Girlfriend hygiene budget?

[Anonymous]

Your girlfriend sounds like a loser. A freaking child. Why do you want to date someone who is essentially a child unable to care for herself. What's wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Way to bury the lede.

Do you think she may be over-using the products because of her OCD? Like is she washing herself multiple times a day?

Buying all that stuff twice a month is beyond just being wasteful. My kids are wasteful and a bottle of wash still lasts us a few weeks. The only explanations is she’s OCD and washing herself over and over, or she’s returning them for cash to buy cigarettes and weed.

Either way the smoking alone would make me break up with someone, that’s so gross. I made my H quit weed before I’d move in with him.

+1.

[Anonymous]

She’s OCD and washing herself multiple times a day.

It’s not weird for women to spend $200/month on beauty products. We use au pairs for childcare, and about half of them spend that much. The thing is, it’s mostly perfumes and makeup. What’s weird is to spend so much on what’s basically multiple variations of soap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

She sounds like a complete loser. Why are you with her?

[Anonymous]

QTips are very expensive and tampons are an easy throw away. You should tell her that is a nice to have, not a need to have.

[Anonymous]

No way buying those essentials twice a month. What rinky sink size shampoo is this. Send her to target to buy larger sizes, generic.

What’s her job track btw. Is she a student or working towards some credential or is she topped out with her low income/career? Not impressive if you can’t buy your own Suave shampoo.

[Anonymous]

Take her to SSA to sign up for SNAP and welfare. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Way to bury the lede.

Do you think she may be over-using the products because of her OCD? Like is she washing herself multiple times a day?

Buying all that stuff twice a month is beyond just being wasteful. My kids are wasteful and a bottle of wash still lasts us a few weeks. The only explanations is she’s OCD and washing herself over and over, or she’s returning them for cash to buy cigarettes and weed.

Either way the smoking alone would make me break up with someone, that’s so gross. I made my H quit weed before I’d move in with him.

+1.

Do an intervention in her recreational drug addiction, lack of job and mental disorders with her parents and then Exit stage left.

Don’t tank your own life with this basket case. And don’t get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Your girlfriend does not get her period every two weeks. That was your worst tell.

She could if she has gyn issues. I experienced that.

If she has actual medical issues leading to her getting her period every two weeks and OP wants to break up over buying her tampons, then he really is an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Landry ever day is for living in Japan with a family of 4.

Stop this madness now. Your electricity bill is going to thank you too.

Next year find out why you are attracted to such damaged, needy people and change that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Your girlfriend does not get her period every two weeks. That was your worst tell.

She could if she has gyn issues. I experienced that.

If she has actual medical issues leading to her getting her period every two weeks and OP wants to break up over buying her tampons, then he really is an asshole.

He has about 5 BIG reasons to break up with her.

If he was my bud he’d already be gone. He is going down big time if he stays, especially if she tethers a child with him for decades to come.

[Anonymous]

For me:

Menstrual cups-- buy two, which last several years
Cup wash--lasts 3 months or more
Body wash-- lasts 4-6 weeks
Shampoo-- lasts 4 weeks
Conditioner- lasts 2-3 weeks
Shaving gel--lasts about a month
Face wash-- lasts 4-6 weeks
Facial moisturizer and serums-- last 2 months
Body lotion-- lasts 2 months
Baby wipes-- one pack lasts 8+ weeks. I use these to clean up makeup mistakes
Deodorant-- lasts 3-4 weeks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:QTips are very expensive and tampons are an easy throw away. You should tell her that is a nice to have, not a need to have.

Tampons aren’t essential?! Wtf is she supposed to use instead? Rags?

This whole thread is bizarre. These sound like normal items but weird to be buying them so often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

OP look into enabling. If your GF doesn't have the money to cover her own basic necessities, but still spends on weed/cigs/alcohol ... you are enabling her, not helping her.

[Anonymous]

I have never seen or used the word “hygiene” as much as it’s used on DCUM.