How irritated would you be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's 3 hours a day of driving! No way can anyone just disappear for 3 hours a day without anyone noticing at work.

+1

That's completely unreasonable. Three hours a day is a LOT. He needs to find a carpool or driver or they can't do it, and don't feel bad about it.

[Anonymous]

E honest op did you tell him summer plans were his responsibility?

And in the past when planning was yours did you run things by him first?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell him it won’t work and unenroll them — even if I lost my money on it.

They're too excited for that.

https://www.hopskipdrive.com/blog/hopskipdrive-not-uber-lyft-for-kids/. If he can afford uber kids transport and when they make friends a carpool it may be fine and a good experience. He too felt it is hard to say no to cute, excited kids. Sabotaging your career, however is NOT okay. He will have to be the one to tell them life doesn't always work out and they can't go if he can't afford transport.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. He signed them up, he needs to find a driving summer sitter to manage pick ups and the afternoons.

+1

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: E honest op did you tell him summer plans were his responsibility?

And in the past when planning was yours did you run things by him first?

I don’t know OP, but I feel pretty sure that she didn’t set up a camp that depended on him to pick up the kids during works hours without running it by him. Who does that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: E honest op did you tell him summer plans were his responsibility?

And in the past when planning was yours did you run things by him first?

He knows I might as well be an hourly employee and that I'm pretty anal about being in the house during my work hours. And yes, I always run things by him, whether it's for scheduling or financial reasons.

To everyone else: camp is one week. Like I said, I am PRETTY sure I can get away with it. Just not 100%, and I have a lot of anxiety around getting fired (I've got a good gig here and few other prospects as a trailing spouse).

[Anonymous]

I would be livid. Does he have any consciousness of having dumped a burden on you without asking you first?

[Anonymous]

Summer starts in like 6 weeks…. What is your current childcare/camp plan for while you are working from home? He probably thought he was doing s good thing if you don’t have s plan yet, I’d cut him some slack and try to figure out with him a drop off plan and find a sitter to pick up and hang with them til 5 when you get off.

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Anonymous wrote:His choice. His problem.

He takes time off or he pays someone to do drop off/pick up.

Full stop.

This. It’s not your problem. “It doesn’t work with my schedule, sorry. Hopefully you can flex your hours that week or find a sitter to help with driving.” That’s all he needs to know.

+1 He needs to learn that he shouldn't commit you to something without discussing it first. I doubt he'll learn that lesson unless he experiences some inconvenience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. Does he have any consciousness of having dumped a burden on you without asking you first?

Not really.

[Anonymous]

What? It’s just one week? That’s nothing. Split up the week and each of you take some leave to account for the driving time. I’d be mad he didn’t check with me first, but the driving itself is really not a big deal, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Summer starts in like 6 weeks…. What is your current childcare/camp plan for while you are working from home? He probably thought he was doing s good thing if you don’t have s plan yet, I’d cut him some slack and try to figure out with him a drop off plan and find a sitter to pick up and hang with them til 5 when you get off.

They get 8 weeks of watching TV and reading and playing outside. We no longer live in DC and children's opportunities are limited (as are babysitters). It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? It’s just one week? That’s nothing. Split up the week and each of you take some leave to account for the driving time. I’d be mad he didn’t check with me first, but the driving itself is really not a big deal, OP.

He's not able to do any of the driving. There's no splitting. It's all on me. I am personally not allowed to charge under 8 hours of vacation time a day, so yeah, that would be five days gone just like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's 3 hours a day of driving! No way can anyone just disappear for 3 hours a day without anyone noticing at work.

It’s 1.5 hours each day which is a lot, but it’s not 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him it won’t work and unenroll them — even if I lost my money on it.

They're too excited for that.

So?