertained. Boys are attention-challenged and need change of scenery, sports and activities to keep them busy and happy.

I truly consider children as the only valuable thing you leave after yourself on earth: nobody would ever remember your career, or a nice house or how nice of a person you had been beside your kids and grandkids.

You managed to cram both the blithe, oblivious privilege of having au pairs and/or live-in nannies in the very same paragraph as the casual, unthinking sexism of "boys need sports and activities to keep them busy and happy."

Why are you continuing to post here? You swooped in, did your initial post about your wonderful dreams, and keep coming back to swat away any PPs who dare to point out any flaws in your plans. You didn't come for real advice, just to paint your picture of what you want, and you clearly assume you'll get everything you want (except that elusive relationship with a man who will be there happily traveling the world with a toddler--oh, and that nanny). Not sure why you keep returning other that to point out to PPs why your wealth means you can ignore any of the advice some here are giving you. Maybe spend your time better by hopping on those OLD sites in search of the father of your future child.