Why do freshman parents hang around at drop off?

[Anonymous]

They don't. They really don't. At least not at my kids college. Not at all.

[Anonymous]

I did the drop and run with my first because I read that is what you are supposed to do. HUGE mistake and I regret it. She needed some help the first night. . For the second, # we stayed an extra day. He immersed immediately and we just spent time as a couple. He barely had five minutes to say goodbye before we left. Every kid is different, but it is better to be around just in case and make a little vacation day or 2 .

[Anonymous]

Maybe it is different when freshmen are allowed a car on campus. Between that and Amazon, my kiddo was want for nothing. Though she had her own room in the dorm, it just got crowded and we felt no need to help decorate, nor did she want our help.

We have a great relationship and love spending time together, however this was her time to leave the nest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hang on, OP. I highly suggest that you avoid reading the parent Facebook page for your child’s school. Most threads are informative, but some parents bring helicoptering to a new level.

I discovered a teen called snowplow parent which does whatever they can to push any impediment out of the way. These parents never let or want their kid to fail ever!

[Anonymous]

You do you OP + let others do them. You seem smug. A few extra hours/days does not make a difference if it makes people feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last year we dropped off my DD at an OOS school. My DH stayed back for 2 weeks to be around till DD was settled in. It was great peace of mind for us. Each kid/family is different.

I hope you're kidding. If you're not, your DH needs therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do you OP + let others do them. You seem smug. A few extra hours/days does not make a difference if it makes people feel better.

OP here. I’m trying honestly to understand why parents do it, not judging at all.

You though seem like a very small person who wants to post on a thread and name call just to make yourself feel better.

[Anonymous]

We expected to leave soon after morning move-in but roommates's parents, unexpectedly, asked that we all go have lunch together. So we did. The students had gone in blind re: roommate selection so they didn't know each other beyond some emails. It went ok. A neutral experience. Seemed like it might be more risk to the relationship, not sure in who's relationship though, in saying "no".

[Anonymous]

We sent four kids off to college. I remember being very sad when we dropped the first one off, especially when her little sister cried, but even then we didn't hang around. We were there a couple of hours, tops.

For the second drop off, we literally waved goodbye and left for vacation.

For the third and fourth I doubt we even stopped the car ha ha.

Parents nowadays are just so weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do you OP + let others do them. You seem smug. A few extra hours/days does not make a difference if it makes people feel better.

OP here. I’m trying honestly to understand why parents do it, not judging at all.

You though seem like a very small person who wants to post on a thread and name call just to make yourself feel better.

And you are a phony OP

[Anonymous]

To attend the parent orientation the college organizes.

Also to all the PPs claiming the kids will be home soon for fall break, thanksgiving… not all kids. Quarter schools don’t have a fall break. Kids who live far away and aren’t wealthy won’t come back for thanksgiving… many kids do internships in the area they go to school or elsewhere and won’t be home for summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We sent four kids off to college. I remember being very sad when we dropped the first one off, especially when her little sister cried, but even then we didn't hang around. We were there a couple of hours, tops.

For the second drop off, we literally waved goodbye and left for vacation.

For the third and fourth I doubt we even stopped the car ha ha.

Parents nowadays are just so weird.[/quote]

+1

And they actually think this is HELPING their kid. WTH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To attend the parent orientation the college organizes.

Also to all the PPs claiming the kids will be home soon for fall break, thanksgiving… not all kids. Quarter schools don’t have a fall break. Kids who live far away and aren’t wealthy won’t come back for thanksgiving… many kids do internships in the area they go to school or elsewhere and won’t be home for summer.

LOL. The "parent orientations" are set up precisely so the colleges can force the crazy parents who can't let go to separate from the kids. They're useless otherwise. We never attended any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
LOL. The "parent orientations" are set up precisely so the colleges can force the crazy parents who can't let go to separate from the kids. They're useless otherwise. We never attended any of them.

We feel the same way with the “parent weekends”. We visited on our way to a vacation on a non football weekend about six weeks after fall began. She was proud to walk us around campus and loved we bought lunch for a grateful poor kid. We also did a bit of grocery shopping. Her and her roommates were not social and barely connected. We NEVER once met their parents.

Those weekends just seem like forced fundraisers with their games and movie on the lawn. We are not football fans at all. It was quieter in town. We didn’t have to wait for a table. Much more enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hang on, OP. I highly suggest that you avoid reading the parent Facebook page for your child’s school. Most threads are informative, but some parents bring helicoptering to a new level.

I discovered a teen called snowplow parent which does whatever they can to push any impediment out of the way. These parents never let or want their kid to fail ever!

And they don't realize they are setting their kid up for failure.