People keep spelling and pronouncing my name wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think these could be micro aggressions directed at you, OP?

Are you BIPOC?

No, literally a boring middle aged white woman. And honestly, part of the reason I let it go on so long is that a few (but not all, by any means) of the culprits speak English as a second language. But their English is otherwise perfect, so...

I honestly don't know what's causing it.

[Anonymous]

Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Christina, and I don't mind if someone writes "Cristina", but I will correct them if they use a K, Christine, or shorten it to Chris/Chrissy/Christy.

I've really only had one person who pushed back when I asked her not to call me Chris. She is a Jennifer and said, well I don't mind when people call me Jen. Okay. But Chris is not my name. It was slightly awkward, but she said would try.

Ugh. Yes. The nicknames are not my name, and it's weirdly intimate to create your own for a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

Found the selfish person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the name?

I would just correct people with a smile. “Actually I go by Elizabeth not Beth.”

Not really wanting to out myself, but it literally is very boring and easy to spell (and pronounce!)

Sarah/Sara?

No, but exactly like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

It's basic manners. You call a person by their preferred name. It's who they are. Using whatever variation pops into your head is rude and dismissive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

+1. I have a very popular name (now) although it wasn't popular at all while growing up. People always mispronounce, misspell... it's no big deal. I just laugh it off when someone realizes it.
People also like to shorten my name, give me nicknames - I see the positive in it. That they find me approachable enough to do so. I've noticed on DCUM that people get upset over this, too.

There are so many other things to get worked up over.

[Anonymous]

stupid hippies, can't stand them making up the fake names, also reminds me of frekonomics

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

It's basic manners. You call a person by their preferred name. It's who they are. Using whatever variation pops into your head is rude and dismissive.

^^we found the woke viewer. 'preferred' name. Let me guess, you're in your 20s/early 30s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

+1. I have a very popular name (now) although it wasn't popular at all while growing up. People always mispronounce, misspell... it's no big deal. I just laugh it off when someone realizes it.
People also like to shorten my name, give me nicknames - I see the positive in it. That they find me approachable enough to do so. I've noticed on DCUM that people get upset over this, too.

There are so many other things to get worked up over.

+2
Same here. My name is not typical and people get it wrong. But I simply correct them and just move on. It’s not something I’m going to lose sleep over or get angry about. It’s not like people do it on purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

It's basic manners. You call a person by their preferred name. It's who they are. Using whatever variation pops into your head is rude and dismissive.

^^we found the woke viewer. 'preferred' name. Let me guess, you're in your 20s/early 30s?

Preferred name was a poor choice of words. It's literally OP's legal name that she wants to be called.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

+1. I have a very popular name (now) although it wasn't popular at all while growing up. People always mispronounce, misspell... it's no big deal. I just laugh it off when someone realizes it.
People also like to shorten my name, give me nicknames - I see the positive in it. That they find me approachable enough to do so. I've noticed on DCUM that people get upset over this, too.

There are so many other things to get worked up over.

It's overly intimate and seriously presumptuous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg who cares? Get over yourself.

It's basic manners. You call a person by their preferred name. It's who they are. Using whatever variation pops into your head is rude and dismissive.

^^we found the woke viewer. 'preferred' name. Let me guess, you're in your 20s/early 30s?

No, I'm in my 40s. Preferred name is correct. If a Jennifer wants to be a Jenny, then that's her preferred name. Stop trying to fight when there isn't one.

[Anonymous]

OP here - I find it interesting how the tone of this thread changed when I said I was white.

[Anonymous]

I often have this problem. What I don't understand is that my name is right on your screen when you are responding to my email, why is it so complicated?