Girlfriend hygiene budget?

[Anonymous]

My wife spends a lot of money on that stuff too. She probably spend likes $200 a month on hygiene and skincare. Then another $300 every 6 months on natural makeup that she says is better for skin because it’s from fruit and not chemicals. Why are you paying for it if she isn’t your wife? My wife paid for herself when we were dating.

[Anonymous]

The amount depends on your income. It is a normal amount to me but the products are odd. I buy shampoo/conditioner maybe every three months. Tampons are once a month. Q-tips are maybe once a year. Body lotion is maybe every two months. Body wash every 2 months maybe. I also wear make-up which I include that amount- face moisturizer, sunscreen, primer, foundation, powder, blush, eye shadows,eye liners, etc. I don’t wear all of that every day and some are replaced more often than others- face moisturizer v eye liner. I think it’s weird that you are buying. What does she do when she doesn’t have a boyfriend? Maybe she is stocking up for a future without you?

[Anonymous]

The odd thing is that you are buying this stuff for her. I still shop for and buy my own (unless communal for family) and I’m married for 20 years.

I think in my twenties I may have used the V wash until I learned that it’s actually bad for you down there, especially the scented stuff. If she’s buying wipes too it may be that she’s extra fastidious in that area but if she starts to get infections from it her gynecologist will educate her. I have no idea what the spray is - perfume? Deodorant? Anyway, I’m going to reiterate that you are buying her hygiene stuff, tampons, etc., especially when you’re dating. I imagine she’s buying her own makeup, face cream, hair stuff, etc.?

Just ask her to buy her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The odd thing is that you are buying this stuff for her. I still shop for and buy my own (unless communal for family) and I’m married for 20 years.

I think in my twenties I may have used the V wash until I learned that it’s actually bad for you down there, especially the scented stuff. If she’s buying wipes too it may be that she’s extra fastidious in that area but if she starts to get infections from it her gynecologist will educate her. I have no idea what the spray is - perfume? Deodorant? Anyway, I’m going to reiterate that you are buying her hygiene stuff, tampons, etc., especially when you’re dating. I imagine she’s buying her own makeup, face cream, hair stuff, etc.?

Just ask her to buy her own.

^ I’m going to reiterate that it’s *odd* that you are buying stuff

[Anonymous]

Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

[Anonymous]

If this is really an issue in your relationship you have bigger issues.

This would just be a whatever in my mind. I would get the stuff and not even think twice about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Way to bury the lede.

Do you think she may be over-using the products because of her OCD? Like is she washing herself multiple times a day?

Buying all that stuff twice a month is beyond just being wasteful. My kids are wasteful and a bottle of wash still lasts us a few weeks. The only explanations is she’s OCD and washing herself over and over, or she’s returning them for cash to buy cigarettes and weed.

Either way the smoking alone would make me break up with someone, that’s so gross. I made my H quit weed before I’d move in with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Your girlfriend does not get her period every two weeks. That was your worst tell.

[Anonymous]

Your list makes no sense.

Do you wear clothes? Do you have ears? Than your “detergent” and “qtip” items are not your girlfriend’s, they are your household.

I spend more than that on actual personal items every month because many of mine are much more expensive that what your girlfriend is apparently using. I also don’t use “feminine wash and spray” which suggests to me there are other poor habits at work here OR that you’re yet another incel troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 32 and my girlfriend is 28. This question is mostly for women? My girlfriend texted me a list of things to buy before coming home:

Feminine wash, spray Are companies still allowed to manufacture and sell this stuff??
tampons
baby wipes She a messy pooper?? I hope she doesn't flush these
qtip That's a lot of q-tips unless you are buying the 10-pack of qtips. Usually a regular sized box of qtips lasts your average person 1 year or two
body wash she lets you pick out her body wash?
lotion same. She lets you pick this out???
detergent To wash clothes? How much laundry does she generate???? we have a household of 4 and we only buy detergent every few months
shampoo and hair mousse I love me some hair products, but two bottles of shampoo a month, and two bottles of mousse a month is excessive

$86 and change. I just checked my bank statement and I noticed that Twice a month, I get the list from my girlfriend for the same products. Is this normal for a woman to spend on personal hygiene? Yes, that could be a normal amount. But not on those products. Except for the tampons.
Please educate me before I break up with her. [b]why? You live with her.

[Anonymous]

The reality is your GF needs to step up and get a better job and pay for her own stuff. And really why are you putting up with the smoking and weed. Just tell her it’s time to move out.

As for all that product. Go to Costco. But one big jug of shampoo and one big jug of conditioner and a big box of lever 2000. Ok done. Now she can was for months

But really your dating a user and looser and you probably already know that.

[Anonymous]

The weed and smoking would be problematic. I couldn’t live with a smoker.

[Anonymous]

And if you’re so casually talking about “dumping” her over this (and it seems to be bothering you more than the smoking) then perhaps it’s not a strong enough relationship for you to be living together. Is she in treatment for the OCD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosmetics/creams definitely add up…they can be very expensive but your GF’s list is a bit weird. Is she changing shampoo brands each time, maybe? Or just buying a small box of q-tips? Some people get their cycles every three weeks.
But you shouldn’t be buying them for her if you’re not married and combining finances.

OP here,

We live together but she doesn't make a lot, so I just pay most of the time. She seemed ashamed of the money issues and I am trying to help her but she also has bad habits that needs work. Cigarettes and weed is out of hand for example, plus she does suffer from OCD, the laundry is always running and etc

Your girlfriend does not get her period every two weeks. That was your worst tell.

She could if she has gyn issues. I experienced that.