How irritated would you be?
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Anonymous
| Without running it by me, DH signed up our two DC's for a STEM day camp this summer. It runs 9-2, which conflicts with my work hours of 8-5. He is unable to drop off or pick up and doesn't see it as an issue since I work from home. Here's the problem, though: it's a 45 minute round trip each way, and yes, while there's only a 60-70% chance someone will notice I'm missing, I'm not sure how much grief I'll get if someone (read: manager) notices. I'm pretty irritated. Am I overreacting? |
Anonymous
| I would tell him it won’t work and unenroll them — even if I lost my money on it. |
Anonymous
| Nope. He signed them up, he needs to find a driving summer sitter to manage pick ups and the afternoons. |
Anonymous
They're too excited for that. |
Anonymous
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Not overreacting. If you can't take the time away from work each day, you can't. DH signed them up, he can figure out transportation or cancel the registration.
If you really like the idea of the camp, you could try to compromise: you drop off and he picks up (or vice versa), or find someplace near the camp to with during the day for 2-3 days and let him handle the other 2-3. But this should not be an obligation. If you're not into it, don't get mad, just simply tell him that you can't do it, end of story. If you bend over backwards for this, your DH will only get the message that it's ok, regardless of what you say. |
Anonymous
He told the kids before he told you? And he can't handle transportation? Yeah, I'd be furious. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| This is an unfunded mandate and would get a hard no from me. |
Anonymous
| Does he do this a lot? My husband and I would never sign our kids up without working out the logistics. Together. What the heck. Your DH is an ass. |
Anonymous
| He is on the hook to find a babysitter. What an idiot. |
Anonymous
| Very. Completely disrespectful, especially since he already told the kids and they are excited about it, thus making you the bad guy if you say no. I’d ask him to arrange transportation, whether through himself, carpooling, or paying someone. |
Anonymous
| Pick 2-3 days where you can make it work for the kids’ sake, then tell him he can use his leave for all you care. He made this mess alone, he gets to clean it up alone. |
Anonymous
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I'd be pissed.
Can you find an older teen to drive them? Uber one way? Don't know how old your kids are or how much you can afford. That's what I'd do with mine. |
Anonymous
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His choice. His problem.
He takes time off or he pays someone to do drop off/pick up. Full stop. |
Anonymous
| Yep. Tell him you have a standing meeting from 2-3 or 1:30-3:30 that conflicts with pick up. He needs to find a solution |