This week at family beach home, pretend not to realize a nephew was supposed to graduate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And while we’re at it, OP, here’s a question for you: why is your life so empty that you fill it with Google-stalking a young man whose education you did not pay for, and whose well-being is not your responsibility? Are you estranged from your own kids or something? Get a hobby.

Anonymous wrote:This. Why are you Google-stalking someone else’s kid?

When you overshare on Facebook, you invite curiosity among family and friends. And it's natural to wonder what a college senior is up to, as far as major, graduation, internships, job offers, and where they plan to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I would just ask because you need to give a grad gift if he graduated.

Clever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And while we’re at it, OP, here’s a question for you: why is your life so empty that you fill it with Google-stalking a young man whose education you did not pay for, and whose well-being is not your responsibility? Are you estranged from your own kids or something? Get a hobby.

Anonymous wrote:This. Why are you Google-stalking someone else’s kid?

When you overshare on Facebook, you invite curiosity among family and friends. And it's natural to wonder what a college senior is up to, as far as major, graduation, internships, job offers, and where they plan to live.

If you don't know the kid's major by the time they're a senior, you're not close. I've never once, not ever thought "I should Google to find out if [kid whose parent has ever expressed pride about them online] has landed an internship or job offer." You want to know where they plan to live and you don't even know what their major is?

You sound jealous of your family members and like you're hoping things are not going well for your nephew, to serve as some kind of karmic comeuppance to his mother. If this is not how you actually feel, you need to think about how you present yourself to the world. If this is how you actually feel, you're a crap person. And regardless, you should get off social media because it is not bringing out your best self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And while we’re at it, OP, here’s a question for you: why is your life so empty that you fill it with Google-stalking a young man whose education you did not pay for, and whose well-being is not your responsibility? Are you estranged from your own kids or something? Get a hobby.

Anonymous wrote:This. Why are you Google-stalking someone else’s kid?

When you overshare on Facebook, you invite curiosity among family and friends. And it's natural to wonder what a college senior is up to, as far as major, graduation, internships, job offers, and where they plan to live.

Wondering, sure. But you took it a bit beyond that, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And while we’re at it, OP, here’s a question for you: why is your life so empty that you fill it with Google-stalking a young man whose education you did not pay for, and whose well-being is not your responsibility? Are you estranged from your own kids or something? Get a hobby.

Anonymous wrote:This. Why are you Google-stalking someone else’s kid?

When you overshare on Facebook, you invite curiosity among family and friends. And it's natural to wonder what a college senior is up to, as far as major, graduation, internships, job offers, and where they plan to live.

So the son should be made to feel awkward for the social media oversharing of his mother? Wow, you’re a gem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And while we’re at it, OP, here’s a question for you: why is your life so empty that you fill it with Google-stalking a young man whose education you did not pay for, and whose well-being is not your responsibility? Are you estranged from your own kids or something? Get a hobby.

Anonymous wrote:This. Why are you Google-stalking someone else’s kid?

When you overshare on Facebook, you invite curiosity among family and friends. And it's natural to wonder what a college senior is up to, as far as major, graduation, internships, job offers, and where they plan to live.

This is her own nephew, not some random kid. If she doesn’t know then it’s for a good reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And while we’re at it, OP, here’s a question for you: why is your life so empty that you fill it with Google-stalking a young man whose education you did not pay for, and whose well-being is not your responsibility? Are you estranged from your own kids or something? Get a hobby.

Anonymous wrote:This. Why are you Google-stalking someone else’s kid?

When you overshare on Facebook, you invite curiosity among family and friends. And it's natural to wonder what a college senior is up to, as far as major, graduation, internships, job offers, and where they plan to live.

The kid didn’t “overshare” on FB. He didn’t “invite curiosity.” His mom did.

OP is free to “wonder,” but the bottom line is that a graduation invitation means a graduation is imminent, and the lack of one means it isn’t - unless the OP’s nephew by marriage didn’t invite her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And while we’re at it, OP, here’s a question for you: why is your life so empty that you fill it with Google-stalking a young man whose education you did not pay for, and whose well-being is not your responsibility? Are you estranged from your own kids or something? Get a hobby.

Anonymous wrote:This. Why are you Google-stalking someone else’s kid?

When you overshare on Facebook, you invite curiosity among family and friends. And it's natural to wonder what a college senior is up to, as far as major, graduation, internships, job offers, and where they plan to live.

This is her own nephew, not some random kid. If she doesn’t know then it’s for a good reason.

Yep. Plus she’s some married-in not a blood relative.

[Anonymous]

Wait, you are supposed to add your college internship onto Linked In?

[Anonymous]

Oh you are a mean one OP.

Lots of kids in college were impacted by Covid closures. Many stayed home, couldn't do internships, couldn't live on campus, were put in Covid dorms without food, etc. You have no idea what is going on with your nephew nor do you care. The poor kid having to spend a week with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, just ask your nephew about his summer plans. Odds are he will fill in the gaps. And if not, at least you know something more about him than you do now!

[Anonymous]

Just ask him what he's up to these days and he will tell you what he wants to tell you. It kind of sounds like you want something to be horribly wrong, but he's probably just taking longer because of covid and scheduling delays. If I were a college kid over the last 2 years, a semester off sounds way better than being locked in my dorm taking online classes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well I would just ask because you need to give a grad gift if he graduated.

If he sends a graduation invite you send a gift. If he doesn’t send a graduation invite, he probably didn’t graduate. It’s actually easy.

I suspect this kid didn't graduate, perhaps due to the pandemic, but many schools limit the number of people who can attend a graduation. My niece graduated this year, and scrounged extra tickets so all her grandparents could attend, but none of the aunts/uncles got invites.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just have a normal conversation with him! Most normal conversations i have with people I don't see very often involve asking them what they are up to and what is going on with their lives. Then see how he answers. If he does not bring it up, I would not bring it up either.

+1 I can't imagine seeing a college-aged nephew and not asking "how's school?" He'll either tell you he's having a hard time and taking longer to graduate, or he switched majors or is double-majoring or something, or he studied abroad and didn't get all the required credits, or that he quietly graduated early and is building a company in his parents' basement.

If you care about the kid talk to the kid. If you care about embarrassing his mom for being proud of her kid on Facebook in the past, I guess you'll probably find some way to do that.

Or maybe he'll just say "it's great!" without mentioning whether he graduated? It's entirely possible, after all, that it IS great and that he hasn't graduated yet.

Your suggestion isn't helpful.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an ahole.