People keep spelling and pronouncing my name wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I find it interesting how the tone of this thread changed when I said I was white.

What? Nobody cares what race you are lol.

I think you have an ego problem.

[Anonymous]

I get it OP. People constantly transpose two letters in my name, despite it being right there in front of their eyes in multiple places.

I do not correct people over email, that seems a bit more confrontational that needed. I do correct in person / on the phone with the first 1-2 offenses, but then I give up.

It bothers me every time. It definitely influenced what I named my kids.

[Anonymous]

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Please tell me I'm overreacting. Because today it's made me feel so unimportant and unseen.

OP - you need to remind yourself daily that you are important. You need to see yourself.

If you can, try to untangle the thought that mispronunciation means you are not seen because it is not serving you at all.

When people try to call you a nickname, you can ask them to call you by your birth name. I don't like my legal name and go by a shortened version; I always correct people because I hate my legal name.

Some people are not conscientious but it is not a reflection of you.

Be kind to yourself. You matter. Thanks for starting this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

It's basic manners. You call a person by their preferred name. It's who they are. Using whatever variation pops into your head is rude and dismissive.

^^we found the woke viewer. 'preferred' name. Let me guess, you're in your 20s/early 30s?

No, I'm in my 40s. Preferred name is correct. If a Jennifer wants to be a Jenny, then that's her preferred name. Stop trying to fight when there isn't one.

The same could be said from the opposite point of view. Stop trying to fight when there isn't one - people usually mean well and aren't trying to piss 'Jennifer' off by calling her Jenny. Most people don't mean to mispronounce, misspell, etc. I have two friends and a SIL who have the name 'Reina' - every single one of them pronounces it differently. I see them all the time, yet still, find a way to pronounce their name the wrong way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I often have this problem. What I don't understand is that my name is right on your screen when you are responding to my email, why is it so complicated?

OP here. What really bothers me is that I work for a large, multinational company and frequently email people from different countries with non-English names. I go out of my way to make sure I have the spelling and honorific correct, but my American colleagues can't even bother to get Sara vs. Sarah correct? Most of them are otherwise friendly and speak well of me, so I don't understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. People constantly transpose two letters in my name, despite it being right there in front of their eyes in multiple places.

I do not correct people over email, that seems a bit more confrontational that needed. I do correct in person / on the phone with the first 1-2 offenses, but then I give up.

It bothers me every time. It definitely influenced what I named my kids.

Y'all need to have real problems in life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. People constantly transpose two letters in my name, despite it being right there in front of their eyes in multiple places.

I do not correct people over email, that seems a bit more confrontational that needed. I do correct in person / on the phone with the first 1-2 offenses, but then I give up.

It bothers me every time. It definitely influenced what I named my kids.

Y'all need to have real problems in life.

OP here. I do have real problems, which is why I'd prefer if my colleagues wouldn't add emotional paper cuts to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

It's basic manners. You call a person by their preferred name. It's who they are. Using whatever variation pops into your head is rude and dismissive.

^^we found the woke viewer. 'preferred' name. Let me guess, you're in your 20s/early 30s?

No, I'm in my 40s. Preferred name is correct. If a Jennifer wants to be a Jenny, then that's her preferred name. Stop trying to fight when there isn't one.

The same could be said from the opposite point of view. Stop trying to fight when there isn't one - people usually mean well and aren't trying to piss 'Jennifer' off by calling her Jenny. Most people don't mean to mispronounce, misspell, etc. I have two friends and a SIL who have the name 'Reina' - every single one of them pronounces it differently. I see them all the time, yet still, find a way to pronounce their name the wrong way.

When it's right there in the email address?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. People constantly transpose two letters in my name, despite it being right there in front of their eyes in multiple places.

I do not correct people over email, that seems a bit more confrontational that needed. I do correct in person / on the phone with the first 1-2 offenses, but then I give up.

It bothers me every time. It definitely influenced what I named my kids.

Y'all need to have real problems in life.

OP here. I do have real problems, which is why I'd prefer if my colleagues wouldn't add emotional paper cuts to them.

Then it's time for therapy if this gets your goose.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I often have this problem. What I don't understand is that my name is right on your screen when you are responding to my email, why is it so complicated?

OP here. What really bothers me is that I work for a large, multinational company and frequently email people from different countries with non-English names. I go out of my way to make sure I have the spelling and honorific correct, but my American colleagues can't even bother to get Sara vs. Sarah correct? Most of them are otherwise friendly and speak well of me, so I don't understand.

Talk therapy will help you work through your problems. If you were happy about other stuff, this wouldn't bother you so much.

[Anonymous]

I deal with this too - common name, unusual spelling - and I personally don’t care when people mess it up BUT I think it’s totally valid to be mad/annoyed about it. I too find it hard to understand how someone messes it up when it’s right there in email, but what I’ve realized is that some people just aren’t detail oriented. For example if I read a document and it mentions dates and they are stylized as 9/14 and September 17, 2022 and September 23rd it drives me nuts that they are not all the same format in the same document. However some people read right over that and don’t see it. I think it’s the same with names that have multiple common spellings eg Sara/Sarah

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. People constantly transpose two letters in my name, despite it being right there in front of their eyes in multiple places.

I do not correct people over email, that seems a bit more confrontational that needed. I do correct in person / on the phone with the first 1-2 offenses, but then I give up.

It bothers me every time. It definitely influenced what I named my kids.

Y'all need to have real problems in life.

OP here. I do have real problems, which is why I'd prefer if my colleagues wouldn't add emotional paper cuts to them.

Then it's time for therapy if this gets your goose.

You're clearly missing the entire point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I often have this problem. What I don't understand is that my name is right on your screen when you are responding to my email, why is it so complicated?

OP here. What really bothers me is that I work for a large, multinational company and frequently email people from different countries with non-English names. I go out of my way to make sure I have the spelling and honorific correct, but my American colleagues can't even bother to get Sara vs. Sarah correct? Most of them are otherwise friendly and speak well of me, so I don't understand.

Talk therapy will help you work through your problems. If you were happy about other stuff, this wouldn't bother you so much.

Oh, just go away, OP's awful coworker. And maybe pay more attention to details.

[Anonymous]

OP, sounds like you have personal issues you need to work on. I say this seriously. You sound like you have internal issues and self esteem issues to work on. This forum is going to be mean to you. You are better off seeing a therapist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. People constantly transpose two letters in my name, despite it being right there in front of their eyes in multiple places.

I do not correct people over email, that seems a bit more confrontational that needed. I do correct in person / on the phone with the first 1-2 offenses, but then I give up.

It bothers me every time. It definitely influenced what I named my kids.

Y'all need to have real problems in life.

OP here. I do have real problems, which is why I'd prefer if my colleagues wouldn't add emotional paper cuts to them.

Then it's time for therapy if this gets your goose.

You're clearly missing the entire point.

She described this problem as adding 'emotional paper cuts' to her problems. That's a little dramatic... or requiring therapy.